Would you be offended if your Bil picked you up?

[Stressedjustthinkingaboutit]

If you were flying to visit your sister on your own with your kids to another country. Would you be offended if her other half came to pick you up at the airport and drop you at your hotel?
Reason being, it’s at night and your sister is doing bedtime with their dc, would this bother you? Or would you expect your sister to be the one to come?
They will see each other the next morning

of course not! I'd be so delighted to be picked up and taken to the hotel, I wouldn't care if it was Bigfoot.

Not at all. You’re all family.

On what planet. Maybe the kids prefer her, maybe she doesn’t like driving at night. Who knows. But they decided what was best, not you.

Not unless the BIL is a particularly offensive person. I can't believe anyone would be bothered by this.

From airport to house = maaaybe
From airport to a hotel = just be grateful to get a lift

@Jf20

but it’s one night! Most kids prefer their mums to put them to bed but it’s one night! same with driving at night. If you’re having a guest over you have to accept that not everything can be the same and the usual norm has to be tweaked a bit

Nope not at all.

Huh? I'd just be so grateful for the lift tbh.

Yep. I thought 'this can't be real' when I saw the thread title and maybe OP meant that he physically picked her up and carried her.
I wouldn't 'expect' to be picked up at all - it would be a nice bonus.

Having read all your updates OP I really don't think your sister will be offended, especially if your DH has picked her up from the airport when she has visited before

It's a nice gesture on BIL's part. I'm pretty sure my DH has collected/dropped off my parents to the airport over the years. It's a non issue. Be grateful someone came.

Having visited relatives a few times internationally. I would be very grateful for a lift as we have had a few times had to get a taxi. After getting off an eight hour flight you really want to get to your destination as quickly as possible.

Hell no would be delighted to be given the lift and understand the sister is probably at home with the children. If they have an issue get a taxi.

WTF?

I would have been so hurt by that.

I'd just be happy someone was picking me up.

Yes, agree. Why can't the sister do the airport pick up?

Why would anyone be offended at that?

the OP has listed the reasons it's better for her husband to do it, why would anyone make problems when there's a perfectly obvious option?

What?! Are you serious? I would just be delighted, relieved and extremely grateful to be picked up.

Presumably your husband & sister get on well enough for the journey not to be awkward?

Is she staying with you?

I'd probably think it a bit odd if you were in bed if so.

No. I'd be perfectly happy with that knowing the other stressors for my sister. If it's late I'd be happy to get to my hotel, sleep and see the family the following morning.

Sorry, just looked back & seen that she will be at a hotel.

I'm sure she'll be glad of the lift & happy to just settle after the journey!

Not at all, I'd think it was nice of him. For a second I thought from the title you meant literally picked you up off the floor

My BIL is like a brother to me so I'd be delighted

I'd think it was lovely of him and be grateful for the lift.