To be irritated by Asda card woman?

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At our local Asda there is a woman who hangs around the cards - she’s ALWAYS there. She doesn’t seem to do much other than tidy up the shelves and bother customers. She wears a badge that’s says volunteer.

Anyway whenever you go down the cards aisle she will come over and ask if you need any help. No matter what your answer is, she will ask who you’re buying for and start pulling out cards that you might like.

I personally like to shop in peace. If I’m buying a card, I know the person I’m buying for and I know what kind of thing they’ll like.?having this woman pushing various cards into me is a distraction and an annoyance. Has anyone ever heard of these volunteers at Asda? Is it some kind of scheme? She’s been there well over a year. My heart sinks everytime I need a card and I see her stood there as she just won’t leave people alone.

and yeah I know people will say shop for cards elsewhere but I shouldn’t have to!

Someone should run through them with OP too.

Did you bother to read the OP's post at all? Or any of the others pointing out that OP has said 'No thanks', to no avail? No, because you and others like you just want to come onto the thread to swipe at the OP whilst posting something irrelevant and condescending to make.a.point.

Along with OffToBedfordshire who tells her delightful colleague the same thing 10 times as if that is some sort of industry gold standard. It's patronising and reductive. People with SEN who are in the workplace need to be supported and guided into the roles they're placed in, with feedback and mentoring so that they are doing what's needed and not just paid lip-service to.

It's difficult to believe that some posters have any actual experience, never mind professionally.

How many cards do you have to buy that you would be there regularly or long enough for it to really be an issue? No wonder you’re so time poor if you need to be in the card aisles all the time!

Use the internet then.

Your whole post reeks of ableism and tbh I think you should take a long look in the mirror. It takes, what, 2 mins to be kind to someone and treat them with basic respect and dignity.

I’m wondering if I am reading a different thread to everyone else. At no point has the OP ever said that she is not polite to the volunteer. I suspect that she is polite - which is why the volunteer ignores her when she says she doesn’t need any help.

@CruCru she's said she's irritated and I suspect she shows that irritation!

Whether OP did or not, some people WILL show irritation if they're not left alone when they've asked to be. Which is why the shop is failing this volunteer.

If you take on people with some kind of learning or social need, they need to be supported in a way that helps them, rather than which puts them in a position where costumers get frustrated with them.

The question is, how does she show her irritation? She can’t be particularly rude or the card woman would leave her alone. If she shows her irritation by saying “No thank you, I don’t need any help” a few times then leaving without buying anything, I wouldn’t consider that rude or unkind.

Who knows? Maybe the volunteer when she's shoes her irritation, try's even harder to please her?

So, when the OP says “No thank you, I don’t need any help” the volunteer tries harder to please her by ignoring her and carrying on waving cards under her nose? I think that’s a bit of a stretch. The way the OP worded it makes me think that the volunteer isn’t trying harder or less hard to please - she wants to find people cards and doesn’t listen when they don’t want her help.

I don’t expect the OP to come back but, in her position, I’d shop in a different supermarket altogether so I can buy cards if I need to.

@CruCru good idea! Go elsewhere, problem solved.

I wonder if OP has thought of that 🤔