To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

[Selenaso]

My relationship with my SIL has always been tricky. Whenever I see posts about SILs on here it’s always about something negative (though this is AIBU, after all, so probably shouldn’t be a surprise). AIBU to ask if anyone here has a really good relationship with their SIL, and is glad their sibling married them so this excellent person has been brought into their life? It’d be nice to hear some positive stories and think it’s possible…

YABU - my SIL is a demon
YANBU - my SIL is great and a mate

My DH has an older sister who is like a best friend to me, we have weekends away and do alot together. Love her to pieces

My husband's sisters are great! We're not best friends but I look forward to seeing them and they make family meet ups more enjoyable.

My brother doesn't have a partner but I'm expecting to like her when he finds someone. Hopefully.

My siblings wife is a more malicious version of our narcissistic mother. She even looks like our mother.

She is a deluded, gaslighting, drama triangle communicater with a penchant for diminishing others through lies to elevate her sense of self.

We call her the cuckoo as she has made it her life's mission to try and push me out to take my place. Ironically I couldn't give a shit and she is welcome to them....

HTH answer your question.

I’ve got 3

My brother’s wife - she’s fab, we don’t live nearby so don’t see a great deal of each other, but we get on fine, if not particularly close.

DH has 2 sisters. Again, we don’t live near them so don’t see a lot of them. 1 is lovely, the other a complete nightmare

Mine are lovely and we get on well when we see each other, which is extremely rare! I think the secret is living far and keeping them at arms length. We are all very different and one of them is totally batshit but we just do the usual essential family get togethers and stuff and get on with our lives.

Hate my SIL now, however at first I liked her.

She seems to have this false personality of being overly nice and friendly. But she’s actually very insecure and bitchy.

After a bit she seemed to just decide she didn’t like me and started making backhanded comments, speaking over me at family gatherings, speaking directly to my husband rather than to both of us etc. I literally just ignore her completely now, if she wants to be an insecure little bitch she can do it on her own time lmao.

We don't see her anymore and haven't for many years (DH sister that is), very glad about it and no intention of ever changing this. Not interested in me or our children having any kind of relationship with her ever. My children don't know her and wouldn't recognise her if she walked down the street.
My SIL (brother's wife) on the other hand is a lovely woman who we all love her, I get along with her like a sister.

My brother's widow is in the States. She is a lovely person. We're rarely in touch though. There's the odd, 'hope you're well' message. Since my brother's death, our side of the family doesn't really exist for her anymore. Maybe we're the bridge to my brother/her husband that hurts too much for her to cross. I have to allow her room to live how she needs to. I'm patient and I do love her. Though I miss connecting with her.

My ex husband's sister is the devil's work. My ex is in prison for abusing a minor (our daughter) and his sister has stood staunchly by him and won't speak to me or our children. She's an extreme example of a nasty SIL.

Me! I have 3. Brother's wife is one of my best friends who I love dearly (lives 5 mins drive away). DH has a sister who I adore, but don't see often enough (8 hours away). They will come and stay near us for a week and we will spend all our time as a family, never run out of things to talk about. DH's brother has a wife who is lovely, but very much keeps herself to herself. Rarely see her but they are always generous at Christmas and birthdays to our kids. See her at weddings and sadly funerals.

I'm actually much closer to my female cousins who all live some distance away and so only meet occasionally at family events. We love getting together and they are really easy to get on with.

I really wish they lived closer and the SIL lived hundreds of miles away the mardy mare.

Does it count if your SIL is your husband's sister? Mine is like a second sister to me.

One brother is on his 3rd wife and so I've given up trying to form friendships with them! He's had some truly lovely girlfriends but they ditch him. I think he must be an awful partner.

Other brother is starting a separation from his wife, we've always got on really well but she's blocked the whole family now!

I don't have a sister so it's a big shame

Cannot stand my SIL. She’s a childish, entitled and selfish

Would happily never see her again

@Selenaso my sister in law was my friend first and I am how she met my brother! We struggle with how to identify each other.. best friend or sister in law! We have been on holiday together and I see her and my lovely nieces more than my brother even though I work with him 😂 she is honestly like a sister to me and I love her to bits

I have four sister in laws and they are all lovely.
DB’s wife is a wonderful person. Truth be told, I prefer her to my own brother

I love my SIL - my DHs sister….. we are very different, but I treasure her and her husband and their family. ☺️

On my side of the family - one of my SILs is an absolute sweetheart, truly one of the loveliest people I know. The other is an awkward, difficult woman but my brother loves her so I don't let it bother me.
Both DH sisters are perfectly nice.
So overall yes I like all my SILs and no drama.

I have 2 brothers and am not a fan of both of their wives. The older one is narcissistic and loves to cause drama. Younger one is selfish and doesn't care about anyone and treats people rudely.
Wheres my husband's sisters are both, lovely, I get on well with them. Straightforward women.

People don't post on here about their lovely MILs or lovely PILs or lovely friends generally they post about problems.

I like my MIL so don't get the MIL venom that people seem to have. My SIL is fine but does not live near us. We only see one another a couple of times a year and are not close.

Well my SIL is a very nice person, great mum and lovely family member.

However, I have another SIL who I've only met once. BIL is a scary self obsessed psycho so I do tend to avoid him and therefore don't know that SIL.

Love love love my SIL! She's my best friend I'd say. We set up and have run a business together for the last 8 years. We always joke that if her and my brother ever split up, I'd side with her 🤣 She treats my children like her own, and vice versa. There is nothing we wouldn't do for each other. Probably helps that we share a lot of common interests and are pretty close in age, although I don't think that's necessarily a prerequisite for getting along well with someone. I am very lucky!

I've had 3 Sil's One awful ,but I divorced my ex so don't have to put up with her, two good, but unfortunately out of the two good SIL's one divorced, remarried & moved away and the other has sadly died.

Im more the SIL in this situation, but I get on really well with my fiancés sisters and his sister in law. In fact I’m closer to them than my own sisters (they’re all coming to our wedding my own siblings aren’t) one SIL is basically my maid of honour (if we were having titles)

I would hope if any of them write on here it’s nice things about me!

My sil is an awesome person! I don't see her enough but it's always a joy when I do

I have 2 SILs (one DHs sib the other married to his brother). I'm fairly friendly with DHs sister (we text every now and then and can make conversation at family get togethers). We aren't besties because we have very different tastes but I appreciate her effort and reciprocate.
DHs brothers wife is more up my street and we always have a good chuckle at get togethers but that's as far as it goes.