To think this is rude?

[anxiousmumy]

Discussing my wedding with a hairdresser who is highlighting my hair, When I realise she knows a friend of mine who will be my maid of honour.
When I tell her said friend is my maid of honour, she says oh, you're brave. I'd make her wear a bag when she stands next to you.

Now friend IS stunning and I'm very much not, but it stung a little.
Am I being a snowflake or is this rude?

Errr yes she is!

I don’t know how to delete it! 😂

But you are and will be pretty. Noone is truly ugly or pretty, yes there are different levels of attractiveness but the "ugly" one will still have pretty eye/lips/hair/PERSONALITY and the pretyy one will have a "fault" too . The "pretty" girl will have her own insecurities about her appearance, just because the outside world sees her as pretty doesn't mean she will see that in herself. Hairdresser is obviously insecure in her own looks to make a comment like that.

I agree

It's rude but I've never seen anyone outshine a bride yet, you will look amazing.

Sounds like she was trying to be complimentary to your moh but it did sound like a rude comparison. Its worth noting, everyone is stunning to someone 😊

Really rude thing to say!

It might be that she has often thought this person is beautiful and might have said the same to 90% of women. But don't know. It is a bit off and I'd be a bit hurt but maybe assume clumsy rather than intentionally rude.

That was rude and tactless of her OP

It's a joke on how stunning your friend is. I would have just laughed.

Don't ever call yourself ugly!!! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and your future husband sees your beauty.

You will be the prettiest woman on your special day and your maid of honour will be horrified if you told her someone said this to you.

She's a cheeky fucker and I would have said something, even a "jokey" well thanks that's nice of you!!!!

Don't let one comment play on your mind and spoil your wedding prep, keep enjoying this amazing run up to your wedding I hope you have an absolutely amazing wedding and wonderful marriage

No one is ugly, unless they are ugly on the inside.
To not be fickle or jealous to even think about not having a good looking made of honour shows your character, which I am sure makes you beautiful.
The hairdresser may have being bitchy or it may simply have been a clumsy way of expressing how SHE(the hairdresser) wouldn’t have the confidence to have someone stand next to her (ie the hairdresser was expressing a lack of confidence in her OWN looks.) Who knows.
Im sorry she hurt you. You will have a beautiful day surrounded by people who see your beautiful self: your maid of honour, and your partner.
Have the best day.

No, that’s out of order! I’d change salon and I’d tell her why. And I’m pretty shy irl. That’s terrible!

I think this is the case that it's been more meant to point out that your friend is beautiful without meaning it to be a criticism of you at all. However it was tactless. If its only a trial I'd be tempted to go elsewhere . I'm sure you'll look amazing on your big day!

Or was she saying she'd make her wear a bag as in a paper bag over her head? Meaning she's not all that?

You should’ve said I look even uglier now with this stupid hairdo (even if you loved it 😂) and refused to pay

She was prob trying to be funny but I’d be a bit upset as well and woujj lol don’t go back to her

My maid of honour was really beautiful and I never felt upstaged by her. Just here to reassure that even plain ladies look beautiful on their wedding day. Very silly comment from hair dresser!
Pics for evidence

Unbelievably rude. What a horrible thing to say - and she should know better being in a service based job.
So sorry she said this
I would not be having her do your hair ever again

Yeh thats really rude!!! I'd be sacking her as my hairdresser I think! What insensitive thing to say. I am sure you will look beautiful.

its extremely rude. I would of said so as well

My jaw dropped. Wow, rude!

Bl00d¥ rude and insensitive.
But ignore it, you will be the star of the show and your husband to be chose YOU . And your beautiful friend also chose YOU !

I would have thought it was rude. Tactless, probably clumsy yes, but still rude. You feel
how you feel.

If you don’t want the hairdresser anymore I would say that’s fair and most importantly, up to you. Honestly, you don’t need any kind of negative energy on the day. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

I think it was clumsy. She probably meant to highlight how stunning your friend is rather than what you look like.