Should I bin my friend's art?

[Joyjazz]

My friend painted me a picture. The sentiment was lovely but I really hate it. It's not my taste and not in keeping with my house. I keep it behind the TV and hang it whenever she comes to visit so I don't hurt her feelings as she is really proud of this piece and spent many weeks making it. I'm moving to a new house and I don't want to be carrying things that I don't like or want to my new home. I want to take the frame and bin the actual painting. She's a good friend and she is likely to visit and possibly ask where the art is.

AIBU to put the painting in the bin?

Yes but it represents something that your friend has put weeks of their life into, and that they really love.

If you don't want it anymore surely you would give it back rather than chuck it in the bin. It's not the same as a mass produced framed print they've bought from IKEA. They've put their heart into it.

Is anyone else getting a load of ads for the Yoko Ono exhibition at the Tate Modern now?

OP, if your friend is an elderly Japanese woman in dark glasses, don’t bin that picture just yet…

I don't understand why adults think that other people want to receive their shitty arts and crafts. It's like they've not grown up from being a 5 year old showing Mummy their precious drawings.

It's an excuse to do something they enjoy for fun, with no thought at all to whether the recipient will actually like the art. They're just expected to be moved, simply because it came from the artiste. Meanwhile, the giver gets to save money on buying an actual gift.

i know someone who does this, they make people in our friendship circle crappy jewellery, unfunny birthday and Christmas cards and worst of all, home made beauty treatments such as bath oil and face cream that always smell slightly "off". I just smile and accept the gifts as they are made with kindness. I don't know what I would do with a big piece of home made art that I really didn't like

paint one for her in return, tell her it took you weeks

Declare it to be an exhibition, and nominate her for the Turner Prize.

I have been thinking and I think the OP should sell the painting. She needs to come back here and post a picture of it. I am sure someone would be willing to take it off her hands 😂

Perhaps it got damaged in the move ? Clumsy removal company !

Is that Mrs Mangel from Neighbours?😆

Just to say that this Gladys subthread has had me crying with laughter 😂

Hey, that's an idea! Present her with a manky old compost bin with mouldy twigs, old egg boxes and general manky detritus spilling out of it and tell her that it's your most precious objet d'art to date - clearly symbolising (to those with an innate appreciation for art, such as her) the fact that human life can seem chaotic and brutally unbecoming on the surface, but with it comes the sure fertile promise of growth and future beauty, if only you overlook your instant prejudice and view it with the wise eyes of potential nascent wonder.

And if she doesn't give it pride of place in her living room, you will be so upset and offended that you'll know she's decided to permanently soil your close friendship, so the very first thing you will do in response is to cleanse your house of all of her artworks.

Stealing this idea to flog to our local council who tend to buy up this sort of thing at great expense to the tax payer.

Is that Mrs Mangle from the original Neighbours cast?

I would stick my neck out and say that, yes, it most certainly is!

Just say you don't like it, thanks. But love the effort etc. It's the only way you'll never get another one.

I was going to say put it somewhere low profile but then realised you want to reuse the frame. Did she gift the frame as well? If so then you can’t just put the frame somewhere visible and hide the picture. I don’t think you can display one and not the other!
You should have said from the beginning that it wasn’t your taste but I’m a shitbag too so this isn’t something I could have done either!
Also if you say it got damaged she might make you another!

How about

‘hey friend, would you mind awfully if I stored your painting somewhere safe and used the frame for something else? It doesn’t really match the colour scheme in the new house’.

Whatever you do don't tell her it's damaged or lost in move: she'll just do you another

Isn't that one of the pictures Phoebe created on Friends?

Is it really? That's not come up in 14 pages.

Have you seen it?

I'm not sure the OP's friend really likes her...

It got broken by a careless moving guy. What a shame.

Though YYY to the bedroom suggestion.

See when your old and your friend is maybe no longer with you. You will wish you still had that art she lovingly made you. People never fail to surprise me in their utter selfishness

Yes. Reported.

@PossumintheHouse why have you reported, it has been explained many times that it is from Friends