To ask if anyone has a great relationship with their SIL

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My relationship with my SIL has always been tricky. Whenever I see posts about SILs on here it’s always about something negative (though this is AIBU, after all, so probably shouldn’t be a surprise). AIBU to ask if anyone here has a really good relationship with their SIL, and is glad their sibling married them so this excellent person has been brought into their life? It’d be nice to hear some positive stories and think it’s possible…

YABU - my SIL is a demon
YANBU - my SIL is great and a mate

I get on well with one SIL, my DHs brothers wife. Especially as she told our other SIL , DHs sister to fuck off. I meet first SIL on our own and we both avoid our DHs sister . She's a mean and a bully and a source of drama.

I'm NC with my SIL.

She's truly awful but the straw that broke the camels back was when she turned up to meet my (less than a week old) baby, with some sort of illness that had her coughing and sneezing everywhere. She had absolutely no interest in meeting the child and only wanted a picture for Instagram.

We got in great, then they divorced and she hasn’t spoken to me since!

I love both my SILs (DH’s sister and DB’s wife). They are like sisters to me (and I also have a sister that I love). We’re not in each others pockets but all live fairly close, are in contact regularly and enjoy spending time together with or without kids and partners. I know I’m really lucky!

I love my SIL but we rarely see them. We don't phone each other or anything. But when we do get together we have a great time.

Love my SIL and MIL for that matter.. I am very thankful when I see some of the threads on here that we have such a great relationship! They live about an hour away so we aren’t in each others pockets though we usually FaceTime at least once a week to catch up with them and our niece

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I like my SIL well enough, she's not someone l would chose as a friend but we have a nice time when we all together, which is about twice a year.

I have a mixture

My brothers wives -

👍SIL1 - (now separated from my brother) who is my type of person, live fairly locally (15 miles away), we meet up regularly have gone on holiday a few times together with my niece (without my brother)

👍SIL2 - who is lovely, but they live further away (70 miles) so we don't see each other often/have our own lives. We don't communicate much and no pressure from either side to, but on the rare occasions we meet up as family we have a great laugh.

👿SIL3 - well...........what can I say. she is very different. intense. critical. it has been awkward since the first day we met. think she has good intentions but I find it very hard to understand her motivations and feel judged/awkward in her company so tend to try to avoid her. which leads to more problems as she takes that personally. My own sister, SIL1, SIL2 also struggle with her.

My husbands brothers wives -

👍SIL4 - Similar to my SIL2, we get on great when together at family events, help each other out if needed, maybe have a meal together around Christmas to catch up, but don't see each other socially otherwise.

👍SIL5 - Got on ok, went to a handful of concerts together as we have similar music tastes. Then there was a very bad breakup with BIL (faults on both sides) and she severed most links after that, which, after wishing her well, I respect. We don't go beyond liking each others posts on FB.

I wish. Mine is a typical high school mean girl, but 40. Always something rude or snarky to say. Joust generally a horrible person. Literally from first meeting. Really took me aback.

MIL too, so of course I blame all shitty attributes of my husband on her.

so I mostly just try and make myself small and say nothing.

its really too bad, because I loved all my ex’s families. Like stayed with one a year longer than I should’ve because his sisters and mom were so lovely.

so because of past relationships I believe you can have a great SIL.

Wouldn’t say I was close to my SIL (we all only see each other a few times a year) but she’s very nice and I like her (that’s DH’s sister)

I don't. The only real question is which of us dislikes the other more!

Both my SIL are great (partners sisters) been in the family for 9 years and their parents also see and treat me as one of their own. See one daily and the other Atleast once a week.

My SIL is great (she’s my BIL wife) we don’t see eachother much but I’ve always enjoyed her company and I have huge admiration for her ❤️

I got on very well with my SIL from first marriage. We both met our DOs at a similar time, we’re similar ages and had a lot in common. We also both got pregnant accidentally earlier than planned and had DC born within 5 days of each other. My first marriage spout up over 20 years ago now but I still see them occasionally. My new set of in laws is a different kettle of fish!