‘The days are long but the years are short.’
’I would give anything to go back.’
and so on.
And I do get it. I’ve had lovely, golden moments. But they have been moments and the days are hard going, and so are the nights.
I have broken nights as the baby doesn’t sleep through. Then the toddler wakes early. During the day someone constantly needs me, the baby cries, the toddler asks me what I’m doing x 100000 times every minute (conversation literally is ‘what you doing mummy?’ ‘I’m sweeping the mess you made floor darling.’ ‘What you doing mummy?’ X 10.)
Illness, we’ve just come out of a bout of illness which saw me have to go to out of hours with an unwell toddler in the evening. Horrible.
Mess, weaning baby, egg on the floor, sweetcorn under the chair, fish behind the TV three times a day!
Crying, snot, tantrums, getting sucked into pointless arguments (yes I know you want to play with that knife but you can’t.) Poo accidents, managing naps (baby) while the older one is so noisy. Toys everywhere, mess, no time to get stuff done.
We do actually get out a lot and it looks like we’re having so much fun and they are, I think they are anyway, and they are lovely children. Equally though I am looking forward to them growing and having some more time for me, to just breathe. AIBU to think a lot of people romanticise this time? I know I probably will one day too!
AIBU?
To think people romanticise the baby / toddler years
Maybeiamagrump · 27/03/2024 09:37
Am I being unreasonable?
198 votes. Final results.
POLLTobarnanGealt · 27/03/2024 09:48
Not me. It was absolutely ghastly. I adore DS, but I only started enjoying parenthood properly once I'd gone back to work. I loathed the newborn and small baby stage, and it felt like I spent years of my life going blue in a playground or clapping while he jumped into his favourite puddles repeatedly. He's almost 12 now, and I could still write a dissertation on 'Puddles of A Village I Haven't Lived in For Years'.
Alwaysallways · 27/03/2024 10:03
Depends on your child and your outlook to life, your situation, support levels, finances… so much surely?
Also, possible unpopular opinion but the people on here and IRL in the trenches seem to be those who have had a very small age gap and competing priorities. If we have more than one we will have a large gap, and it’s a very big if atm!
Annoyed851 · 27/03/2024 10:00
I get annoyed when people who went through it years ago completely overlook how hard it is when you’re in the thick of it and romanticise and belittle how broken we are as parents. Yes, I know I’ll look back and miss it but right now I need you to stop reminding me of that when I just need you to acknowledge that I’m knackered!
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Maybeiamagrump · 27/03/2024 10:08
Some of us were ancient on the older side when we started!
I don’t mind the gap. I think it would have been harder in some ways to have come out of it then back into it but also understand why some prefer not to do that.
Alwaysallways · 27/03/2024 10:03
Depends on your child and your outlook to life, your situation, support levels, finances… so much surely?
Also, possible unpopular opinion but the people on here and IRL in the trenches seem to be those who have had a very small age gap and competing priorities. If we have more than one we will have a large gap, and it’s a very big if atm!
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