Husband stole kids' Easter eggs

[AnnBoo]

Not sure if this is unreasonable, my friends seem to agree with me but wanted an outsider's opinion...

I'll try to keep this short.

Last night my hubby went out to the pub while I stayed home with the kids. I fancied a night out myself- haven't had one in months- but didn't have the option since he wanted to see the lads. He said he would go only have a few rounds and be home by about 10:00-10:30pm, but stumbled in at about 1. I was already in bed, and woke up to the slam of the front door but fell back asleep shortly after he came in. This morning I woke up around 6am to set up the kids Easter egg hunt, but to my surprise the cupboard was empty. I then found a huge heap of cardboard and tin foil beside the sofa. All 4 Easter eggs- 2 each for the kids- were demolished, along with brown smears all over our new beige sofa. LIVID!
It's not the first time he's done this too! My 7 year old daughter's Christmas chocolate disappeared late one night, luckily with enough time to replace before Xmas day. But this time, I've had no chance to.
My kids came downstairs so excited this morning but their faces absolutely dropped as I told them what happened. My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday, when he got up I explained to him how upset he's made the kids. He didn't even bat an eyelid before he went to make his coffee.

I've asked him to stay at his mums for the next few nights, or until he replaces the chocolate (which he's refusing to do). AIBU?

I have no patience for lad culture.

You really need an outside opinion to
know this is vile behaviour? I mean all 4? If he’d eaten one and been a bit sheepish and apologetic, it might be funny and forgiven… but 4?! I cannot even imagine eating that much chocolate in one sitting while drunk 🤮.

I'd be telling his mummy to keep him. You don't want her shoddy work back and having it trample all over your and your childrens feelings again.
What a nasty bastard.

My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday

Yeah, you should have open all curtains, turn the music on and drag him out of the bed as soon as you relized eggs were gone.
No nice sleep for that cunt.
Bin it.

I could maybe understand him being peckish and having one egg when he got home pissed (and then thinking, "oh shit, I shouldn't have had that", and explaining/apologising/sorting the mistake first thing in the morning etc)...but it is the lack of remorse and apologies from him that I'm shocked at. OP, I hope that your MIL gives him the 3rd degree when she finds out what happened! I can't believe that he actually refused to sort this and didn't give a shit about his kids!

It doesn't sound like he regrets it.

I can’t believe he’s not apologetic or feels responsible to replace the Easter eggs. What a bastard

Tell us you're also married to a selfish twunt without telling us you're also married to a selfish twunt.

The huge man-child doesn't need a woman to swoop in and excuse his selfish behaviour.

Being drunk doesn't make you do things you genuinely don't want to do though, it lowers inhibitions it doesn't make you a different person.

Besides he CHOSE to go out and get blind drunk instead of having a few and being home when he said, knowing that the next day would be a family day with work needing done. He CHOSE to stay out, drink more and leave that to op to sort. He CHOSE to come home and instead of getting a takeaway or whatever on the way ate his kids presents and then lay in so long he wasn't there for the daily excitement in the morning. He chose not to give a shit in the morning when his kids were devastated and chose not to even attempt to fix it.

All conscious choices made by him to put his own desire for a few drinks with mates ahead of his family.

Sounds like a total waste of space to me, especially given that it's not the first time it's happened.

Op the lack of remorse for me would be the nail in the coffin. I'm sorry you had to navigate that and I'm sorry your kids missed out.

For me he wouldn't be coming back from his mums.

Wtaf????. He's an arsehole.

Leave him.

Since this wasn't his FIRST time stealing chocolate from his young children, I think it's much more serious than a one-off. If someone does nasty shit every time they drink, then perhaps, they need to stay sober. Being drunk is not an excuse for being a twat waffle.

Why do some people ALWAYS make excuses for men's horrid behavior?

LTFB

I'm sorry but the look of sadness and disappointment on the kids' faces would be enough for me to LTB. There really are some shitty fathers/ husbands out there, aren't there?! And as someone else said, how many mothers do you hear of who do this kind of thing?

I'm not sure I could forgive him straightaway, but I would definitely go out and get the kids replacement eggs even if he refused to do so. Why should they be miserable?

So glad to hear that. I haven't rtft so didn't read this before. Pleased that you have a lovely friend who could help you and the kids out.

Your husband may have made a mistake while drunk, but his refusal to rectify it is reprehensible.

The first part of your post made me chuckle - we’ve all done something stupid after too many drinks. I thought you were over-reacting.

But then I carried on reading…….. on waking up and realising that it was Easter Sunday and it was the kids Easter chocolate - I would be mortified and shameful, rushing out to replace it in my hungover state. The fact he is not doing this shows that he is an absolute shit person and I too would be reevaluating if I wanted to be in a relationship with this person!

Are they his kids?

And why did you question yourself how awful it was?

Leave him and break the cycle.

The lack of remorse is alarming

Good grief. What a twat.

Besides, 4 eggs is an awful lot. Of chocolate, to eat. 1 I could grasp. No other biscuits or crisps available.

Frankly I don't know how the fuck a drunk man would be able to scoff FOUR easter eggs all to himself - How was he not sick?

Unbelievably selfish - Just asked DH his opinion and he said "There's no universe where I would ever do that to our kids, and on the off chance I was desperately craving some chocolate and did it without thinking (He doesn't think sometimes), I'd be straight down the shop to get replacements first thing in the morning before anyone was awake! My guilt wouldn't let me do anything else."

I don’t think I could forgive something like this. It’s disgustingly selfish 😡

How can he not even feel any guilt! Does he always completely lack empathy?

This is reprehensible! When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
He has shown you exactly who he is.

What if anything is his justification for refusing to replace what he took?