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Is it me? A parking/ boundary one

157 replies

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 19:56

Ok,I live at the end house of a cul de sac.
I have a big drive.
I obviously have to drive over my neighbours drive to access my property.
For context my drive/ front garden can happily house 5 cars which it does as I have a car, my DH has a van and my boys both have a car.
Which we park on our drive,
Saturday I weeded my front garden.
Reversed my car to overhang the neighbours property by 2 foot
Her car is on her drive 15 foot away so in no way does it impact her access.
She called the police...
They actually came round!
Wtaf?
Yeah they were suitably embarrassed as I sent them away as they obviously knew she is crackers 😂
Hope the photo works 🫰

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rubylovexx · 08/04/2024 22:06

SoupDragon · 08/04/2024 21:59

I can't believe anyone genuinely thinks calling the police is a sane response to a known neighbour parking a couple of feet over a driveway whilst gardening.

It may be that the said neighbour has had words before about the parking, and OP thinks she has the right to park over her neighbours drive thus hindering her exit.
The neighbour probably had no other choice but to call the police.
OP sounds like she's "entitled" to do what she wants without a thought of the said neighbour.

Londonrach1 · 08/04/2024 22:07

You shouldn't ever ever park over your neighbours land unless they asked you too. Don't understand why you driving over their driveway. Is it right of access or just the road in front.

obeseandfedup · 08/04/2024 22:10

Hoppinggreen · 08/04/2024 20:37

Nope, I dont get it

Neither do I

It looks like you just drive on a shared access road past her driveway not on her driveway which looks fenced off?

TheHorneSection · 08/04/2024 22:23

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 21:36

I have to to access my house?

Yes, but why, obviously, do you have to go over her drive? What weird kind of set up do do you have where her drive is covering the front of yours? I live in a cul de sac, we don’t have to drive over everyone’s drive!

Zyq · 08/04/2024 22:25

Cosycover · 08/04/2024 20:22

Presumably the OP has moved her car to weed where it would usually be parked.

It's really not difficult to understand is it?

This place is so fucking annoying sometimes.

The neighbours acted ridiculously here.

I get that. But I don't get why that meant she had to park on her neighbour's drive. Why not park in the road?

TimeForTeaAndG · 08/04/2024 22:30

Was genuinely expecting a big mansion style new-build driveway on a fancy cul-de-sac. Not a terrace road opposite a bit of grass 😆😆😆😆

I don't think the OP knows how long a foot is, never mind twenty of them!

Zyq · 08/04/2024 22:30

On reflection I think - but I'm really not sure - that issue here may simply be OP's use of prepositions. When she said she obviously has to drive over her neighbours' drive, she means she has to drive past it. And when she says her car was overhanging her neighbour's property, she doesn't mean it was on her neighbour's property, it was in the road partly overhanging the front.

If that's correct, OP, it would really help if you could confirm it. If it isn't, it would definitely help if you could explain further.

Freshstarts249 · 08/04/2024 22:34

Most confusing thread I’ve ever read

olympicsrock · 08/04/2024 22:36

Draw a diagram OP . Thems the rules

shootingstar1 · 08/04/2024 22:40

I personally believe that the neighbour has massively overreacted here. If you were blocking her drive she could have spoken to you rather than waste police time . Sounds as if it was only a one off while you were doing some weeding. Although next time might be worth asking first .

If you block her drive one a regular basis then fair enough ... I'd be annoyed at that too !

whynotwhatknot · 08/04/2024 22:47

where do you live that police came out for this? they dont come out if your cars stolen round here

alittleworriedlamb · 08/04/2024 22:49

She means like this. But usually one end has bollards. Common in new builds.

Is it me? A parking/ boundary one
2proseccosplease · 08/04/2024 22:49

I've looked at the photo and read all your posts but I'm still completely confused about:

  1. Which part is/isn't your drive
  1. Why you have to drive over her drive to get to your drive, that is not usual
  1. How her drive comes off the road

I agree a diagram is required

alittleworriedlamb · 08/04/2024 22:53

So it's as if she's parked a couple of feet in front of this house on the right in the photo, but the driveway for that house is another 10 metres down the lane so not impacting them at all.

Is it me? A parking/ boundary one
TinyGingerCat · 08/04/2024 22:59

I also live in a house at the end of a cul de sac and so fully understand why you have to drive over your neighbours drive (without needing a diagram). However you were wrong to park in a way that impinged on her property. It's irrelevant that you didn't think it affected her. Also love the stealth brag that you can fit 5 vehicles on yours. If that's the case then use the full breadth and width of your own property. My neighbour currently only has one car on her drive, i haven't taken this as an open invitation to park on hers. The only way a shared drive situation works is if everyone sticks to their own property.

Constantdistractions · 08/04/2024 23:01

I don't really understand the point of the thread. Yes you were a dick for parking on her drive if that's what you're asking? She maybe over reacted but if you're unpleasant neighbours then I can understand why.

WhereYouLeftIt · 08/04/2024 23:26

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 21:36

I have to to access my house?

And this is why people draw a diagram, because "I obviously have to drive over my neighbours drive to access my property" makes no sense to anybody who doesn't know the physical layout of the drives. "Obviously" just isn't obvious to anyone but you, OP. Even your photo - still clear as mud.

Please - a diagram!

curveofcarus · 08/04/2024 23:42

Is it a shared driveway? Is it that you are allowed to drive over it to access your part of the driveway but not allowed to park on it? Was your car parked on your neighbour's land in breach of title deeds/covenants/easement? If so you are being very rude and inconsiderate. Legally you would be trespassing (civil matter). Maybe this isn't the first time she has been affected by you and the other vehicles belonging on your property. I pity your poor neighbour (been there, got the tee shirt)! Give your head a wobble.

TeenLifeMum · 08/04/2024 23:45

You were a bit of a dick but her response was rather extreme.

Abi86 · 09/04/2024 00:10

I still don’t get the geometry. I’d need an overhead view for it to make sense. But the OP BU in that you can’t park in your neighbours … anything. Two foot or twenty foot. Just don’t.

WhichEllie · 09/04/2024 00:25

I think previous posters are right and OP has just worded it incorrectly, saying she has to drive “over” her neighbour’s drive (meaning drive on their property) when she actually means drive past their drive (on the road).

So yes, they are unreasonable for calling the police for her car being parked on the road partially in front of their house. However OP is definitely being unreasonable for the entire contents of this thread.

primroseteapot · 09/04/2024 01:17

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 20:31

Correct
At least you get it!
My car was one foot on her driveway
I'll leave it here now as nobody else gets it

Nobody else gets it because you are incoherent.

YaMuvva · 09/04/2024 01:22

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 20:06

Ok?

I honestly cannot figure out where your neighbours drive is from that photo? It looks like the grey car is parked half across your drive and half across a footpath/in front of a fence.

When you say “drive across her drive” I picture you railroading over her flower beds and squashing gnomes that are in the way 😂 I assume you mean ‘in front’ of her drive? Your wheels don’t touch her driveway?

imforeverblowingbuttons · 09/04/2024 03:03

Most cul de sacs are a semi circle where you can access your drive from the road without issue.

I think you mean you have to drive in front of your neighbours drive to get onto your drive not that you have to access her property to reach yours.

Calling the police was ridiculous and a waste of time. She should have asked you not to block her property first (which you shouldn't have been doing in the first place)

She is either a person who over reacts or she's not a fan of your.

teenboymom · 09/04/2024 04:42

Could you draw and overview as it's not easy to distinguish from the photo exactly what the lay out it's