To call out 1 of the other school mums

[MeadowL]

We're all in a school Mums WhatsApp group and we're trying to organise a leaving party for our year 6's. 8 of us want to do a disco type affair for everyone but this 1 mum is trying to organise a cinema trip and meal out for her DD and trying to entice other kids in. I'm absolutely raging. AIBU if I completely lose the plot and call her a cunt.

No need to be fuming, your dh will make a profit instead of breaking even now.

He's obviously hugely sought after if he's turned down multiple gigs for the same night.

Are you the one who's 11?

Do both.

Explain dh has turned down DJ jobs to do the disco for free so let's push the cinema trip x weekend

If you attempted to "call me out" on a group chat and then called me a "cunt" simply for suggesting an alternative to a dad disco I would take you down so thoroughly that you'd be a complete laughing stock with every other parent for the rest of time.

It's not about you and your preferences. It's about what the kids want - and some of them may want a cinema trip rather than a disco. Why do you think YOU get to decide? Because your husband is a 'dj' - and?

By all means, be 'that' mum. Go ahead and see how well it ends for you.

Err, why can't they do both. Or at least be invited to both.

You're planning on calling someone that foul word in a public forum because she wants to invite your child to the cinema. Why would you do that? 🙄

I'm very glad my child doesn't go to that school.

And what do the kids want to do?

is there any reason both things can’t be done?

and why is your dh charging?

A disco?
Are you trying to relive the 80-90's?
Then calling someone out and calling her a cunt.

Maybe some families would prefer less noise and something more civilised rather than a disco.

What is the cost price of a dj set?

You sound pathetic

That's your own fault then. You went ahead and booked him for something when you didn't have confirmation.

Ask the kids what they want.

So what is actually happening is that your family is set to make money and you're pissed off that this might now not be the case? Though really a leavers do will be in what, July? So unsure why he couldn't get another booking between now and then.
You should let the kids decide what they want to do.
Oh and if was one of the other parents and you waded in calling her a cunt I'd be giving you an extra wide berth -this us coming from someone who loves to call people cunts btw 🤭

I feel terribly sorry for your child though. How humiliating to have a mother who behaves as you plan to !!

If some kids would rather the cinema surely it's fine for them to go? Isn't it about what they want?

Your DH shouldn't really charge the school, I'm surprised he is. Presumably the disco is therefore a low cost event, so the cinema event could be offered on a different day and some may do both?

Doing it "at cost" literally means he won't be out of pocket because "out of pocket" means you spend money on it.

I can't believe he's even charging costs for kids disco for his kid and friends! I made 45 cupcakes for my dd's Y6 leavers party. Didn't charge a bean. Nor did any of the other parents who also provided things - including the dad disco (yes he was professional).

Are you paying your kid's share? Or just charging everyone else?

There's 4 months until the end of year, I'm sure tightwad could fill his afternoon slot.

He shouldn’t be charging at all!

What is wrong with you?

We did this when my son finished primary; all the parents who could do anything vaguely party/disco like pitched in and did it for free. The rest all made a dish of food each or brought crisps/cakes/juice. One mum printed off all the kids primary photos through the years and made a photo wall.

Once it was all arranged and everyone committed to something, we then split the cost of the hall and bouncy castle and domino’s pizza order (which dominoes gave us at 80% off after a lot of negotiating) between all the kids going and each paid about £12.

So again… what is wrong with you?

He’s not offered to do it for free, he has offered to do it for “cost”. Though what the “cost” could be I am struggling to work out since I assume he has his own super fun dad disco equipment. A fivers worth of petrol for the van? Replacement bulbs for the disco lights? A spa trip so he looks his best on the night? Unlimited bottles of alcopop?

Maybe the other mum's DH is starring in the movie?

And you do sound 11.

So just say that, calmly.

How many year 6 kids are there?
Are all (or majority) in this WhatsApp group? Because you only have consent from 8 but have formalised the date and booked your dh ...

There's nothing stopping the other parent organising an event. If it's a clash then someone (not you) should simply speak to her and discuss things.

The cost price? What is the cost price of playing music you already own on equipment you already own?

This will be another thread getting deleted because the replies didn't go her way......

It sounds like you have already lost the plot.

Maybe try to not act so irrational. Would you want your "outburst" to negativity effect your child's end of year celebration?

Let us know how it goes when you call her a cunt 😆

Run a silent disco one day as it is more inclusive.
Have the cinema another day.
No problems.