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To think more people WFH with DC than let on

208 replies

Thorts · 29/03/2024 14:05

NC. Will preface this: I’m pregnant, and I’ve worked in the early years sector for lots of years. I cannot imagine working from home with a young child, even one who sleeps a lot, unless it is an absolute emergency and even then I can imagine work suffers or you end up making the hours back up late at night. Despite this I can totally understand why people do and would never judge anyone for it, you do what you have to do. The cost of childcare being the main reason and then the availability of it. Some providers didn’t have space until my DC would be nearly two and I was enquiring less than a week after finding out I was pregnant.

Reading some older threads on here, people seem to share my view or have stronger opinions about why it’s wrong to WFH with a young child.

However, my experience of what people do IRL (might just be among those I know) is vastly different. I know a handful of people in various professions who admit to either them WFH or their partner working from home with the child there, for at least one day a week, to help cut costs down. Even my DM who always worked a hybrid position used to work from home whilst me and my sister were very young and said she just managed it and enjoyed the flexibility!!!

AIBU to think it actually happens a LOT more in real life than people are happy to admit?

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BrieAndChilli · 30/03/2024 12:31

I don’t think you can do both to the best of your ability.
either your work suffers as you spends time with your child, entertaining them, taking them out, providing them with enriching experiences and helping them to learn etc OR you crack on with your work whilst your child sits on the tv all day with little interaction or fresh air.

I have worked from home in jobs.
mine was when my eldest was a baby and I worked evenings ina. Virtual call centre, and either my husband was home or my FIL came over in case the baby woke up.
2nd time they were all primary school age and I wfh during the day then finished at 3 to pick them up. I did on occasion when no school holiday club keep them at home but it was only doable coz I finished at 3 and we could then go to the park and other stuff.

I don’t think there is any way you can successfully wfh with an under 5 year old. They need a lot of interaction, supervision and input in order for them to learn, socialise and gain the skills they need. Primary age kids are doable depending on the child and the job involved and it’s only for a couple of days in the holidays.

Oheighthundreddoubleohtensixtysix · 30/03/2024 19:17

FilthyforFirth · 30/03/2024 07:02

I missed out a word, I am part of senior management.

How would I be a line manager without management aspects to my job? I hold my team meetings and 1-1s in the office, but I am available to speak to team members whenever they need me. What a weird comment.

Congrats on your 'gotcha' moment! I didnt spell that word correctly so of course, you got me. I'm not a project manager, I dont manage anyone. I made this all up for fun as I was bored one day.

These comments are batshit. It isn't a race to the bottom. 'I cant work from home in my chosen industry so no one should be able to'.

Maybe my job is pointless. It is public sector (where I have worked my whole life) though and provides a service to frontline staff. So doesnt feel pointless to me.

The personal attacks here, from presumably, majority female posters, is pretty depressing. I have been accused of having a non complex job, being superior, failing my son, being rubbish at my job, the list goes on.

My crime? Was to respond to a thread asking if people work from home with a child, to say on one day a week, in partnership with my DH I do.

You should realise that work threads always bring out the fantasists on Mumsnet who claim to work and have a Very Important Job but in reality their only experience of professional life has been gained from watching Melanie Griffith in Working Girl.

Saschka · 31/03/2024 00:52

trackertoo · 30/03/2024 06:56

highly confidential and personal

it is concerning the idea of
a) a social worker mainly wfh and not visiting
b) doing said paperwork at home

Can’t comment on the visits, but it is entirely normal for social workers and HCPs to have a work laptop, which they use to access the VPN.

It’s completely secure, there’s nothing stored on the laptop itself (you are logging into a virtual desktop).

Saschka · 31/03/2024 00:58

trackertoo · 30/03/2024 12:20

it’s concerning that at your dining table you can log on remotely and have access to highly highly confidential personal information about people, including children, contact details, concerns

Guess what? From up a mountain in Austria, I can log into my patients’ medical records on my phone, and even change their prescriptions. Isn’t modern technology wonderful?

sunglassesonthetable · 02/04/2024 21:34

Guess what? From up a mountain in Austria, I can log into my patients’ medical records on my phone, and even change their prescriptions. Isn’t modern technology wonderful?

Indeed.

I don't think some posters on here ARE really 'concerned ' and tbh don't really get how a lot of stuff is done anyway.

And as for being experts on other people's salaries. Dear god, get a life. 😄

enchantedsquirrelwood · 03/04/2024 12:20

Saschka · 31/03/2024 00:58

Guess what? From up a mountain in Austria, I can log into my patients’ medical records on my phone, and even change their prescriptions. Isn’t modern technology wonderful?

Why is it less secure at someone's kitchen table (my garden office in my case) than it would be in an office?

Beezknees · 03/04/2024 17:03

enchantedsquirrelwood · 03/04/2024 12:20

Why is it less secure at someone's kitchen table (my garden office in my case) than it would be in an office?

If anything I'd say it's less secure in an office than in my house. I work alone at home, when I'm in the office there are tons of people walking around who could see this information.

Thoraxia · 03/04/2024 17:20

I think depends if you are talking about
baby. Shouldnt
Toddler. Shouldnt
Preschooler. Maybe limited hours
School age might be ok in holidays
5+ probably fine
7+ almost all would be fine

I dont think 35 hr week with baby or toddler would be ok. And covid aside would probably be neglectful as wouldnt be talking to or socialising child. And with asd or adhd etc child could be very dangerous.

My 4.5yo was ok in lockdown as i spent most of time with her sister doing her work. However it probably wasnt great for her development.

My dc would have created havoc and danger under 3yo.

I wouldnt put school age kids in after school care thougb as mine like tocchill out anyway and care would stress them more than relaxing.

Whole school holidays inside might be sad though

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