Sitting baby on edge of bridge

[Oscar5]

It’s my first time posting here. I’m curious to know, would people be okay with their partner sitting a baby on the hand rail of a very high up bridge (whilst holding onto them)? I’ve attached a photo of the bridge - it is a massive drop from it so if DS slipped, it would definitely be the end of him (a thought that obviously frightens the life out me). My husband thinks I’m being unreasonable and overreacting to him doing this with our 9 month old as he says he’d never drop him. I don’t think I’m otherwise overprotective of DS, but felt this was an unnecessary risk!

AIBU?
YABU - it’s perfectly fine because he was holding on tightly.
YANBU - it’s a risk we shouldn’t take.

Thanks for your opinions :)

Why take the risk? In Leicester there’s still a toddler missing 8 weeks after a family walk by the river.

It’s so common. My fucking moronic uncle did this with my niece when she was maybe 2 or 3, and she was swept in. Thank goodness she was recovered safely but it was only good luck that she was.
I wouldn’t sit a baby on a railing on a bridge like that, no. Seems an unnecessary risk to me and generally I’m quite easy going… I carry my toddler son on my shoulders sometimes for example 🙃

Devilsmommy so pleased it's not just me.

I wish stupid actions like this - and holding little ones anywhere from a height - was made a criminal offence.

The risk is immense. The culprits are playing Russian roulette with a child's life FFS.

@DrJoanAllenby This is a great idea! 😂

He isn’t short, so baby could definitely see over it!

Never ever

Thanks everyone for your replies!

Yes, it’s Old Sarum. As @NeverDropYourMooncup says, I don’t think it is 100s of feet. It is a big drop though and he sat the baby on the rail with their legs dangling over the edge and was surprised that I was so worried about this. This is a different angle of it (it’s difficult to find a good photo to show how deep it goes).

Accidents happen because people think it will never happen to them. Then it does and you spend the rest of your life regretting that second of stupid decision.

Theres never any need to put babies at risk, no matter how tiny it may seem.

I’m a seriously chilled parent even when mine were tiny I wouldn’t worry about the things other parents seemed to.

But fuck no - one aggressive wriggle and you’ve lost them. Really poor move on his part

My son was hurt in an accident while in my care. I still struggle with the guilt many many years on even though people have told me it was unavoidable.
I don’t know why people take such risks, perhaps stupidity or maybe they secretly want something to happen.

What happens if the handrail is corroded and suddenly breaks? What happens if your partner has a heart attack or a stroke or a sudden muscle cramp? Or somebody bumps into him. Unusual events sure but not infinitesimal odds. That's not even considering that a nine month old baby can be quite heavy and wriggly. I mean what benefit was there from sitting the child on the handrail - the view would have been the same a few feet back?

That would make me feel utterly sick.

Absolutely not

Very tragically, the family of one of my son's school friends lost their 18 month old when she wriggled and fell into the river and drowned

It's making me feel sick just looking at that and imagining my baby in that scenario

Who the fuck voted for yabu? The morons who take stupid risks with their young dc and shoulder carrying dads I guess.

Absolutely no!! That's moronic

The child could easily wriggle out of the parent's grip and fall to their death. I would find it hard to trust him again if he refused to see what the issue was.

URGHhhhh that's the stuff of nightmares.

Oh just the thought of it OP!

Does he see your child as a fellow human he is supposed to look after? Or is he so detached he just doesn't care and sees them as an object?

Just send him a link to the stories about the little boy still missing in Leicester and the grandfather on the cruise ship, they should change his mind.

It’s a low risk probably, but still a stupid unnecessary risk where the level of harm and consequences could be very serious. Why would any thinking, caring parent choose that? Stupidity and recklessness.

This has honestly made my blood run cold at the thought of this and I’m a pretty laid back parent. Not a chance on this earth would my partner do this to our DD either. What the heck was going through his mind?!

But I have a feeling even showing him this thread would not make 1 blind bit of difference to your other half OP, all of us that have said no will all be wrong still and he will be right and we are all too up tight. I’m not too sure what it would take for him to realise that he shouldn’t be doing something like that but the other worry is although he wouldn’t intentionally hurt your DS, if he does something like this with him again it can all so wrong in a split second…….

Jesus just looking at those pics makes me shudder!!

I would prob do something like this, for a minute or two. It's easier to hold them sitting like that than in your arms. But if you ask him not to, he should stop. My back would be put up if someone scolded me for it and said I should never be alone with my child but I hadn't heard of these tragic cases referenced on this thread but now I have I probably won't do it anymore.

So try to explain to him calmly why you don't like it and want him not to do it again and hopefully he won't! It's not a lost cause!

Maybe if men had to grow babies for 9 months they'd be more careful with them.

Or a mum with baby in a sling trips and falls forward?

No no no no no no no no

I'm going to have intrusive thoughts about this now 😭

100% hell fucking no!!