SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

[Eastereggcheek]

SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

I see you climbed down from 'it's spiteful' and 'I'm furious' to 'a bit awkward', OP. Does that mean you realise you overreacted?

@Eastereggcheek

What did you get for her kids?

Gift giving stops at 18 in our family. At what age would she stop getting her nieces an Easter egg otherwise?

I am 38 I have a sibling that is 21 so going by this reasoning I should have got Easter eggs until I was 35

Nope and actually with the amount of sweets kids just east daily, Easter eggs are no longer any kind of treat, just more sugar. I don't get them at all

She is correct.

Your reaction is completely unreasonable and borderline psycho.

But surely it would mean older DD has had 5 more eggs than younger DD and you'd soon fucking complain then.

But then that's not fair to younger one as older one got eggs for 5 more years.

I thought it stops at 18. Christmas presents too

But then older DD gets 5 more years of eggs?

Far fairer to stop once each child hits 18.

I would have bought 18 year old one they are only a few quid - seems unnecessary to stop at this point.
However I wouldn't get worked up over it.
I stopped buying for birthdays for DN when they finished uni and were in work but still do Xmas presents.
However BIL and SIL have now stopped buying for my kids even though they are still in school or education - so stopped sooner than me- possibly because I stopped buying for their kids?
Everyone's different- it is hard to know when to stop though.

Well then... The current 18 yo can understand it now then can't she??

First it’s Easter Egg inequality… next it will be final blow of inheritance.

Seems like Aunties are really causing problems these days.

We stopped gifts (birthday and Christmas) at 18 and cards at 21. They got £50 in a card at 21, and then we were done.
Seems fair as everyone gets the same amount, birth to 21.
Only gave Easter eggs if we actually saw each other at Easter, which wasn't that often as we live far apart

Really? I think it's perfectly reasonable to have a cut-off age! We've stopped doing birthday presents for nieces and nephews at 18.

If she carried on buying easter eggs either for both of them or for neither, then your younger daughter would get fewer over her life time than your older daughter and some people would think that wasn't right.

Either way, you are definitely overreacting to be furious about it. It doesn't sound "spiteful" at all. I'm sure your 18 your old can cope without an egg!

Jesus Christ OP, your daughter is an adult. The whole not buying one without the other really needs to have a limit. There's a five year age difference, it's not like younger DD is 17.

This must be a joke or a reverse?

You’re completely unreasonable - not only is it fine to stop at 18 (or whatever age as long as consistent), but it’s a gift. It’s not for you to say or with hols your own gift from a 13 yo in case an adult feels left out.

Exactly. I’m an eldest child and really get how eldests do tend to get a raw deal overall. But in this case, I totally see that it has to stop at the same AGE not the same time.

And conversely, “grown up” privileges start at the same age not the same time.

So all’s fair.

No, it needs to stop at some point and your SIL has chosen to to do this at a certain age- this is fair so long as she stops at 18 for the youngest, too.

You can choose to give presents however you see fit

I would also think this is a nod by your SIL towards stopping Christmas gifts for your eldest DD

Couldn't get worked up about this. There is a cut off for these things (I'm assuming adults aren't buying other adults eggs) and 18 seems about right. Unless siblings are twins (or bigger multiples) this means the eldest child will stop getting the gift before the younger.

No.

It’s a gift. Your older DD is an adult. I couldn’t get worked up about this and think you’re massively overreacting.

I'm not spiteful but 18 is a cut off point for buying Easter eggs for my nieces and nephews.

I bought a small egg for my four younger niece and nephews Ystd but didn't get one for the 19yo as he's still away at uni!!

YABU op.

Christ on a bike she's 18 not 8
Get a grip!!

In our family it's just the parents and grandparents that buy eggs. Didn't even realise people were buying eggs for nieces, nephews, second cousins' dogs etc.

Where does it end, do they have to buy Valentine's Day presents, summer holiday clothes, back to school presents, tooth fairy presents etc. too?