Am I unreasonable leaving to drop my dd

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Me and dp have been together 16 months and live an hr apart. This weekend I went on Saturday afternoon and I always have to leave at 5pm on the Sunday to be home for when dd2 arrives home from her Dads house.
DD1 is 15 and often comes with me at the weekend (we have 4 kids between us, so his ds’ were there too, they left around 12 to go back to their mum).
My DD wanted to go to the cinema this weekend with a boy, I said I’d drop her at the train station as dropping her at the cinema was an half and a half round trip for me. Due to train strikes I had to drop DD, meaning I needed to leave at 12.30 and would be back by 2pm, I offered DP to come with me and we could have done something in the city or I’d be back and we could have lunch together before I left.

He hit the roof, because he wanted to go to the gym and didn’t want to go on his own. He was so annoyed that I’d done this he told me not to come back again after I’d dropped her and for me to just go home.

He spends a lot of time complaining that we don’t get enough time together, yet I go to see him 3/4 nights a week and he hasn’t come to see me since the beginning of December because he doesn’t like the fact that my ex used to live in my house (If I could move I would).

I think he’s being completely unreasonable and unable to compromise, or is it just me who was wrong?

He is not your partner and why are you taking your 15 year old to your boyfriends house every weekend? Get rid of him, he is using you.

I hope you do finish with him. I’d love to know what his ex thinks of him. He sounds controlling with a volatile temper. I also think you’ve jumped from one abusive relationship to another, you just haven’t seen it because this one currently is not as abusive as your ex… albeit that could change.

From what you’ve written, I question if he’s capable of a proper relationship. I expect he will replace you very quickly because he doesn’t appear to see you or your children as as whole people with individual needs. That won’t be personal or about you. But about him.

He sounds awful!

Nailed it in two words. Sounds like that's what you plan to do, OP.

Wow, what a prick🤨

The only time DP has ever hit the roof was when the rather portly cat attempted to jump on him whilst he was asleep on the sofa and dug its claws into his most vulnerable parts in the process.

Once he'd been unpeeled from the ceiling and he'd checked it was all still intact, he was more bothered that he'd frightened the cat than anything else.

This bloke is jealous of the OP's DD, jealous of the ex, jealous of other people - her children - having a right to her time and attention, jealous of her having independent thoughts, opinions and activities that aren't centred around him.

Don't go back at all.

Yep, if he is this territorial he is going to be an absolute twat about everything, he’s already having a tantrum because he didn’t get the “share” of your time he thought he was entitled to

So this prince is nice to you when you do exactly what he wants, makes you do all travelling and throws a toddler tantrum if you don’t, refuses to put any travel effort in himself, because unlike your boring trivial job his job is special and important so it’s ’different’ and has a pathetic shitty sulk when you prioritise your children. I couldn’t get him gone fast enough.

Enough red flags here to make bunting.

never date a male who has you walking on eggshells, who 'hits the roof', or who has you humiliatingly travelling around multiple times a week to provide him with sex.
You need to be a far, far better example to your kids. They'll think this is normal, something to aspire to. [shudder]