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To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

165 replies

Selenaso · 28/03/2024 07:41

My relationship with my SIL has always been tricky. Whenever I see posts about SILs on here it’s always about something negative (though this is AIBU, after all, so probably shouldn’t be a surprise). AIBU to ask if anyone here has a really good relationship with their SIL, and is glad their sibling married them so this excellent person has been brought into their life? It’d be nice to hear some positive stories and think it’s possible…

YABU - my SIL is a demon
YANBU - my SIL is great and a mate

OP posts:
EVHead · 28/03/2024 07:42

My SIL is lovely. I’m so glad DB met her. She’s a sister to me and a great support to the family. She’s also the cleverest person I know!

Patchworksack · 28/03/2024 07:45

I have three SIL and I get on well with all of them. People don’t tend to post to say ‘my SIL is lovely and we just spent a pleasant weekend together’.

Whoknowswhatanymore · 28/03/2024 07:45

I get on really well with my SIL, probably because I’ve known her from school and she’s also very well suited to my DB. We have some great fun!

NapkinPhotoEar · 28/03/2024 07:46

I get on with my SIL when I see her which is only a handful of times a year. We are just very different and I cannot believe she is Dh's sister. Chalk and cheese. But my own sister has several SILs, she is especially close to two of them, they go on holiday as families in a large group several times a year, they have weekends away with husbands but also just all the women spending time together too. I wish they were my SILs because I love them to bits. Brilliant women.

RRINMIM · 28/03/2024 07:46

I have never posted about my wonderful SIL. Happy to correct that now to say she’s a fabulous woman. Supportive and kind and a good friend.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 07:48

My S+BIL didn't invite us to their wedding and now live thousands of miles away, so no, we're not close. I did get on well with my BIL (married to my sister) but he passed away far too young. I get on ok with my own sister but we live far apart.

Youdontevengohere · 28/03/2024 07:50

Yes I have a great relationship with my SIL, she’s fab.

Purplevioletsherbert · 28/03/2024 07:51

Not currently but I get on very well with my older brothers’s two ex girlfriends (the mothers of his children). Got on great when they were together and get on great now still. My other brother’s wife is fine, long history of her doing things to upset me but it’s mostly water under the bridge now and we are kind to each other.

I really like DPs sister and get on well with her but I’m never convinced she likes me all that much 😅

perimumma · 28/03/2024 07:52

My brothers wife is amazing! I class her as one of my best friends. Always there, great with the kids, she is just the best!

DH sister, although nice, just isn't my cup of tea. We are very different people.

fishonabicycle · 28/03/2024 07:52

My brother's wife was one of my very favourite people - sadly she died age 47 some years ago. I have 3 others who are all great as well - although we don't hang out much, I still really enjoy seeing them.

GoingOnHol · 28/03/2024 07:52

My DB lives abroad so I don't really know his wife but what I do know she seems lovely
DH's brother's wife is lovely, we aren't super close (were closer before kids & used to socialise together) but we get on well when she spend time together. Do.stuff sometimes just us & the kids as welll

IamnotSethRogan · 28/03/2024 07:53

My SIL is my best friend. She isn't DH's sibling though she's his brothers wife. We met or DH's at similar times and she is wonderful

Justbrowsing2024 · 28/03/2024 07:53

One of my sil I adore. Couldn't imagine her not in my life. One of my sil is a nice person we are just very very different and don't really have much in common. No issues though

daffodilandtulip · 28/03/2024 07:54

I had two lovely SiL but when I got divorced, they refused to speak to me or the DC again.

Calamitousness · 28/03/2024 07:55

She’s not a demon. Just very not my type of person.

FilthyforFirth · 28/03/2024 07:57

I have two, one is annoying, quite self absorbed and MILs fave. The other I really like. I spend time with her without my bro, she is a good aunty to my kids and in general good fun to be around.

DrJoanAllenby · 28/03/2024 07:59

I have a brother and two sisters We all love our sister in law, she's one of us. I don't think my brother would have ever married someone who wasn't a good fit in our family as we are all close.

sunights · 28/03/2024 08:00

The relationship between you and your sibling will be pretty key to the SIL dynamic....

BeretRaspberry · 28/03/2024 08:03

I have 2…one DH’s sister and the other his brother’s wife. I get on well with both of them but his brother’s wife is a bit of a drama queen and very hard work at times so I’m not as close to her, though we’re always friendly. She also caused unnecessary trouble once by telling his parents wrong information about something. That was weird and upsetting because I’m not used to family drama. All of my family are close and we don’t have issues so this was horrible.

I’m closer to his sister because DH and her were very close when we got together and we all used to go out clubbing as well back in the day.

gingercat02 · 28/03/2024 08:05

Mine are both lovely, and we do get on well. However, they both live quite far away, so I don't see them very often, but we WhatsApp and FB a lot.

I like BiL wife much more than him!

Sammilouwho · 28/03/2024 08:06

I have 2. One is awful, but both her and my brother used my mum for free childcare every day of the week, all the time amongst other things.
The second, we used to get on, she was wonderful, really involved with the kids until 1) we told her not to post photos of our children on her social media that had a few thousand strangers following her, 2) she met her boyfriend and 3) she got ill around the same time as me (with the same thing) but of course nobody else could be ill or worse than she is. Difference being that the family have paid for her surgery whilst I've deteriorated and am now classed as disabled, so she's deleted me from everything and won't talk to me at family events and honestly, I don't have the energy to deal with her anymore.

My BIL is amazing though!

HelpMeOutOfHere · 28/03/2024 08:11

I love both my SILs.

My husband's sister is lovely and easy to spend time with, although we don't have loads in common.

My brother's wife is just a wonderful woman who I adore.

I known both of them over 20 years now.

Nagado · 28/03/2024 08:18

I’m closer to my brother’s wife than I am my own sisters. She’s bloody lovely.

Rocknrollstar · 28/03/2024 08:37

I barely ever saw my SiLs or spoke to them. We lived 120 miles apart. However DD is good friends with her SiL so it can happen.

burnoutbabe · 28/03/2024 08:42

I get on fine with my sisters wife and my partners sister.

But in a see them every 6 months way and occasional texts or Facebook posts.

Actually I think my sister and partners sister chat more as one wanted to know something about child issues which was the others specialism. So they have not met but are friendly!

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