To not be excited about light nights and summer?

[hermithead]

I keep seeing posts on SM about how the light nights are here, and the better weather.

I know this is obviously preferred by a lot of people.

Personally, I'm feeling a little like I'll need to force myself to embrace that.

I've been enjoying going out a walk in the dark, knowing I'll bump into few people and that I can hide under heavy coat and hat.

It's more acceptable to stay home for days on end in the winter, and I'm all for that.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it when I do get out and socialise, etc, but at the moment I'm feeling like it's something I'll need to really gear up to.

Am I weird? Or are there others like me?

Busy driving kids to various activities in the dark and rain most winter evenings doesn’t feel cosy to me. Maybe if you have nothing else to do you can lie under a blanket surrounded by candles.

I hate the rain. I want to be able to walk the dogs without swimming through mud.

I bloody love the summer.

It's raining again here today 😞

I don’t understand the cosy thing either, as it is not limited to winter, you can shut your curtains, put some low level lighting on , light some candles, and feel “cosy” all year round. It is not limited to winter. You can even drink hot chocolate if that’s your thing. Literally cosy is available all year round, it is not season dependent. You’re allowed to draw your curtains in summer, or switch the lamps on, cocoon yourself in. The summer police won’t come knocking on your door and arrest you.

I don't particularly care about feeling "cosy" either. I just prefer it to be dark by about 8. It just feels more natural to me.

Driving in dark and rain isn't a particularly big deal to me. It's fine. And preferable to driving at sunset at any time of year.

Still just a preference, not a moan, not a terrible dysfunctional life, still doesn't affect anyone else's enjoyment of different seasons.

I am the complete opposite to you. I don't like it when we get to the summer solstice as I know it will gradually get darker in the evenings. I then almost count down to the winter solstice.

I don't even have curtains in my living room as I want every bit of light going in my room. I also really hate artificial light.

I wish I did like the dark more. I am not scared of the dark but I dislike it intensely

Everything's so boring in the dark. I usually leave for work at 7 and get home around 6. In the winter months, it feels like I just live in the dark. Drive home? It's dark. Look out the window? It's dark. Take kids to things? It's dark. Go for a run after work? It's dark.

I love being woken up by light coming through the window. I like leaving the curtains a bit open too. I like going to bed in light evenings, when you can still hear the birds trilling.

No, not everyone wants a change. They get a change nonetheless. I love the dark evenings but I am certainly not “ festering “ 😂
What constitutes someone’s enjoyment doesn’t affect anyone else in the slightest. People complain about Winter, People complain about Summer and there are those of us who love Winter and don’t berate those who don’t enjoy it. If someone screams from the rooftops about how they love the brighter and sunnier weather I don’t give them a list of reasons why they are wrong. I just let them get on with it whilst I don’t enjoy it. People are entitled to like what they like and no amount of putting them down for liking it will change that. The weather is the weather and nobody controls it!
I always get a good laugh out of people getting so riled up when others use the word cosy. People don’t get annoyed when others describe basking in the sun or soaking up the rays.
The only argument here is that we do get a lot more Winter than Summer weather so I can understand people getting disgruntled about that but again, nobody controls the weather. It is what it is. You like what you like. Simple..

Yes we get a lot more winter weather than summer. If the tables were reversed I would not be moaning. If it was warm and sunny for 9 months I would not be starting threads (whilst it was still warm and sunny) about how I was dreading the chance (and no guarantee ) of a few weeks of intermittent cold weather. I’d actually look forward to that change. I just struggle with 9 months of cold and rain.

So on that note, yes we are all different.

But you would still hate the cold weather wouldn’t you? People are allowed post their preferences about light and dark. I get quite depressed in the light months, it’s the way my brain is wired. I don’t look forward to the change. For me it’s more about the light than the weather, which is actually what the original post is about.

I always get a good laugh out of people getting so riled up when others use the word cosy. People don’t get annoyed when others describe basking in the sun or soaking up the rays

I think you have missed the point. And I’m bemused if you really are sitting having a good laugh, that would be odd , but You can be cosy year round. It is not season dependent. There is no law saying you need to keep your curtains open in summer and not use your lamps. However the laws of nature mean you cannot bask in the sun or soak up rays (who says that other than the daily mail) in most of autumn, all of winter, and most of spring.

the point people are making is folks are saying they love to shut their curtains, and be cosy in winter. It is something you can do 365 days of the year. It is not weather or season dependent.

No actually I wouldn’t hate it as it would be a nice change. And I certainly wouldn’t be moaning on about something that might not happen. That is what is annoying. It won’t change though. Everyone has started early this year.

The thread title has summer in it. It’s not just about the light.

Never have I met anyone in real life who has said ‘oh I’m loving this endless rain and cold, really hope it carries on all summer. Only on Mumsnet.

Never have I met anyone in real life who has said ‘oh I’m loving this endless rain and cold, really hope it carries on all summer. Only on Mumsnet.

Yep.

As others have said, it's a privilege to enjoy the cold, dark months. I bet our ancestors didn't; especially when you had to go and piss outside or dodge wolves the dark. I don't like a cold toilet seat, let alone any other winter related hardships.

We're hairless creatures. We're not designed for the cold. We've adapted to it, but it's not natural.

As I said upthread it’s a real first world problem to grumble about too much light ffs.

I find it so depressing on here these days, life is hard for everyone and I’ve got sympathy for those posting about rising costs or not being able to afford the basics - real problems in other words. But the increasing number of people who are too special to cope with normal life do my head in 🤦🏻

I like the dark evenings, don’t enjoy summer. Heat and light, I prefer shade and cooler weather. Autumn is probably my favourite season

I'm like you.

I love short days and would ideally live somewhere where they have polar night for months then move before the constant daylight.

I go out for a walk in the morning and enjoy the spring or summer then I have black out blinds at home for the rest of the day.

Everyones different.

I have anxiety disorders, sensory issues and an advanced sleep phase disorder so my natural sleep pattern is 8 pm to 3am.

I'm definitely not bothering you or anyone else going around complaining about long days or too much light - I don't mention it unless asked and this thread is specifically asking.

It's not a 'first world problem' or feeling I'm 'special', or identfying it as a 'problem' but just answering a question.

Maybe take a break from the Internet if people discussing things on a discussion forum is depressing you.

Or here we go - you do realise being pissed off at things online that you could not bother reading isn't a real problem right? You do realise depression is a serious illness and you've got a first world not real problem in thinking that you using your smartphone or computer to read things you could easily avoid and then complain that it's depressing isn't really depression and is you just complaining about stuff because you have such a privileged life that's it's this not real problem of reading stuff that depresses you?

See...we can all do it if we choose to 🤣

Yeah we don’t exist in real life! We just post our preferences here to piss off the Summer lovers 😂

Huge difference. Nobody wants to live in perpetual darkness 24/7 in any season. I prefer dark, dull days and evenings but I don’t want to have my blackout blinds pulled all day every day. Nobody wants to wrap up in a blanket when it is 25 degrees outside. There is nothing cosy about Summer imo. I like the vibe of Winter, the feeling of Winter, the weather of Winter and the darkness of Winter.
You know kinda like telling Summer folk to buy SAD lamp in Winter to bring in artificial light… yeah it doesn’t work.

I enjoy the lighter mornings as it makes waking up and getting to work not feel like such a chore however I do prefer dark evenings and nights more than summer ones. There’s nothing better than getting in from work, showering and getting into cosy Pjs and eating something warm and wholesome like a stew and then snuggling up to binge watch tv! This doesn’t really feel acceptable on light summer evenings and when I do it I feel like I’m missing out on something in some way.

@Hesterbester I actually have problems of my own which I don’t choose to share with strangers online and like to use this place for a bit of light relief to distract from them. I guess I should never have clicked on the thread but I was just a bit disbelieving that something that most people would see as a positive in a world where there isn’t much of that could be seen as negative by so many 🤷🏻‍♀️

YANBU, you like what you like!

I really don't like Summer personally, always been a Winter person. Love the dark nights, dark mornings, the cold and ice, waking up in the dark and it being pitch black by teatime. Just really lifts my mood so much.

I'm the same! Neighbours' loud garden parties, screaming kids, birds waking me up at 3am, grrrr. I've never minded the dark mornings and evenings. But now I have a dog it does give me more time to walk her in the lighter evenings. I actually like it when the clocks go back in October even though most people dread it.

I like now when it is possible to walk to and from work in the light and warm enough not to worry about wobbly relations on black ice. Plus woodpeckers drumming, toad spawn and signs of life but not many midges or giant house spiders or people revving up garden machinery at sparrowfart.

Don't like July with heat over 22 degrees as work and home both get too hot plus am peri now...