To think this is rude?

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Discussing my wedding with a hairdresser who is highlighting my hair, When I realise she knows a friend of mine who will be my maid of honour.
When I tell her said friend is my maid of honour, she says oh, you're brave. I'd make her wear a bag when she stands next to you.

Now friend IS stunning and I'm very much not, but it stung a little.
Am I being a snowflake or is this rude?

That was my first thought as well 😂

I'd take it as a joke. Maybe because it was about your wedding your being a little over sensitive.
When I got married I joked I'd have to mess my bridesmaids up lol.

Aww op! That's really shitty of her! Please don't let it affect you and please don't say you are ugly! I don't know you obviously but I do believe everyone is imperfectly perfect in there own way. No one can be you, like you can! It's your wedding, ditch the hairdresser and shine like the beautiful star I have no doubt you are!

Hmmmm its more of a comment on the beauty of the other person not necessairly rude to you, but pretty stupid on her part.

Get another hairdresser...

She's not talking about you she's talking about how stunning your friend is x

NO! I’m certain you aren’t ugly at all, but you maybe lack confidence. To your husband to be, you are the most beautiful person in the world! Would he be marrying you if he didn’t think that? Sack the hairdresser off! You will look amazing in your day & all eyes will be on you! Take
some time to work on yourself & your confidence prior to the wedding, don’t let an airheads stupid comment affect it x

I would take that as she’s abit jealous of your friends looks and her (hairdressers) insecurities
Enjoy your day

I don't know you but I'm sure you're not ugly.

I'm also sure the hairdresser wasn't implying you were ugly. She'll have meant that your friend is stunning.

I had the same. My best friend was my chief bridesmaid. Honestly, she did look more beautiful than me, she couldn't help it! But I didn't care. I had a fabulous day and felt very lovely. I really hope you do too.

Don't give hairdresser a second thought. It was clumsy and tactless but not meant to be rude.

I don’t want any bridesmaids at my wedding but have several close friends that asked me to be theirs. Is it rude not to return the ‘favour’ and ask them? I feel like when you’re mid 30’s it seems a bit childish but completely appreciate others feel differently.

Had a birthday last month (not a special one) and didn’t receive a card or present from my eldest child who left home 2 years ago. The relationship is good, I did receive a message wishing me a happy birthday but I felt quite hurt by this and I’m wondering how others would feel? If it makes any difference I always make sure I send cards / presents in advance to all my family so they have them to open on their actual birthday - I suspect they will bring mine at some point but to me it feels kind of pointless after the date. I saw them a few days before my birthday so some slight planning would have avoided this and I doubt money is an issue.

So rude. I’d never go back and make sure I told anyone else who asked about her that she’s horrible. There’s no excuse for that kind of comment but ESPECIALLY when you do a personal services or aesthetic job, as I do, it’s disgracefully unprofessional. It’s a big part of our job to make people feel welcome, comfortable and confident in themselves.

Very rude

Exactly my thoughts.

Shes said something completely innocent and because of your insecurity you’ve made it way more than it was.

at worst it was a daft comment

Anybody can be ugly if that is their point of view about you or themselves. Same with beauty and I bet to your partner you will be the most stunning person in the from on your wedding day!

Your hairdresser has no situational awareness! She has lost personal skills from her days filled with idle gossip and wouldn’t know a happy radiant bride if she landed in her “chair” by the sounds of it.

Yes your friend may be beautiful. But you are beautiful too xx

It was rude, but in reality probably just a thoughtless comment.
She might internally have wanted the floor to open up after she said it. I think everyone at some point have said things that afterwards they realise have come out wrong.

Shes just saying how beautiful your friend is shes talking about her not you

She was clumsy bit i Don't think it was meant nastily

This is so true, I have never once looked at a photo of a wedding and admired the bridesmaids mroe than the bride.

This is really rude and unnecessary but at the same time I don't think they meant harm, I think they were just saying a throe away comment to praise your friends looks but not intent to bash yours if you get me. Your going to look beautiful on your day regardless and there's someone who she will stand next to who will need to wear a bag next to her to not outshine her the world is full of beautiful women and your one of them X

This. She probably said it without thinking and then realised afterwards how clumsy it would have sounded. I don't think it's rude at all, unless you found her rude throughout the whole appointment. People are so sensitive nowadays.

You are on the wrong thread.

She sounds unhappy inside and jealous.

YANBU- she was being mean.

Haha! What a dumb thing to say! I'm sure she was joking though.

I disagree that she's calling you ugly. Saying your friend is stunning, doesn't make everyone outside if that category, "ugly".

The hairdresser would feel insecure with your friend as her bridesmaid, she is more likely poking fun at herself with her joke and just didn't think it through.

I think you’re being a snowflake. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with acknowledging someone is highly attractive.

ETA I don’t think she was calling you ugly. She was saying your MoH is an absolute stunner. That’s not the same thing. You can still be a 9, but if she’s a 10 then she’s more attractive.

That's horribly rude. I would find a different wedding hairdresser.

If your friend is stunning Id say she was just being honest. As an adult you should probably take it without being upset and not paranoid that it was a dig at you but an acknowledgement of how attractive your friend is. Or would you rather she lied? Sounds a bit teenage to get upset over something when you know the truth of it.