Instagram 'Influencers'

[Hedgehog44]

AIBU in thinking posting your child's every move on Instagram is setting them up for being bullied and ridiculed by their peers or do you think it's ok to use your children as your 'brand'? One particular 'influencer' winds me right up with the way she infantilises her 11 year old son in her posts to get herself likes and I feel like she's asking for both her kids to get bullied. Kids can be really cruel.

Good grief, the Tattle thing is a bit grim. I feel a bit naive. I'm not sure I've spelled naive correctly.

It's all a bit grim. I find I follow someone doing something interesting, then they start doing ads, and then it's awful as it's all ads and faux humble stuff, then I unfollow.

There is a mother, I can’t recall her account handle, who I came across from a parenting consent account who is sexualising her young daughter and posting it. Most of her followers are men and they make gross comments. She has now turned the comments off because people kept commenting calling her out. Picture and videos of her daughter eating things like hot dogs or in poses which show her underwear. She’s deleted a few of the more riskier things but she won’t back down and remover her daughter or delete.

she’s been told repeatedly that she is essentially selling her daughter to paedophiles via a screen but she doesn’t care and keeps going. I get that in their heads they’re making money, but selling your child to make it is just horrific.

Why do you keep looking at it?

I don’t. I follow an account that talks about online consent and it was discussed in the comments and I had a look to see how bad it was. I looked once and can’t even recall the persons name or the name of her kid.

Biazarre to me arsey with me about it. I don’t follow any parental ‘influencers’.

Tattle is really awful. Influencers oversharing their children is truly grim but surely the best thing is to just ignore them not hate watch and then post absolutely disgusting things about them on a playground gossip forum?! Ugh. They’re all as bad as each other.

@Throwyourkeysup great points. I know one person who posts about their child's personal battle with ASD. We don't all need to know publicly. I have seen posts from others saying 'x isn't academic but great they got good effort grades'
Commenting openly about a child is awful

Head over to the arena of kids football or rugby and some men are seriously the worst offenders. Boasting about the prowess of their son / daughter to try get them scouted

On all this re kids. Maybe companies should be banned from giving freebies to under 18s for insta promotion?
I am only on IG to keep an eye on what my teens access. But there are vast numbers of social influencer kids who have multiple sponsorship deals and get endless expensive freebies.
I have a friend whose pre teen daughter has over 1000 followers who gets plenty of stuff. Also gets invites to stuff to promote their brands / events.
I know of others that take lots time off school for their IG..

That section of Tattle is horrendous. The posters compete with each other to make the most awful and disgusting comments.

For those mentioning Tattle, I’ve read far far worse on MN towards posters / celebs.

Tattle enabled me to see the lies being peddled by so many of these influencers.

It's too easy to take a childs image and digitally manipulate it for nefarious reasons.IAI has just made it even easier.
t's the reason why videos of their children eating pickles and bananas have thousands of saves and a lot of their followers are adult men.
I would never post any images of children online full stop

I totally agree that I have read much worse comments actually addressed directly to people here on the grounds that it's AIBU, well we're harsh!
Reading Tattle has opened my eyes to a lot of things some of these people are doing that I hadn't thought about properly and reading it suddenly thought oh my God, this is so awful.

Me too re Tattle. I used to think those accounts were relatively harmless until I read things on there that made me really think about how horrendous the sharing of their kids is. Father of Daughters and his daughter’s diabetes is one of the worst - poor girl, aged 10 - she didn’t ask for thousands of people to see her photo in a hospital bed. He claims it’s ‘raising awareness’ - what a crock. There are ways to raise awareness than don’t involve exploiting your child.
I think criticism of them is totally fair game too - if you put yourself out there to make money (which is why they do it), then you have to accept that some people won’t like you and will slag you off online. Thems the breaks! Don’t like it, deactivate your account and get a real job.

I first started using social media in 2007 and would post photos of my baby so family could see but then I became educated on the dangers of posting photos of my kids online and about digital footprint. My children also got to an age where they didn’t want me to post about them online so I removed/set to private all the old photos.

I used to watch one creator who then started using her child for likes and views. The comments section became very disturbing, with people asking to see the child eat and asking to see the stool sample when the child was unwell.

Yes. Just can’t be arsed with the whataboutery “women are just as bad” posts

I remember half watching a program about people I'd never heard of at the time

Saccone jolys?

Anyway,the father was being asked about what he thought of pictures of his children being uploaded onto porn sites and you could tell he didn't give a fuck

His whole body language was 'I don't care,but I know I have to look like I do give a fuck-lets face it,all I care about is the 'likes'

He didn't care that perverts where uploading photos of his children,knowing every move,where they live,go to school,and for other perverts could wank over them and discuss what they'd do given half a chance

He was fully aware and didn't care

I was gobsmacked-any photos of my lot are fully locked down,with full permission-I'm going to be a granny later this year and my son asked me not to mention it on sm,so I haven't and won't be putting any photos up as baby is not my child-its up to him and his girlfriend if they do

Hopefully laws will catch up and put a stop to this

Research PimEyes if you want a real fright! Imo what was once foolish to do is simply unethical now.

There is already a growing body of academic literature around this.
In a nutshell, I think there are huge problems ahead for these 'influencers' that use their kids to make money....

There really ought to be more restrictions for posting content on YouTube, Instagram etc involving children who cannot consent for this reason. Posting your young children should not be a business venture.

I really disagree with that. I've just gone over to tattle went to a post about one 'influencer over there and within a few posts there is her head looks like a kettlebell, She just reminds me of blancmange on stumps 🤮, Nah I don't think it's her, not nearly greasy or fat enough, Creepy, fat fucker! Shes weird as fuck. and Why the fuck does the slug looking beast squint every time she eats or drinks something? Is it to stop her eyes from bulging out her skull as she crams more and more and more down her throat?!?!

That's just some things that were said in about 20 posts I read about the same person. Imagine reading all of that about yourself? There are nearly 80 threads about that person, all 1000 posts long all full of the same stuff. Mumsnet can be bad but I haven't seen a thread on mumsnet that is so full of personal insults and pick apart peoples appearances the way they do on tattle.

I've just had a look at an influcencer mentioned on here that I'd never previously heard of. 7000 comments on a video of just nothing happening. The influencers are bad enough but whoever is watching this shite is just as bad. I feel sorry for people whose time is spent watching this rubbish.

Tattle is horrible. I have had the odd read but always feel dirty afterwards.
I think most influencers use IG to make a bit of money from #ad #gifted which I guess is fair enough IF you can see it for what it is. I resent the ones who spout off about their baby routines or weaning or potty training when their own qualification is having had a few kids. All of it feels like its preying on maybe quite vulnerable new mothers to buy stuff and judge themselves.

I ended up looking too. Curiosity. It really is car crash social media

My kids are grown up so luckily I don’t have to look at this shit but Brummy mummy is the worst