To put my wife’s peanut butter in the fridge

[DefendingPan]

I want to preface by saying that me and my wife both pick up after each other a fair bit, we aren’t the tidiest but certainly not the messiest couple and we find each one fixing the problems we see works better than nagging each other for missing this and that.

I recently switched from brown source to mayonnaise and I do sometimes leave it out on the counter. I couldn’t find it and my wife had put it in the cupboard not the fridge when tidying up.

I mentioned that it goes in the fridge not the cupboard and she joked that I should put it away myself.

All light hearted, no fighting but over the last couple of weeks it’s happened and I’ve mentioned it about four times and it’s happened again and I’m not sure how to mention it again without seeming like I’m nagging.

also every morning she forgets to put the peanut butter away and I put it in the cupboard before I get my breakfast. It just happens in our current routine that she has breakfast first and we don’t share, not perfect but is what it is.

Anyway this morning I decided to put her peanut butter on the fridge instead of the cupboard, I’m hoping she’ll find it funny and when she next seas mayonnaise remember the peanut butter and put it in the fridge.

however I’m worried it might come across as petty, we don’t really do practical jokes or pranks.

Yes do it. That'll show her.

If you nagged me about where I put your mayo after YOU left it out, it would be thrown striaght in the bin everytime, until you either put it away yourself or stopped criticising me 😊

@DefendingPan So, has she noticed yet?

No. That’s so their mutual exchange in picking up after each other goes more smoothly.

Not true. The issue is if you swap between the cupboard and fridge with mayonnaise. You pick a home and keep it there.

Dh would do this. It’s not hilarious but it’s a mild prank. I certainly wouldn’t be mad about it. A few posters here maybe need to calm down with their “put your own mayo away.”

Aibu is full of posters with an axe to grind somewhere!

I hope that would be for himself so he would remember to do it himself

The energy you're putting into this (worrying how to ask without nagging, posting on mumsnet, peanut butter in fridge passive aggressive joke) would be better spent just putting away your mayo in the fridge after use!

Why? They have a mutual arrangement. They both leave things out and they both put stuff away. It works for them, generally.

If OH did that I would just assume he'd unintentionally put it in the wrong place! However I often find things in strange places - mainly from ADHD son but OH too.

Honestly OP, switch the words husband and wife around and everyone would be saying your husband needs to learn the consequences of putting mayonnaise in the cupboard and how it needs to be refrigerated, otherwise it poses a health hazard. Some would be telling you that you clearly have a breakdown in communication within your marriage, he’s controlling you, how they hope no kids are involved and that you should seek a free 30-minute consultation with a solicitor.

Your wife knows perfectly well that the mayonnaise goes in the fridge. She's just fed up of tidying up after you.

why do you think anyone gives a flying fuck where you put your peanut butter?

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Just to update, she found it yesterday, thought it funny and this morning has put her own peanut butter away after her breakfast!

For all those asking I am a man

bacon sandwiches, fried egg sandwich and also chips with tea depending on what I’m eating that day

She did joke that this wasn’t a game I really wanted to play so I think I’ll avoid escalation

I’ve left it out four times in a couple of weeks by mistake, she’s left peanut butter out every single morning but sure, I’m doing it on purpose just to sabotage the most important relationship in my live for shits and giggles I guess 🤷🏼‍♂️

Brown sauce and ketchup should never go in the fridge @DefendingPan YABU. It will make your food too cold. 😭

I'm thinking that your wife has already beaten you to this joke and she knows full well the mayonnaise goes in the fridge and does it on purpose to push you to put it away...

That only really works if she puts her stuff away. You can't be PA about others not tidying up after themselves when you don't bother yourself. Well, you can, but that's just dickish.

Agree.

She knows mayo goes in the fridge too and putting it in the cupboard as a “lesson” is silly even more so when she is leaving the peanut butter out much more than he does with mayo.

Him putting peanut butter in the fridge isn’t going to cause as much harm as her putting the mayo in the cupboard.

My own DH does leaves things out and it does bother me but I also know I forget some things too, albeit on a smaller scale. Often he didn’t notice he did these things and others I pointed out unarguable logic and he stopped.

Glad it worked out OP.

@HunterHearstHelmsley yes good point. Although I often leave the peanut butter out and it sits with the butter, oils, garlic jar etc as it's a cupboard not fridge food.

Your relationship and way of living sounds horrific.

What is wrong with this place? Nothing in this guy’s posts sound or even hint at a horrific way of living. Omg.

This