In laws not bringing anything for Easter

[Lolajoe]

I hosted an easter lunch which included my side of the family (mother, sister, grandma and cousins) and my in-laws (they don’t have any other family in this country). When my in-laws turned up my husband brought in 2 dairy free easter eggs that they’d given him (my husband and daughter are allergic to dairy). There was nothing for me. No egg, no flowers, not even a bottle of anything for me as the host who was cooking lunch for everyone.

My family bought flowers, wine and a non-Alc bottle and chocolates for me, my husband and our daughter.

Does anyone think this is strange? I can’t help, but feel like it’s rude, but my husband doesn’t bat an eyelid, which then makes me think I’m being totally unreasonable and making a big deal out of nothing.

It wouldn’t bother me. I’d be pleased if they’d brought something for my child but honestly I don’t expect guests to bring me a gift.

They should have brought a bottle for the house or a bunch of flowers or something. To show up empty handed was poor etiquette.

Have you mentioned this to your DH yet @Lolajoe ?

It's just good manners to show up with something for the hosts.

My family is markedly different in this regard.

My side come weighed down with wine, flowers and gifts. My husband’s side turn up empty handed 😂 They genuinely know no better, so we laugh about it rather than let it become annoying.

My PIL brought round wine and no eggs for anyone. Nothing for DD (who is tiny so doesnt have much chocolate anyway) and I'm pregnant so couldn't touch the wine. It was clearly brought round for their benefit.

My parents brought a cuddly toy, a colouring book and a chocolate egg that we could all share. Very different.

I've given up expecting things now, I've come to realise that's just how they are. It might have felt worse if they'd got something for DH, but I'd have made him share anyway!

It all depends- for starters why was it just you not your husband cooking the meal? It seems odd to bring eggs for adults to be honest.

I’d never arrive empty handed but this is family so if you often do reciprocal meals for each other thibk you’re being a bit precious.