To feel a bit jealous about this woman and DH?

[pinkmushroom5]

My DH has just had a very small promotion at work. It's been expected for a while and not a particularly big change from his current role, really. We went out for a drink to celebrate but no one did any cards/ gifts as it wasn't a huge thing (he didn't have to interview or anything like that).

But today I've noticed a card on the mantelpiece which is from a female colleague who is his junior, he sometimes talks about her in a friendly way but I didn't think anything of it. But the image on the front of the card is of a very specific hobby that he does in his spare time - she must have sought out the card from Etsy or something because it's not something you'd get on the high street.

Inside is gushing praise about how 'delighted' she is and how well deserved it is along with a little doodle of herself.

It's the only card he's received.

Is there something going on here? I feel a bit weird about it but I don't know if I'm being overly jealous.

I think you’re reading way too much into it. Would you feel this way if she were older and less pretty? Is it literally just because she’s younger and attractive so you feel threatened?

I’m the only woman in our department now after wonderful job cuts last summer. One married colleague is classically good looking and I’m the youngest and not ugly, they use both me and him as the models for publicity. I got him a card and book last year when he became a professor because it was a nice thing to do, it doesn’t mean I fancy him because I don’t. I get fed up with the narrative about us having a thing for one another just because of the way we look tbh, it’s really boring.

Both me and my DP would definitely be saying something to eachother if this was us!!

Totally understand the little flash of jealousy. It does sound harmless/innocent though and actually quite sweet! Glad you've gotten over it :-)

You could be honest and say Gosh, I haven't felt those feelings in a long time.

Yes, my antenna would be whirring too & I'd be advising DH to stay clear of her.

Ask him, a little bit of jealousy isn’t anything to be ashamed of, we all feel that way sometimes.

You can’t do that at my work. It would be seen as wrong. If you want to reach out to a colleague, you praise them via reward and recognition.

Honestly it sounds like she may have a crush on him but I don't think he's even aware. If he was I doubt the card would be on display.
I would tell him to be very careful and maybe mention it to HR because if things don't go her way she could cry victim especially with him being her boss