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To ask for your most minor, irrational ick?

415 replies

trekking1 · 28/03/2024 22:39

The thing that men do that is completely normal to most people, but gives you the ick?

Mine is men wearing long socks with shorts. I'm sorry I just can't

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Jewelanemone · 29/03/2024 08:14

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 29/03/2024 07:46

Depends what it's in relation to:
food - fine,
people - nope,
other random things, e.g. a handbag - nope.

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No, 'yummy' is never fine in any context from anyone over the age of five. Especially men.

Lion400 · 29/03/2024 08:14

..most minor, irrational ick?

White socks (if not playing sport)
Too tight trousers
Too short trousers
Too long shorts
Football tops when not at football
Pointy shoes
A MAMIL (though you could argue that’s not irrational)
Eating too quickly / greedily
Thinking that what they’ve got to say is fascinating
Wearing leather bracelets / necklaces as if they’re still a teenager in Spain / Thailand / Australia

Sparkleandshine231 · 29/03/2024 08:16

Jewelanemone · 29/03/2024 08:14

No, 'yummy' is never fine in any context from anyone over the age of five. Especially men.

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Agreed, also tummy, poorly, yippee! Or any childish word.

Cactusleopard · 29/03/2024 08:16

StormySpanielz · 29/03/2024 08:05

I think the second example is a good use of ‘a little bit OCD’. They bring their own cutlery to work, wash and dry, then keep it safe somewhere so no one else can use it. It seems quite particular and vaguely neurotic. Most MH conditions exist on a spectrum. Of course this example is probably not associated with the distress or harm of serious OCD, but it’s not completely different. Why do we have to be offended by it.

But yeah the first example is just having decent standards about basic grammar 🤣

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Should have put... we all take our own cutlery if we take food that needs eating with it. Work doesn't have a communal cutlery drawer like other places I've worked. They don't have mugs either weirdly so you take and clean your own one of those. They have a big urn for hot water if you want a tea or coffee, but no mugs, spoons, tea or coffee. 🤣😋

Cooroo · 29/03/2024 08:19

NahNeedsGarlic · 28/03/2024 23:16

Cycling. Fine if they’re heading to work on an old bike with their lunch in a backpack and wearing hi-viz, instant turn-off if they’re wearing lycra and out in a pack doing 10mph whilst looking like they’re putting in enough effort for the Olympics.🤢

But (like me) they're doing their best to stay fit and reduce pressure on the NHS!

totallybonkerswarning · 29/03/2024 08:21

Jifmicroliquid · 29/03/2024 07:10

This knocks me sick. I have no idea why but i really hate it.

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I have not seen this....

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 29/03/2024 08:22

@trekking1 oooh no, assuming you mean ankle socks not knee length, I love a man in shorts and socks (I actually just love socks, I wear shorts and sports socks myself 😂). Orrrr even better shorts, socks and work boots.

TBH, my ick is anything “feminine” on a man.

mumda · 29/03/2024 08:22

So if your ick was on someone famous does it change things?

SmugglersHaunt · 29/03/2024 08:23

Men who (when it's cold) blow into their cupped hands and stamp their feet on the floor. Also, men in the office who (when it's cold) wear those zipped jumpers over a shirt and tie. Both make me vom.

So apparently, I can no longer leave the house when it's cold and there might be men about.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 29/03/2024 08:27

Jewelanemone · 29/03/2024 08:14

No, 'yummy' is never fine in any context from anyone over the age of five. Especially men.

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Oh well, you'd find me annoying because food is definitely sometimes yummy in my world.

Bluesclues1 · 29/03/2024 08:29

Men who wear tracksuits in public (I’m not talking gym wear, the fashion tracksuits) - you’re a grown up, why are you dressed like a toddler?

Sandytoesandcrabs · 29/03/2024 08:32

BobbyBiscuits · 29/03/2024 00:37

Reading/using phone while shitting, pretending to shit. That's a gross one.

When I was a teen, about 16 my biggest ick was hearing my boyfriends mum calling him and his younger brother down for lunch, they both trotted down..I followed. A bit unsure...
For context, At home I bought and cooked all my own meals.
She had set up a twee fancy dining table, and proceeded to make a big fuss, I was perched in the corner.
Bf and bro looked excited. Mum produced a pan of heated tinned ravioli and lovingly spooned them individually into each son's plate. About 5 each, lol
My BF was 18.
I was not offered anything and didn't eat meat.
That scarred me for life for some reason.

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No toast?

PickleJelly · 29/03/2024 08:37

Light jeans 🤮

PlayOurSong · 29/03/2024 08:39

Also, men in the office who (when it's cold) wear those zipped jumpers over a shirt and tie.

Not with a tie, but I love those zipped jumper over a shirt.

Thighdentitycrisis · 29/03/2024 08:39

@PansyOatZebra

Yes to the irrational hate of golfers or even those who express an interest in it!

I put this to my sister who agreed with me but we couldn’t fathom where our prejudice came from

Katemax82 · 29/03/2024 08:40

Cactusleopard · 28/03/2024 22:54

People claiming to be "a bit OCD" about something.
No.... there's no "a bit OCD".
Obsessive compulsive disorder is a genuine recognised and diagnosed condition that can be completely debilitating to the people who suffer with it.
There isn't a month that goes by where I don't hear someone say they are a bit OCD about this or that. No. You like it done that way and have a preference. But if its not done that way... nothing happens to you. You might wrinkle your nose a bit and that's it.
If it were any other mental health condition you were claiming to have and essentially mocking or belittling then in this day and age you would be put in your place, but for some reason people are OK with saying it about OCD.

This. My MIL said it once so my husband pulled her up on it. My best friend has it very badly and its quite horrendous

genericbrunette · 29/03/2024 08:40

People who hold their knife and fork in the wrong hands

It should be fork in left, knife in right.

Katemax82 · 29/03/2024 08:41

SmugglersHaunt · 29/03/2024 08:23

Men who (when it's cold) blow into their cupped hands and stamp their feet on the floor. Also, men in the office who (when it's cold) wear those zipped jumpers over a shirt and tie. Both make me vom.

So apparently, I can no longer leave the house when it's cold and there might be men about.

Lol!

trisky · 29/03/2024 08:42

White socks unless playing sport and even then 🤮

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 29/03/2024 08:43

genericbrunette · 29/03/2024 08:40

People who hold their knife and fork in the wrong hands

It should be fork in left, knife in right.

I recently discovered that this does actually vary in different countries, so depending on your parentage/where you come from it might be partly down to that.
I agree it looks odd seeing it though.

FootballFriend · 29/03/2024 08:44

Hypochondriacs

Lion400 · 29/03/2024 08:45

FootballFriend · 29/03/2024 08:44

Hypochondriacs

All men then 😂

Katemax82 · 29/03/2024 08:48

My husband gives me the ick a lot. Some examples
Always saying when talking about the king " I think they should just skip him and give the throne to wills and kate"

Calling weatherspoons "with-a-spoon"

Doing this annoying hoiking of phlegm on the way to the bathroom

When his a ds were young, referring to them as "the boys". Don't know why but it did my head in. I'm glad I've got mixed genders so I have "kids" not "boys"

My MIL...
Saying "it was 5 year ago" instead of years. She removes and adds s to words wrong. Like "tesco's" or "asda's" or even "wikeses" not sure if she says "Holland and barrettses"but probably

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/03/2024 08:51

I find anal retentiveness of any kind a huge turn off in a man. Obsessive tidiness, small appetite, over cautiousness and risk aversion.

Men who have overly tidy desks or fold their socks when they pack. Overzealous planning.

Maybe it’s primal and it’s probably internal misogyny but I want men at some level to be fearless and capable of acting on instinct.

That doesn’t mean I want to be with a slob or a glutton. But I need a man to be capable of bravery and rule breaking at least sometimes. I could never be in a LTR with an accountant or an actuary.

User8643733 · 29/03/2024 08:52

BreedingHeifer · 29/03/2024 07:44

Aso, small children with a line of snot from nostril to mouth. There is a year 5 at my DS's school who still sports a snot line on a regular basis. Wipe your nose, child.

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YES! One of my DD's friends at nursery has a permanent blob of green snot hanging out of her left nostril. She's a lovely friendly girl and obviously can't do much about it herself but the ick I get each time I see it.