To announce some good news

[RussellJack]

Okay, so this is unlikely to feature on the BBC this evening, but I am turning 50 very soon and have heard so many women say here that they stopped giving a fuck about being liked, pleasing people etc at around this age. This worried me as I continue to care about what people think of me, feel pain when I am not liked/included, wonder what I have done wrong. etc etc
But HARK: today in work I found out that for some time there has been a work group chat among my other colleagues where they share social things, jokes etc, and which I was never invited to join. And I waited after finding this out for the feelings of insecurity/self loathing to arise in me, and.............nothing! I don't give a fuck! I feel so liberated!! I may very well have reached the zero fucks to give threshold! Yayyyyyyyy!!!!! Really looking forward to the rest of my zero fucks life now! 😃😅😆

You go girl! I'm a couple of years younger than you, but I gave up caring a while ago. I have my friends, and they're great, and I'm happy with that. Enjoy your newly discovered freedom-from-GAF 😁

And Lo- at the dawn of the first day of the 50th year of woman, behold she with zero fucks to give, and rejoice!

It really is brilliant when you realise you're in the NFG camp isn't it!

Yay - I can't wait to get there, well done 🙂.

I once saw photos on FB of most of my workplace at a birthday thing for one of my colleagues. It definitely hurt! And it probably still does if I'm honest, although at least I don't have to work there any more.

Ha! Ha! Good for you! Just wait until you're my age OP [68], not only will you give zero fucks about anything but you will also not be afraid to front up the people that cause you to give zero fucks in the first place. I'm as brazen as you like these days.

Woohoo!! Love this!! Enjoy the freedom of not giving a FUCK!

Brilliant! I celebrate your joining of the No Fucks Club!!! 🍾✨️🥳😄

I'm working on getting there meself

Congratulations! 🥳

Thanks very very much for your lovely responses guys! Not that I’d GIVE A FUCK if your responses were hostile!!! Ha ha no, I would, gotta walk before you can run 😃

Love this!

It’s great isn’t it !! Me and my friends call it can’t be arsed (CBA) .. it’s so freeing ! My in laws hate me and I no longer try and please them… I visit but CBA being overly nice . They drop hints about that same old carrot THE WILL but I CBA even sucking up to them or doing anything for them.Luckily my OH feels exactly the same. We have a good laugh about them

This has really made me smile, I really do try and actively not give a fuck but it's hard. I'm currently 41 but I think I'm improving slowing. Roll on 50!!
Happy for you op, I really am xx

Yes it's amazing..I'm coming up to 50 and about a year ago...I realized I was free...I honestly don't care now ..you either like me or don't...I am what I am. Strangely since realizing that I seem to be surrounded by friends...it's amazing..wish I had the courage 30 years ago ..

Love this. I'm 32 and I would say I'm half way there. I give less fucks each year!

I’ve started to do this at 60 especially at work …. And I l love it😍

It's very liberating not to worry about so much unnecessary stuff.

And she did say ‘behold my field of fucks for it is barren…’

That's the spirit 😂

It’s great isn’t it. It’s the great silver lining to the menopause.

Yup
Life's too short

@Sittingonthefence83

jesus, someone born in 83 can't be 41 surely

fuck I feel SO OLD.

you still have time to lose your fucks given!!

@RussellJack congratulations and welcome to the club!!

I’m frankly relieved to not be invited to work dos these days, but I’m now very anti-social and would hate to have to go. People know not to bother inviting me. I’d have been gutted 10 years ago, but now in my 50s and I simply dgaf!

Good for you and all the CBA crowd!
Also, what kind of person would it make you if you were only putting up with them because of what you thought you might get in the will?!

I'm 40 and feeling this, I love being older and care free. Why wait until 50!