Lazy feckless leeching relatives. Sound familiar?

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As the title says. Bone-idle, irresponsible and entitled adult couple (40/50)…
Examples:

• in bed until midday
• live on benefits, have done for years
• constantly leech off friends and relatives
• will text/ask unbelievable requests such as Have you got any mugs, we’ve only got one left/have you got a couple of tea towels to spare/have you got any a few knives and forks, we don’t know where our have gone?
• Even holidays: We heard you have booked a cottage/caravan in X. We’ve got a good idea - we can visit you for a few days
• they attend all family meals, never reciprocate, always come empty- handed

This is a select few examples. There are dozens more. Some far worse. I used to help out but I gave up a few years ago when I realised I was simply seen as part of their support group and regarded as one of their ‘providers’. I am now NC except for family gatherings. I refuse to be one of their providers. I cannot believe people live like this and are so ungrateful and entitled. Anyone else have shameless, freeloading relatives?

Oh, me too!

Yes, not funny really is it.

There are always some rellies like this .TBH they are asking for some mugs/cutlery and a few days away ,not a loan of 2K or something! I have loads of mugs and occasionally "lose" a few into the bin ,Most people I know are the same TBH. Surely they would not get benefits for nothing?

Are they getting all the benefits they are entitled to? If the root of this is illness, rather than lifestyle choice (and is it likely that they are choosing to live such a limited life where they can't even keep control of their cutlery?) they are barely functioning. Would they be entitled to PIP? You have mentioned they are overweight but this may be a symptom.

Until everyone cuts off the help they have no reason to change. Sadly people like this suck the life out of people.

There are tons of people in the world like this with zero hidden disabilities. I think some people who may have them are triggered by this post but I don't think that's what this post is about. Some people have zero disabilities hidden or insight and are just users.

RE: the pp and horses.

The RDA has a lot of information on the benefits of horses and riding for physical and learning disabilities. If my horse was the only positive to my condition and family were happy to take me in, I don't think that's as awful as you make it sound.

Plenty of riders at RDA centers all over the country that are unable to walk or have restricted mobility but are able to mount a horse and ride. I know wheelchair users who can to acrobatics on horseback (also taught by the RDA). Do you think they're faking it too? Or perhaps...you actually don't know anything about the benefit of horses and riding on disabilities and are not informed enough to judge.

Clearly I was not making a joke out of those people. Why would I do that?
I was referring to the couple in my original post who eat vast amounts of sweet,, fatty food.

Yep, it’s a symptom of eating too much.

The more that the OP posts, I can't help but think that she is doing her relatives a favour, by being NC. Good Evening.

Phew! For some posters this has been turned into a benefits- bashing, mental health , physical health issue. I shall repeat a response that I gave to someone on hers:
When this couple did work they lived with a relative and paid a pittance for bed and board. They went on holidays abroad and basically fleeced the relative who was footing the bills for extra gas , electricity and household stuff. Also, they gamble and keep it very quiet when they win anything.
However, some posters do get what I am saying and have offered their own stories many of which are far worse than mine.
Still, you can’t control how people want to respond.
thanks to those who get my post, which was ‘ Does any one else have leeching, irresponsible relatives.’ 😊

Lol. Oh dear. Have you read my responses? lighten up.

I am un fortunately related to someone like this. Never worked a day in his life and just expects handouts. They also have had children who are now work shy young adults that expect family to pay for their broken boiler, washing machine whatever. My father who is directly related to them tried to guilt trip us with family should help out they are so poor where I reminded him sitting on his ass all day isn't poor, they are lazy and I am not charitable to lazy entitled people.

Sorry but you are missing the point! Besides, you can’t ‘shame’ someone unless they can know what has been said or written about them.

I did but the handle came off 😞

The relatives in my OP are exactly like this. thank you dipsytipsy for getting what I am writing about 😊

No you mustnt. Just say no (copyright Zammo)

This is a bit like 'Twenty Questions'.
My go...

Are you a member of the Royal Family?

I would have thought it more relevant , if you frequently message people asking to borrow spoons and tea towels, rock up uninvited and empty handed to family gatherings and generally are a nuisance to your nearest and dearest.

If that is not you, then,,,,,,,,its not about you!!!!

😂😂

Sounds like there are plenty of these people out there. 😊

Probably because you don’t deserve to be judged for being on benefits or a ‘bit fat’. It is not aimed at you. I doubt you indulge in being lazy, being a freeloader etc etc. My OP wasn’t actually about being ‘fat’ ( yes I know it isn’t a nice word to use) or being on benefits. it is about lazy, irresponsible freeloaders.

You are right. And sadly they constantly seek out new supporters- and get them.