To get my DH a separate laundry basket

[Barcelonita]

DH is not great around the house and will never put on a wash and always has to be asked to ‘put clothes on the line’ ‘take clothes on’ , ‘put in dryer’ etc etc and it’s wearing.

The other day he, yet again, put drying on the wrong setting so it wouldn’t dry and when he checked and said it was still wet, I said I’d show him the proper setting. He then got all annoyed at my ‘tone’ . He basically hates being told
what to do but seen as he hates that and also won’t show any initiative was I unreasonable to buy a new basket and tell him to do his own? I mean I’d rather we could manage things together but that doesn’t seem to be happening.

Before anyone asks he doesn’t do much around the house.

We've had separate laundry basket and separate laundry nights for years. He does his and I do mine. Works for us and helps towards a stress-free life.

Not the point of the thread but if everyone does their own washes, doesn't it take ages to get lots of one colour group together? or do people not split washing into colour groups anymore?

I do one full load of colours a week and on load of whites every other week.

DH does his own but always full loads and DS fills at least one basket a week too.

Dark and light only. Takes no time at all.
I also divide into robust and delicate.

How many groups do you have?

Recognise "Tactical Incompetence" for what it is.... a means to avoid doing much so that you, as the expert in these matters to take over.

Thanks.

I usually do whites, delicates, blue/grey/navy/blacks and then a red/pink/yellows washes!

I can't believe people live like this 😂

Of course you have a choice. If he won't take the initiative and do it himself, and moans when you remind him, it is easy.

Stop reminding him, and just do your own washing. He's an adult, and presumably capable of using articles powered by electricity. Let him do his own.

I do all the laundry - I prefer it that way. Full loads, nothing changing colour or shrinking.....

In return, DH gets all the jobs I don't want to do. Bins, recycling, shoe cleaning, lawn-mowing, emptying dishwasher etc. Easy stuff. Sometimes has to be reminded but they are HIS tasks.

This division of labour works well for us.

Of course not, if you weren't around he would have to do his own laundry.

We have a LB with compartments to separate into person rather than mixed

You actually believe this stuff? Wow.

My friend’s 7 year old son irons his own uniform. It’s not rocket science.
Definitely doesn’t take half an hour either.

It constantly astonishes me what sone women will believe and take from a man.

Your manchild along with some others on this thread, deserves an Oscar.

Why would a man allow his own clothes to change colour or shrink? What is inherently female about being able to prevent this?

I don’t have a partner. But the children each have theirs and do their own.

My ex finally put his laundry in the basket once I pointed out that, even if he was in a hotel, it was not someone else’s job to pick up his dirty laundry.
After that he complained about the way his socks were not paired for washing.
Last time he had any washing done.
He now does it all, in his own house.
My opinion of men has nose dived these past few years.

His tactic of being useless at laundry is working. I successfully avoided ironing shirts by burning one deployed same tactic. Get the basket.

I prefer to do everyone's washing then it is definitely clean and definitely dry and given back to correct person😆
I like washing.
Partner does many other chores.
Works well for us.

When I started a new job (part time to full time, higher salary but also more stress/responsibility) I had a bit of a moment when I felt like I was drowning and pleaded with DH to help out more as I couldn’t do it all anymore, things seemed better and I felt a little lighter, in fact I felt rather smug. One day I went to do a load of laundry and found a pile of clean, folded (although now slightly creased and smelling of sweaty washing) clothes halfway down the washing basket. He obviously for whatever reason saw the clean washing, couldn’t be bothered to put it away and just chucked it back in the wash. I was honestly heartbroken. I stopped doing his washing there and then but never had the nerve to tell him or confront him about it. So now I put my washing in DC’s laundry basket and do ours together. It took DH about 2 weeks to run out of clean underwear notice he needed clothes. And I quite honestly plead ignorance and apologise that I haven’t had chance to do one of “his” loads.

This is also to be expected regularly OP, I can almost guarantee 🙄🙄🙄

Nothing at all. There's also nothing inherently "male" about putting bins out and mowing the lawn. I just prefer doing laundry (properly!) and he's quite happy doing other stuff that I'd rather not do. Win-Win.

I don't wear whites. My stuff all gets lumped in one cool wash. I do have some delicate clothes, silk dresses etc, but they don't get washed very often, usually after no less than ten or fifteen wears.

We tackle laundry by me doing the uncomplicated, high volume stuff and he does the fiddly less regular stuff plus the dishwasher to make it even.

I'm the one who doesn't concentrate and read labels etc, but I don't buy much clothing that needs special care.

You will have become nose blind to this, but they will need more washing than that.

Not being unreasonable at all. We have separate baskets as DP had always preferred it however since he likes to use up every single item of underwear before doing his washing (and ending up needing to wear my knickers), thus doing multiple loads in a row and usually when I need to wash bedding or towels, I generally keep track of all baskets and ensure each one is emptied weekly. It saves me the stress and anxiety of his laundry en masse. To add, he is suspected ADHD which I think explains why he leaves it all to the last minute.

We have separate laundry baskets and do our own laundry. Just never really transitioned to sharing a basket when we moved in together and subsequently got married. Highly recommend it.

Interesting. I also suspect DH has ADHD (several other males in his family are diagnosed) and very similar. I do have to prompt him when his laundry spills out and overtakes the entire bedroom.