DD angry at mature student for inappropriate email

[KeepCalmPlease]

NC just in case.
Daughter is angry this eve as a mature student on her course has mistakenly replied all to the class, instead of just her lecturer. In the email, apparently they brag about finishing their assigned work early, and then flirt about a shared hobby with lecturer. Daughter wants to bring this up formally with the institution along with other friends of hers. I haven't seen the email so I'm not sure what "flirting" is but I suspect the mature student, being older, just shares a hobby with lecturer (and likes being teachers pet).
My advice to her is just ignore the mistake, keep your head down and make sure your own work is done. AIBU?

I'm not sure why DD is so exasperated by this. I'm sure many emails fly about all day in academia.

Exactly this 😂Even IF a mature student is shagging the professor. And in the (very unlikely event) they get marked higher than they should... So what?! Doesn't make any difference to anyone else! It's not like you're ranked in order from best to worst student 😂

Update. Mature student has sent another reply all message (!) apologising for the "tone" of her last email. I'm guessing the lecturer asked her to possibly. DD seems satisfied and is back to her essay.

1. it must be tricky for the mature student in terms of like minded peers and they may feel closer aligned to the tutor

2)why is your daughter threatened by a relationship between two people that has nothing to do with her? I'd be curious about this.

3. Has she experienced a situation before where she can't trust someone's professionalism. It sounds like a few assumptive leaps on her part.

I think I speak on behalf of all of MN (and indeed all students and lecturers at the Uni) when I say thank god your DD is satisfied by this outcome. I dread to think what would have happened had she not deemed it acceptable 😂

Well that’s a relief that your daughter is satisfied. Phew.

Who died and put her in charge. Goodness me!

You beat me to it!

As long as OP's DD is "satisfied", then all is right with the world and we can sleep safely in our beds tonight.

I'm celebrating with a chocolate twist

Phew. I’m another one relieved that DD is satisfied, whatever would we do if she remained disgruntled? I don’t even want to think about it.

Am I the only one

a) wishing the DD had actually made a complaint, and got her arse handed to her on a plate garnished with parsley, and possibly with a sprinkling of croutons?

or
b) wondering if the frenetic "whatsapping" has cause umpteen idiots to actually make a complaint (while the DD, having kicked off the furore has stood back and watched the ensuing carnage) and they have all been laughed out of court, but the mature student has learned a vital life lesson about the "reply all" button and has sent a "calmyourtits" e-mail to reduce the wrath o' the student body?

PHEW!! Dds in her righteous heaven, alls right with the world.
Now remind her that really she still does need to chastise the mature student... (as she is self appointed leader)
A few months of the WhatsApp cool kids shunning them they'll know their place...

😂😂
Nope. The lecturer won't have asked her to do this. They aren't the students boss!!

IF such an email has been sent it probably because either the student in question is self aware enough as to how her email may have been perceived or someone has given her the heads up that she's being slagged off by the other students.

I'm so incredibly glad to be out of teaching.

I don't have mature students on my programme, but I do of course become friendly with some students over the course of their studies. I wouldn't take it any further than friendly chat in class until they graduated as a closer friendship than that doesn't feel appropriate. It's not a pupil/teacher relationship, but it's not colleagues either.

I think she needs to calm down and gain a sense of proportion here. Unless the email's content is clearly inappropriate and from the tutor meant to go to only a particular student, then what is going to be done about it? OK, someone might have a quiet word with the student who sent it, but it's probably best your daughter lets it go.

Agree.

Mature student has probably had a lot of "Is this for me?" e-mails, and thought "Oh. bollox! I know what this lot are like - They don't like anyone being pally with the tutors . Better pour a drop of oil on troubled waters"

The DD sounds very entitled but thank God she is "satisfied".

This.

If the email was really bad, the lecturer may have addressed the tone with the student. I work in a business school and we expect our students to communicate with us in a professional way. I have told students that the tone of their emails is inappropriate, and wanted to do so countless other times.

If the email was obviously flirty, the lecturer may have wanted any gossip stamped on for their own sake.

And they wonder why people don't want to go into teaching! 😆

Dreaming spires, huh? Oxford's standards of maturity in their accepted candidates must have slipped.

I'd remind your DD that one day she might be in a position where she accidently writes an email and ccs it to people she shouldn't. Most people have done something along these lines. Ask her how she thinks she would like to be judged in a similar situation.

My old boss gave me a pearl of wisdom once, never write down anything you aren't prepared for the whole world to see. It's stood me in good stead during my career.

Am I the only one

a) wishing the DD had actually made a complaint, and got her arse handed to her on a plate

No, you're definitely not the only one!😂

Thank fuck the princess is satisfied. Whatever would we do?

Goodness gracious me. I was late to the party on this one. So relieved to see the update that DD is satisfied with the outcome of the situation.
I wouldn't have been able to sleep otherwise.