To think alot of women don't have their 'girl gang'?

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Doom scrolling through social media, got me thinking, do most women have a 'girl gang'? Or is this saved for those who remained in the place they grew up/got lucky/other reasons or dissipates as you get older?

I have I handful of close women friends I've made along the way, none remain from school. But they are separate friends so to speak, no 'girl gang' and I think I only know one or two other females who have this type of friendship group (I'm 40). Sometimes wish I had it and other times happy as I am.

What are your experiences?

I am incredibly lucky to have that (though would I fuck ever call it a 'girl gang'), a group of 5 of us who have been friends since school/college. We are each others family, one lives in Oz, the rest spread across the UK but we remain very connected. I also have another best friend for 8 years who I am super close with and our families are very close and connected. I know how lucky I am with my friendships.

I’m lucky enough to have a lot of friends, both women and me, but they are mostly quite separate from each other. I’m close to lots of women at work and we sometimes go out as a group. My two best friends are both men and they have both moved away (5 hrs and 7 hrs by train). My happiest ‘friend’ times are when I go and visit them and we go out just the two of us and catch up.

I have 3 close friends who I met at boarding school who were, & still are, my 'girl gang', we all meet up with one or 2 of the group at least once a year but as we all live in different parts of the country we can't usually coordinate a meetup with all 4 of us.

We've always been there for each other on the phone when needed though & we rally round whenever one of us is having a tough time, it's a great, wholesome friendship group which I feel very lucky to have.

There's a big wedding next year so we'll be together as a quartet for the first time in 15 years & we'll take up where we left off, just all of us a bit older.

Nope. And it makes my heart ache with loneliness when I hear other women talk about their group of 'girlfriends'.

I struggle to maintain friendships and know the issue is mine. But I always thought I'd find my gang at some point in my life but at almost 50 I have to accept that ship has sailed.

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Same as you, OP. Various female friends scattered around the country, none especially close friends. I've never had a 'girl gang' as an adult. Or before that, really. At school I had mainly a best friend. At university most of my friends were blokes.

Im in a walking group. Its def hard in your 50s. Today I took dog out and lunch alone as husb at match. Some days its crap on your own. I reach out to a school mam last year same primary. She was super keen to keep in touch. Now no replies. Ive def lost my faith in friends a bit. 😐

Have/had a girl gang of 7. This has eroded over time. Having children, moving house or country, unsettled what was once a very strong friendship cycle. Friends within the circle have formed into smaller circles depending on ages of kids, work patterns, location and interests. I think it’s hard to maintain a girl gang in the truest sense when you have so many other priorities/responsibilities/pulls at 40+. I still could and would share any of life’s sadness or joy with them all, but probably not at the pace we did when we were 20.

Yeah

SATC has a lot to answer for

Before DD and earlier in marriage I had a couple of friends some small groups and some individually.

Lots of time has passed and unfortunately I had a handful of toxic relationships and chose to let go of them.

These days I have casual acquaintances at work and hardly socialise.

My core gang is DD and DH.

I tried but the dynamics never suited me at all. I have individual friends all of whom don’t really know each other. I really struggled in groups where I’d know two people first then they’d get on better and sort if “sneak” around behind my back, doing play dates and girls days out etc always without me. Much happier to be out of the bitchy school dynamics now with a far nicer group of women. I do sort of wonder if I’m missing out/something is wrong with me etc!

I don't think I do really. I have friendship groups but they include men. There are three women nearby I go out for dinner with but I'd never describe them as my girl gang!

No I don’t and I’m really pleased you created this post as I sometimes feel like a weirdo. Not that it is please understand I just feel I’m the only one. I really noticed it in lockdown when everyone was having group zoom calls etc. I also don’t really have a clear ‘best friend’ any more as my lifelong bestie went along the conspiracy route about 3 years ago and wrecked my mental health. I have my oldest friend from school who is a good friend but we don’t meet up much anymore and don’t have a lot in common. I’ve got the work friend and she is a lovely friend, friends from when dd went to nursery, they’re the parents of one her good friends there, my newer friend who does organise get togethers with her closest friends but we’re not friends with each other outside of that. And I’m friends with DH bf wife. Then loads of people I am acquaintances with.

Oh and I’m in a book club with 3 women. We were a bigger group but some tailed off and we do consider ourselves good friends who meet up once a month. That’s probably the closest thing I have to it

I thankfully have a girl gang[well there is one "honourary" man].
Originally there was just myself and my friend.
I got married. Had a family.She didnt. She then naturally made a few other friends,
I meet up with them all from time to time.We are all still one group. I am not naturally as sociable as the others anyway. It doesnt seem to matter.

No girl gang but totally wish I had 😞

Friends from different stages of life except school (it was all boarding so we didn't live close enough to see each other in holidays). No overlap so no "gang". I think for the older generation of women keeping in touch was very much harder if you moved for work or family - no msm, internet etc - unless you really wanted to and clearly I didn't. Have a few good friends and a sibling and very happy thank you.

No, I don’t.
I don’t really have any groups of friends, most of my friendships are individual or couple ones.

Yes I have this (we don't call ourselves a girl gang though). Seven friends from school, we don't live in the town we grew up in anymore but several of us have settled in a new area so we see eachother a lot and the others are a bit less frequent but still solid.

This enduring group of friends (35 years and going strong!) is one of the very best things in my life, I am so happy and proud to be part of it and well aware of how massively lucky I am to have met them.

I am lucky to have a girl gang. There are 7 of us. Four of us meet up very regularly, the 7 of us about 6 times a year. We go on holiday together. You have to put the effort in to maintain friendships, this is something I’ve learnt as I’ve got older. I couldn’t manage without my friends. My partner died 7 years ago, and they’ve got me through it.

I've got loads of friends, but mostly individual friends who don't know each other, from many different walks of life.
It doesn't bother me that much. I don't really have a 'need' for a big girl group.

Might seem soppy but my DH is my best friend, and frankly men can be easier to get along with, I've found.

No. Twenty years ago I did, we had some good times and I was more fun back then. We all lost touch over the years, a couple of them became a bit bitchy, I was a total workaholic in my 20s, so didn't foster friendships the way I should have. There was always pressure to do something usually alcohol related, go somewhere and it cost money. The upside being laughs and an outlet. I had children at different ages to everyone I knew and I noticed when I got married things changed. It would be nice but I don't think it's going to happen. I've become so used to being just me on my own. God that sounds so tragic 😂

Nope. I have a few female friends from here and there and we have a few families that are full family friends we go away with for weekends and a few couple friends. DHs close male friends from school slightly overlap with the “family friends” but only a little.

I don't have a 'girl gang' I have a friendship group. Girl gang seems such a strange term

We've been friends since school, still talk every day 12 years on and meet up together for occasions. We have young kids around the same age too. We've had plenty of moments through the years of fall outs and what not but still friends at the end of the day

I find it strange the ones who belittle having a friendship group just because they don't have one. Nothing wrong with having a 'girl gang' and nothing wrong with not having one either. It shows a lot when people claim all friend groups to be fake when they know nothing of them in reality

I don’t have a group like that at all. I have a couple of friends from uni I see very occasionally and that’s it. I moved around a lot when younger and it was hard to keep in touch with everyone. I find it really hard to talk to school mums. I do however have a mum, sister and aunt that I can call on for help and support so maybe they are my gang really!