Should I bin my friend's art?

[Joyjazz]

My friend painted me a picture. The sentiment was lovely but I really hate it. It's not my taste and not in keeping with my house. I keep it behind the TV and hang it whenever she comes to visit so I don't hurt her feelings as she is really proud of this piece and spent many weeks making it. I'm moving to a new house and I don't want to be carrying things that I don't like or want to my new home. I want to take the frame and bin the actual painting. She's a good friend and she is likely to visit and possibly ask where the art is.

AIBU to put the painting in the bin?

I'd like to forgive you, but I can't because your user name is wrong. It should be RicePuddingWithNutmeg. 😋

Agree, it's fecking hilarious 🤣

Nope I’d be happy they hung it. But I don’t gift any artwork I keep it all lol. I’ve been asked to do commissions from F&F but said no, don’t want the hassle art is my therapy. I did photography years back and would gift that if someone particularly loved something as I printed them myself. Once offered a portrait photo to a friend knowing she might not like it, she didn’t like her hair down so I hung it up in my hallway. Just remembered I hung a watercolour painting in my bathroom years back that I was proud of :)

Is this the one on eBay?!

Tell her it got lost by the removers - I've had so much stuff lost that way!

That is horrific!

that's actually Glynnis :)

Are you in a sitcome... I'm pretty sure both 'friends' and 'big bang theory' had this storyline lol.

Has everyone taken some sort of dense pill today?!?!

Many many years ago I was heavily into making collages using images from magazines. I made one each for my mother and sister, showcasing things I knew they liked (dollhouses, certain flowers, rooms etc). Two years ago my sister asked me if I would mind if she didn't keep it, as her interests had moved on and she had no place to hang it. I was absolutely fine with it. For me, I created it out of love but once it left my hands it belonged to my sister. She was then free to do with it what she wanted. A gift with forever strings is not really a gift.

In the end, she told me that she had taken a photo of it so that she would always see/remember what I had created.

Is that an option OP? Take a photo of the artwork - tell your friend that you love what she created and want a visual memory of it but just don't feel that it has a place in your new home.

This thread is the gift that keeps on giving even if it's not wanted 😂

Sure is, yours for just £700 - you can even get 24 months to spread your payments!

I now understand why Brexit was voted for 😜

I have the opposite problem - a mother who is creative and wants me to be too - thinks I have a 'talent' for art and insisted I make her something one year. I actually did (had time off following a redundancy.) But Fuck.

I can't decide which is more of an imposition - giving someone a large painting with the expectation it will have pride of place or demanding someone's TIME, creativity, aggro as a gift.

OP, if you lied about the picture getting lost/damaged in the move, I'd worry that the friend would spend weeks toiling on another piece of artwork that you won't like. I'd be honest and say that it is a really lovely present but doesn't suit the look you're going for in your new home.

A name change is your only hope.

This is Mumsnet. People don’t answer the door to unexpected (and especially uninvited) callers.

I have always fancied this on my wall. (For any fellow oldies)

Disclaimer: THIS IS NOT THE OP’S PICTURE.

Take a photo of it and print it postcard size. Put into a really nice frame of your taste and display on shelf.
Invite friend round, return original and say it looked great in the old place but somehow it doesn't have the right shape/tone/aspect in the new place.
But look how I fixed that loss by making a mini framed one, it's so lovely, tada!

Looks like her neck has gone through the item that she's named after!

I would say it doesn't suit new place, please have it back or it will go in the loft. I wouldn't chuck it, and I wouldn't separate it from the frame.

Iconic queen.

@RicePuddingWithCinnamon

Gladys!! 😂

I genuinely would be fine hearing that it's not for them - I'd rather my work was somewhere that it would be appreciated than 'just hung somewhere out of the way' - and I'd especially rather hear that than it be put in the bin.

Having said that though, I don't gift art to my friends/ family for this very reason! - so I probably have a different personality to OP's friend.

OP hasn't posted a picture of the work.

The picture posted was a clip from the TV show 'Friends'.