To put my wife’s peanut butter in the fridge

[DefendingPan]

I want to preface by saying that me and my wife both pick up after each other a fair bit, we aren’t the tidiest but certainly not the messiest couple and we find each one fixing the problems we see works better than nagging each other for missing this and that.

I recently switched from brown source to mayonnaise and I do sometimes leave it out on the counter. I couldn’t find it and my wife had put it in the cupboard not the fridge when tidying up.

I mentioned that it goes in the fridge not the cupboard and she joked that I should put it away myself.

All light hearted, no fighting but over the last couple of weeks it’s happened and I’ve mentioned it about four times and it’s happened again and I’m not sure how to mention it again without seeming like I’m nagging.

also every morning she forgets to put the peanut butter away and I put it in the cupboard before I get my breakfast. It just happens in our current routine that she has breakfast first and we don’t share, not perfect but is what it is.

Anyway this morning I decided to put her peanut butter on the fridge instead of the cupboard, I’m hoping she’ll find it funny and when she next seas mayonnaise remember the peanut butter and put it in the fridge.

however I’m worried it might come across as petty, we don’t really do practical jokes or pranks.

Controlling and abusive. A massive red flag. It all starts with peanut butter in the fridge…

If you've told her three times and she still hasn't gotten it, she's not listening to you and clearly doesn't respect you. Get rid.

It must be what is was like living with the Chuckle Brothers.

Can't spread it from the fridge. Derrrr

I also missed the point. Derrrr me

Oh ffs. This is such offensive to victims of abuse and controlling behaviour. Nothing about this post suggest controlling behaviour or the beginning of abuse.

Yes it is. It’s also gaslighting, particularly if he is hiding the peanut butter behind the HP sauce. What next, he buys whole milk even though he knows she likes semi-skimmed? There is a pattern here. She needs to leave - now. Find man who doesn’t mess with her Sunpat. It’s about respect.

Put your own mayo away....problem solved.

I like...

"Be grateful you have a fridge. My fridge died 10 years ago. I would love to have your problem."

I'm even pettier. DH is properly house-trained, but the children are still works in progress. If they leave something out, they get frog-marched back in to put it away. I don't care what they're doing at the time.

Oh give yourself a shake.

I've an idea - put your own bloody mayo away and then you'll know where it is.

Leave the peanut butter on the counter, presumably that's where she wants it to be.

Everyones happy.

Radical I know.

I don't keep mayo, brown sauce or ketchup in the fridge. It lives in the cupboard, next to the peanut butter

You sound about 8 years old.

This is my favourite mumsnet comment of the week 😂

Put the mayo away yourself? Or put a large label on it saying "Fridge".

I mean here is a concept, I know that your brain has not considered yet but just for a moment if you can get one of them to consider this.

Put your mayonnaise back in the fridge yourself.

Shocked Pikachu face

Why do you keep leaving it out? It almost sounds like you're doing it on purpose because you think she should pick up after you.

Are you also leaving the bench messy and full of crumbs and spills without wiping up after yourself?

I get why you did it, but I think it will come across as petty.

Stick a note in the cupboard saying “Mayo in the fridge, please!” with a cute drawing of a fridge and a heart next to it instead.

Perhaps putting the mayo in the cupboard is her way of pranking you, or subtly ‘reminding’ you to put it away yourself..?

Only you know whether your wife will take it in good spirits or not, but to me it all sounds very petty and tiresome.

Just put your mayo away then.

Comes across as passive aggressive

Is that for OP to remind themselves to put their own mayo away?

I'd ignore your mayo.

Maybe a touch of D&V would teach you to put it away.

Out of interest what brand peanut butter is it?

I think for it to be a prank you have to put it somewhere like the bathroom cupboard. Go big or go home.