Sick of wasting my life because of the rain

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I don’t care how many people say ‘it was always like this..’ yes it rained a lot when I was a kid but now it does nothing BUT rain.

I swear to God out of the last 30 days we have had 1 or maybe 2 where it wasn’t fucking raining. And they’re always midweek.

I feel like all we do is sit inside going stir crazy waiting for the rain to stop. I have 2 small children and while they’re desperate to go to the park/beach, even they’re not keen in a torrential downpour with everything covered in mud.

I’m sick of all my plans being cancelled, staring out of the window at depressing grey skies and trying to figure out how to pass the weekend without spending a ton of cash on expensive (and brief) indoor activities.

It’s driving me fucking crazy and not an exaggeration to say it’s sending me into some kind of low level depression. 🍷

Surely you’ve got drought and wildfires to be concerned about now though?

I know you won't say where you live but I live in the SW and it's not been that wet this week. I sat outside for a couple of hours yesterday in the sun watching DS play football then went for a walk in the afternoon. We had some bursts of rain the day before but they were fairly short. Most evenings last week me and DS got out for a short bike ride and didn't get wet. If its really bothering you that much you can move somewhere less wet.

Well we have only just gone into spring so the weather will be improving soon and you can do all the outdoors things you want to do. But this is the U.K. It’s just been winter and you’d expect the weather to be like it has been, it’s not been any different to any other U.K. winter. Why not make plans for indoor things until spring arrives. Depends where you live of course but little point planning on going for a picnic in March then complain when it rains. It’s been lovely this weekend, bit of rain (hailstones) here Saturday but morning and early evening was sunny and all Sunday afternoon was lovely. Be realistic and note the seasons when making plans and you’ll be less disappointed

I live in the SE and take my neighbours dog for a walk at a set time every day . The OP is right it has rained a lot more since October last year. The Grand Union Canal local to me, has overflowed, we cannot walk the path by the local river as it has been underwater for weeks.
I do still get out every day though appropriately dressed although I feel that I may have to have my wellies surgically removed soon. We have had two rainfree days in the last14 but I guess its down to climate change!

Loads of people have offered solutions/options/recommendations, OP. You’ve criticised them all.

It’s ALWAYS rained in England. I can remember floods so heavy 20 years ago that my parent’s house was cut off. Last year was just a bit drier, is all.

It is what you make of it - as is much of life. There’s good and fun to be found in 90% of places if you look and 100% of the UK.

Yes. While the Uk has always been wet this winter has been unusually so and it has all felt a bit relentless. Normally you do get one unusually dry month within the winter period to give you a bit of a break but not this year. I do think it’s easier when your kids are older too- mine are secondary age. They’ve got more tolerance for just being wet for a bit. That said there’s been so much sport cancelled due to flooded pitches etc - the ground round here is completely saturated.

I’m with you OP! There’s definitely such thing as bad weather. Clothes make it more tolerable but don’t stop it being depressing. You can’t take all that grey away with a raincoat and wellies.

I agree OP, and I’m absolutely bloody sick of it!
yesterday was so nice .. but I can hear outside that the road is wet so it’s obviously been raining here all night again.
checked the weather forecast.. due to rain all week again.
Utterly miserable 😭

Some replies here are batshit.

Yes OP the rain is bloody miserable! It's been shit.

Yes winters are looong and the wind and rain are relentless. I’m looking into a move to Italy.

I'm usually a pretty hardy 'there's no such thing as bad weather', 'if we sat around waiting for good weather, we'd never so anything' type, but I am sick to the back teeth of the rain, beyond hacked off with the constant fucking wind that has spoilt a lot of the recent sunny weather (and actially plagued a lot of the summer, autumn and winter too) and being cold in general. I'm sick of having my heating on in March! I'm sick of wearing the same bloody great big coat because it's always cold and it's always raining!

This has not been a typical year, it's grinding me down.

It does matter because I have no idea what you are talking about.
We have had rain but I didn't notice being worst than previous years, and I certainly wouldn't have called it "downpours". We've been out every weekend days with the kids to the playground or for a walk, or jumping in the puddles after the rain. We've some good sunny days, and just spent a great weekend in the garden in the sun.We are south-west.

It's rain. It's rained in this part of the world for millenia
In some parts you just get wet season and dry season, so count your belssings.
How do you think people entertained themselves and their children when it was raining in the days before "expensive indoor activities"?
Sorry, you need to get a grip and teach yourself and your kids to be resiliant and creative in all weathers

I live Northern Ireland and if I waited for the rain to stop before I left the house, Id be a hermit :)

But seriously its not rained all day every day, I even managed to catch the sun on Wednesday

I work in a seaside town and no matter the weather, there are people out there walking on the beach, swimming and surfing

Not really. Australia is of course hot and dry so we do get bushfires, but they don't tend to affect my daily life. And there aren't any water restrictions where I live beyond only watering your lawn on certain days, but even that doesn't affect me as I have bore water. It's a bit like saying aren't you concerned about floods because it rains a lot in the UK, yes it can happen, but no, its not a daily concern.

Sorry Op but this really is a ‘you’ problem. If you don’t like it, live somewhere else. The fast most people can get on with doing things outside in the rain is testament to that.

We loved a puddle walk in full wet weather gear when my girls were little. Don’t waste these days OP, they go past fast enough.

You realise we have wood in the UK, yes? What a strange comment.

See I'd argue that it doesn't need to rain constantly it just needs to rain enough for a place to become so saturated with water that it's unusable. Some of the places we'd like to go to would need a week of dry days before you'd actually want to walk through them.

The rain has been much worse this year than previous years - much more constant. And I say this as someone who has lived in Wales for years on and off.

It's all very well saying 'I got out last Thurday at 3pm for 10 minutes', but if OP was working then, it ain't much consolation is it?

I don't see it as controversial to say endless rain ruins things - I can't get into the garden or I'll have a recreation of the Somme on my hands. I can't go up a mountain in torrential rain however good my waterproofs because it's negligent and could endanger other people's lives - and also, guess what, it's not fun to walk in the cold and rain and I thus refuse to do it.

And hot chocolate and blankets can fuck right off. Even more boring than running on a treadmill.

The persistent rain would be a lot more bearable if it hadn't been for the lack of summer last year. We had two nice weeks in mid-June and it has been, it feels like, raining almost every day since.

It's been so miserable that my SAD lamp has been in daily use since October. OP, you're not wrong, there's been a definite lack of light, dryness and warmth for 3/4 of a year now.

I still have lots of pictures of the first lockdown, where we have been out in the garden almost daily. That was a beautiful spring and summer.

Hi Op, it sounds like you’re just over the long, wet winter we’ve had. Good news is that it looks like the weather is turning. We were out in the garden this weekend, managed to cut the grass, the pool of water that’s collected in the dip in the garden has dried up and the kids were able to tide their bikes. It has felt particularly wet this winter, having said that we have managed to go out for a walk pretty much every weekend and most school runs have been dry.

I hear you op.

I’m very outdoorsy, have all the gear and spend a lot of time outside in all weathers. At work, I will run about in the rain with a class of thirty all togged out in wellies and waterproofs and we still ‘have fun’. It’s far more fun when the sun comes out and we’re in short sleeves.

In my free time however, I don’t want to play in the rain. It’s alright mountain biking in the rain, but then I have layers of mud to strip off me and my bike. Commuting to work by bike in the rain and howling wind is shite. Running in the rain is ‘alright’ but you have to be in a particular frame of mind to coax yourself out. It’s far more fun in the sun. I don’t want to climb a mountain in the rain, I get to the top, there’s no view to see and eating lunch in the rain is again, shite. I don’t want to wander into town at the weekend for lunch out when I’m going to get drenched on the way.

The weather this year has been particularly miserable with few breaks in the howling wind and rain.

This is why I left the U.K. My mood is basically directly linked to the sky!

It’s not just the rain, it’s the grey low hanging sky. Utterly miserable. The U.K. has very low sunshine hours compared to a lot of places, even when it’s not raining. I can’t cope personally, sadly. We are very outdoorsy people but there’s only so much you can do when the weather is miserable.

This winter really has been wetter than most - I think it's the El Nino effect. I can't blame people for wanting to vent a bit.