Lazy feckless leeching relatives. Sound familiar?

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As the title says. Bone-idle, irresponsible and entitled adult couple (40/50)…
Examples:

• in bed until midday
• live on benefits, have done for years
• constantly leech off friends and relatives
• will text/ask unbelievable requests such as Have you got any mugs, we’ve only got one left/have you got a couple of tea towels to spare/have you got any a few knives and forks, we don’t know where our have gone?
• Even holidays: We heard you have booked a cottage/caravan in X. We’ve got a good idea - we can visit you for a few days
• they attend all family meals, never reciprocate, always come empty- handed

This is a select few examples. There are dozens more. Some far worse. I used to help out but I gave up a few years ago when I realised I was simply seen as part of their support group and regarded as one of their ‘providers’. I am now NC except for family gatherings. I refuse to be one of their providers. I cannot believe people live like this and are so ungrateful and entitled. Anyone else have shameless, freeloading relatives?

No but I do have a massive sports direct mug they can have.

IMO, from what you posted. I blame those aiding them IE relatives.

Importantly, you don't really know what their health conditions are as not everyone tells others re all health problems.

Yes, I have one pretends to be unwell to get sickness benefits yet spends all money on their pet horse.
Then claims they need money off us as they can't afford to live.
Worse thing is they're being evicted and have chosen their horse over getting another place to rent... guess who will be guilted into having them live with them. 🙄🤬

Both massively overweight.

Oh no! That’s far worse than my situation. Hope they don’t end up sharing your home 🌺

They are not lazy. They have to spend a lot of time thinking up ways of blagging things from other people/society. It takes a lot of effort to be constantly on the scrounge and guilt tripping the unwilling into providing the necessary.

They do this because they can. So basically without their enablers they would have to make alternative arrangements. So you can either be an enabler and put up with their constant scrounging, or don't be an enabler and they will soon figure out trying to get stuff off you is a waste of time. Don't be surprised if they don't like you very much as a result of that though.

Doesnt everyone have that mug 😂

yes i have a relative like this. They both work though, low wage and not full time. Not entitled to benefits though. He has had many, many jobs but cannot be arsed, goes off sick for months, then quits. Both are very lazy. Never have any money but wouldn't occur to either to do more hours. They both have the opportunity to work more but have no interest in it. Constantly trying to have other people take their dc too.

Sorry, I'm not sure what you are trying to say?

She was responding to the health question from a pp

I don’t get the freeloading but I get the Never Hosting, then turning up- admittedly with food and drink though - then just sitting to have food brought.
I have realised I’ve been hosting family events several times a year for around 27 years. Never invited round.

Ok, then if you are saying is a "health issue" why pick on them like this?

Don't have them, you'll never get rid of them.

You are right. But I am not an enabler and I doubt that they like me and I couldn’t care less. 😊

Ooh it's been ages since we had a benefits bashing thread

And they are FAT too you say? WOW gosh we must have such a slack benefits system if people can claim benefits so easily...

I would be shocked but i was expecting this because my carers allowance has gone up this week by about four pounds which will pay for my holidays in no time! I now get £81 a week for providing over 35 hours care I get bit scratched yelled at I get to clean up piss and shit on repeat but I'm really living my dream arnt I!

There’s obviously something wrong with them. It’s fine to have no contact for your own sakes, but don’t judge too harshly, as you don’t walk in their shoes (or shuffle in their big slipper).

I too felt it was one of those.

IMO, if one really feels someone is taking the p as susggested by op - ignore them

I'm not sure re point of this this thread.

Yes, I have one pretends to be unwell to get sickness benefits yet spends all money on their pet horse.

That old chestnut, about pretending to be unwell. They should go into acting then, it would be better paid.

Thank you and this is why I said in my intial post here that OP may not be aware of all of their health probs

Tbh the point of my post was to ask if anyone else has relatives who are similar. Story sharing 😊

What is this message all about?

They do, has a walking stick when goes for assessments yet can jump onto a horses back from the floor.
How does that work? I'm all for disabled people claiming what they are entitled too, but not people like that.

Honestly, when someone is down to scrounging for mugs and forks...something probably isn't right with them. If they were cunning benefit freeloaders they would be living better than that.

Agreed

Its incredibly difficult to get disability benefits so they are highly likely genuinely disabled/ill. If they are just on the bog standard UC then it's a pitiful existence with strict sanctions for what is expected re job seeking.

Either way it's not a life anyone would be envious of.

Ok, but inc "benefits" in your post was not needed.
You could have easily said the other stuff and if and when asked you could have said they dont work

As I said, you cannot judge a persons health by just looking at them in most cases.

Being overweight is a vicious circle and often out of the beholders hands due to medicals etc, etc.

@MeMyCatsAndMyBooks Maybe they have a condition that is variable, and some days they may be able to do somethings, and other days they could be laid up in bed, in pain, unable to move. I would suggest that being able to jump onto a horse's back from the floor, should make the 6 o'clock news!