Sitting baby on edge of bridge

[Oscar5]

It’s my first time posting here. I’m curious to know, would people be okay with their partner sitting a baby on the hand rail of a very high up bridge (whilst holding onto them)? I’ve attached a photo of the bridge - it is a massive drop from it so if DS slipped, it would definitely be the end of him (a thought that obviously frightens the life out me). My husband thinks I’m being unreasonable and overreacting to him doing this with our 9 month old as he says he’d never drop him. I don’t think I’m otherwise overprotective of DS, but felt this was an unnecessary risk!

AIBU?
YABU - it’s perfectly fine because he was holding on tightly.
YANBU - it’s a risk we shouldn’t take.

Thanks for your opinions :)

Oh thanks for putting that thought in my head😂 I never used one so don't know what they're like but I'm imagining all scenarios now🤯

Riding on your dad's shoulders is epic!

Initially, I said you are not unreasonable. Your husband sounds a knob if he just ignores how you feel.

However, it really isn’t hundreds of feet, the handrail is wide and it’s very grassy. We used to run up and down that hill long before they ever had a bridge.

100% this

Sounds like a prat. Why take the risk?

Forst thing that came to mind when I read this.

This. Sums it up perfectly 👌

I've never dropped or felt like I was going to drop even the wriggliest of my babies so I can see why I he'd feel comfortable doing it. My DH would never though, he hates heights.

That's one of the reasons I didn't use a sling - I was scared of this sort of thing.

I did eventually just have to get used to using a baby carrier on my back when they were able to sit in it. That was because we lived in London and most of the tube and buses were far more accessible to me that way than they were with the pram. The tube in particular had far fewer lifts back then than it has now, so the carrier did help. I was always very nervous and hyper aware though, and glad when the journey was over without incident (I never had an incident, but it was always at the back of my mind).

Just fucking no, he's a fucking moron.

It’s just putting your child at risk for no benefit. Idiot man.

In my experience men don’t seem to have the same sense of risk assessment as women. Even on YouTube it’s mostly men on the videos doing jackass type idiotic things.

This would be the end of the relationship for me. Supervised access only, on the grounds that he is willing to take unreasonable risks with the child's life.

Yanbu and honestly I'd hit the roof if my dh even suggested it! It's fucking stupid and dangerous, we're supposed to keep our babies and kids safe, not put them in situations that could be very dangerous very quickly.

I wouldn’t do it but I was expecting a photo of the Humber bridge or similar. I wouldn’t risk a drop from any height but I’ve seen higher bridges over fishponds 😂

I'd ask him to weigh potential benefits against potential risks, however slim he thinks either would be. A baby isn't going to appreciate the view any better while sitting on the edge of a bridge compared to being held snugly against your chest (away from the edge). I couldn't live with myself if I'd done something so unnecessary and the unthinkable happened. All it would take is a stumble... Why risk it?

Ultimately, even if he thinks it would never happen, he should respect your feelings and use an abundance of caution. I'd want to give him a massive pinch for his lack of concern (after we were safely off the bridge and he no longer held the baby)!

That was my first thought. Unbelievably tragic.

From your first photo I'd have said "he's a fucking idiot" but I had a google based on some other responses, and it seems it's nowhere near as high as it looks in your post.

While I wouldn't do it, I can kind of see why he did. It's not as high or dangerous as you're making it out to be.

Oh look at me the cool fun dad with my kid on top of the world. Yeah now look at your kid broken on the floor if you trip or something. Fucking idiots🙄

Probably not much different to carrying a baby/toddler in the parent's arms or in their back.
Or a baby in a sling/carrier and parent falling forward on top of the baby, etc.

There is a difference between holding a baby over a huge drop rather than at arms or shoulder height. Very little difference between falling from arm height to shoulder height I would suspect for most people.

The bridge may not be particularly tall, but I wouldn't advise holding a baby on a window ledge, and this looks roughly as high up as that... You don't have to fall far for it to be very dangerous, even deadly. Especially in the case of a baby.

YANBU it is an utterly stupid and reckless thing to do.

Oh god, just reading the thread title sent a wave of dread through me!! I would never, ever, ever do this

Oh my good god. This is why men never get full custody.

My exh used to do stupid shit like this, yes ex husband

I’m terrified of heights, so when we went to Paris dh went up Notre Dame. He came back white as a sheet as A, at that time the rail was not very high and B, small children were leaning over it. Then a bloke with a baby at the rail looking over the edge. My hands are sweating just remembering it.