My partner and I have been together for 2 years last month. Our little one was born end of December 23. Yes, it was quick. He has a child from a previous relationship, he turned 2 in February just past. We basically got together when the little one was a couple of months old, DP had been split up from his ex since the beginning of the pregnancy, things hadn't been working for a while
I was using my DPs laptop and his WhatsApp was open. He doesn't use WhatsApp much, he had it open as the last message was from a friend who does use it, he's more of a fb messenger/texter, so there aren't that many messages on it. I noticed old messages between him and his ex, dated a month after him and I got together. They now communicate via text so all recent messages between them are on that.
Anyway, I know I shouldn't have, and i was genuinely just being nosey (yes, i know i should have respected his privacy) but i clicked on the thread. It seems as though there was an overlap between me and ex. Their little one was born in Feb, and until May, almost 3 months later, there were photos of the three of them looking happy, him telling her that he couldn't wait to finish work see her and LO, that the two of them were his "favourite people in the world" etc. So basically we started chatting at the start of March, first date at the end of March, however there was still 'something' between them until May of that year. From the messages, perhaps not fully together, but not as apart as my DP made out. DP had moved in with his brother by this point but was round at their old house they shared together a good few times a week to spend time with the baby, as he told me then.
I don't know what to do with this. We now have our baby who is 4 months old, we have just put an offer in for a house. It's the dishonesty from him, even though it was 2 years ago, at the start of our relationship. There is definitely nothing going on between him and the ex now, they only communicate for the little one. I barely see her, DP collects him from nursery and drops off at nursery in the morning. Is this bad?