Sitting baby on edge of bridge

[Oscar5]

It’s my first time posting here. I’m curious to know, would people be okay with their partner sitting a baby on the hand rail of a very high up bridge (whilst holding onto them)? I’ve attached a photo of the bridge - it is a massive drop from it so if DS slipped, it would definitely be the end of him (a thought that obviously frightens the life out me). My husband thinks I’m being unreasonable and overreacting to him doing this with our 9 month old as he says he’d never drop him. I don’t think I’m otherwise overprotective of DS, but felt this was an unnecessary risk!

AIBU?
YABU - it’s perfectly fine because he was holding on tightly.
YANBU - it’s a risk we shouldn’t take.

Thanks for your opinions :)

I think if you asked him not to that was a fair request. It wouldn’t bother me personally but I would understand your worry

Omg I could never trust him again! He has put your son is SUCH danger! I can't believe you're even asking to be honest, I'm in shock!
Your child is not safe alone with this man

That's how children used to end up in animal enclosures at the zoo.

It would bother me, people often do it with their toddlers on the sea defence when crabbing their lack of risk assessment always shocks me.

Why on earth take the risk?

(That said, a nurse I know looked after a baby who fell four storeys and was basically fine!)

Old Sarum?

I'd probably pick them up and let them look over but with their bodies on the safe side of the rail iyswim.

That's Old Sarum. The rails are much wider than that picture suggests and it isn't hundreds of feet down to the ground as some posters could be led to believe from the post.

Are you married to Michael Jackson?

YANBU I wouldn't let him do this

If it upsets and bothers you then DP shouldn’t do it. It’s also an unnecessary risk , what does he expect a 9 month old to gain from it. Adults sneeze, babies wriggle so stupid thing to do in my opinion.

As a healthcare professional, accidents are what happen when people believe it couldn’t happen. Take no risks with your darling child, and have nothing to do with influencing other less vigilant folk to risk theirs 🙌

You need to ask?

Keep your baby safe. Tell your DH to stop being a prat and keep them safe too.

No one thinks it will happen to them until it does.

Google fall baby from cruise window and show him what happened when a grand father sat his 18 months grand child on the window sill.

He too thought he was losing the child tightly. A tragic event that is just not worth risking.

Ridiculous. I thought of Michael Jackson dangling his baby as well and he thought it was funny.

When i see people do that, it makes me so anngry - are they thick? A bable/toddler could easily slip out of ones hands or the person holding the bay/etc could have a funny spell

It makes me so angry how ignorant d=some people are jsut as angry when I see fools/clowns march up to the kerb with pushchair in front of them and push it just over the kerb in front of speeding vehicles.

Decades later, I still go cold at the memory of dh holding dd1 at only about 15 months - on the edge of a very high barrier to an enclosure of tigers! (Zoo not in the U.K.). Dd was very excited, shouting ‘Dagoos! Dagoos!’ - and one tiger was looking up, evidently hoping for this succulent morsel to be dropped into its mouth….

Ok that’s a massive overreaction!

The Grandfather with the baby on the cruise ship was my first thought too.

YANBU. He’s being incredibly foolish.

It's an unnecessary risk that would stress me out. Accidents happen.

No chance

There was a parent who did this with a toddler in Leicester not so long ago. It did not end well.

I hate this, and kids being close to the edge of water. It’s so easy NOT to do, why you’d actively choose that risk I have no idea. They’re in enough danger all the time when they’re that small without adults going out of their way to cause more. Even a small fall could be really dangerous for a baby if they landed on their head. Not worth it.

My gym overlooks the sea front here and I often see parents allowing their small children to walk along the sea wall. This happens when the sea is rough and crashing over the wall - the child could easily be swept over OR simply slip. Even when the tide is out the drop below - on to massive rocks - would almost certainly result in death.

I find myself baffled by this.

Dear God no!

I might sound boring but another thing that makes me feel physically sick is when I see men carrying toddlers/very young children up on their shoulders.
I just think of the devastating consequences if they tripped.

Why do they feel the need to d this? 🤬

Oh look at me the cool fun dad with my kid on top of the world. Yeah now look at your kid broken on the floor if you trip or something. Fucking idiots🙄

Babies and young children can suddenly start wriggling like mad so personally I wouldn't sit them on the hand rail.

I also can't see the point as unless your husband is a short arse, the baby can be held securely in his arms without having to Lea over to admire the view or be sat on the hand rail.

If he persists arrange for a well built man to meet your husband on the bridge, grab him and hold him and make him sit on the handrail.