To think this is rude?

[anxiousmumy]

Discussing my wedding with a hairdresser who is highlighting my hair, When I realise she knows a friend of mine who will be my maid of honour.
When I tell her said friend is my maid of honour, she says oh, you're brave. I'd make her wear a bag when she stands next to you.

Now friend IS stunning and I'm very much not, but it stung a little.
Am I being a snowflake or is this rude?

If your friend is unusually attractive, take it as a comment on that rather than on you. Don’t go back to that hairdressers - a good beauty worker knows their job is to make clients feel lovely, so if you left feeling shitty, she’s not done a good job.

I'd find someone else to do my hair if I was in that situation. Incredibly rude, and you don't want to be feeling like that on the approach to your wedding. If she's not confident enough of her skills to make you look and feel beautiful on your wedding day she should just say that instead of trying to bring you down!

I agree with this, find another hairdresser.

Also I bet your future spouse thinks you are gorgeous and that’s what matters.

Not just rude, it's fucking rude.

Just wow. What a dumb and rude thing to say

I don’t believe for a second you are ugly. Just in your words you sound so sweet and lovely, and have the love of your life marrying you who knows how lucky they are.

I don’t care what your face looks like, your beauty is shining through just by a MN post.

Clearly your hairdresser is shallow.

Indeed.

Imagine say your bestie was Taylor swift. She's definitely get more attention at a wedding thsn you from sone guests (and she is of course happy to be a demur bridesmaid in the past)

I don't like this thing around weddings that you the bride will suddenly be this stunning person. I would hope I would look a nice version of me but no one expects or says grooms look stunning and beautiful on their wedding days - usually clean and shaved is all that is expected there!

If I am generally a 5 then my partner loves me as a 5 and so do my friends and family.

www.brides.com/gallery/celebrity-bridesmaids-pictures

Taylor swift as bridesmaid.

I doubt it was anything to do with your looks being inferior, just that the other lady is extremely attractive. She is basically saying she's jealous of your friend's looks. In a very crass way. I'd avoid using her again. It could get awkward if you have a friend in common. I stopped using my hairdresser when I slagged off my boss to her, and it transpired she was his girlfriend!

Sometimes in life we come across nasty people. Thank goodness you don't have to see her again!

@anxiousmumy I initially gasped and thought what an awful person. Giving the benefit of the doubt I think she probably was just saying how stunning your friend is and also implying she herself would make her wear a bag so it wasn't directed at you so much. It's tactless really. I will never forget my hairdresser insulting my hair piece, at the time I looked at them as super trendy and felt quite upset about it, doubting myself .... Well, the suggestions of a more edgy hair piece actually would've dated badly and I look back at my more subtle hair piece and know it was the perfect choice x

She is your MOH- your aren't fellow pageant contestants competing so very odd if your hairdresser to comment (like why?- who cares about her opinion?!)