Where can I buy DP a massive fucking gold medal for being the only one in the house "not on long term medication"?

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There are three of us in our house - the dog, me and DP.

The dog practically rattles with all the medicines she's on.
I'm on a repeat prescription for pain killers for my periods.
DP isn't on any medication for anything.

Three times recently he's commented that he's the only one in the house "not on long term medication" with a kind of underlying smugness and superiority that I can't quite put my finger on.

He said it for the third time last night and it disproportionately pissed me off. I was in the middle of brushing my teeth, he was in another room and by the time I could've replied, the moment had passed and he was wanging on about something else. So I just let it go.

But it's ridiculously still niggling at me today.

AIBU to think this comment is a really fucking weirdly superior, smug thing to say?

For context - though DP isn't on long term medication, he's not exactly the picture of fucking health. He's been carrying a paunch for a decade, he suffers with eczema, he's got a dodgy eye, and a pair of piles have just appeared at the brim of his bumhole.

Hope he's an ok supportive partner in other ways?

Agree with pps about competitiveness - some people are incapable of having an interaction without regularly having cheap shots

A lot of it is feeling they have nothing to be proud of or aren't good at big-picture thinking, so have to constantly "win" or dominate on small things.

It winds me up (I try to roughly plan five years ahead, so obviously I tend to sometimes be in situations where I'm more vulnerable, or seen as weaker to get where I want) but what can you do?

On health, I would definitely always prioritise doing what I could to improve my physical and mental wellbeing, whether medication or treatment or rest.

Me in five years will thank me now!

Small conditions can escalate until treatment becomes a lot more complicated and harder.

Stress through chronic pain may affect other conditions or your ability to exercise and then you've got high blood pressure or increased risk of more "serious sounding issues".

But some people are like "I'm not doing that as it proves how much better and stronger I am, I'm like a stoic Edmund Hilary type".

They're really not and don't look like it, and they may struggle when their minor issues escalate.

Flying Tiger do medals https://flyingtiger.com/en-gb/products/medal-3033684 let us know how you get on. This is the sort of bullshit I no longer have to deal with, so many upsides to divorce 😁

It never pays to be smug about 'not being on long term medication'. My late DM and all her friends,apart from one,were on at least 4 different types of medication. This one friend who wasn't on any medication at all frequently boasted about it. Until she suffered a stroke,and a heart attack in the space of 6 weeks. From then on,she was on numerous types of medication.

He really is wonderful in every other way. In fact, I think this throw-away comment niggling at me so much kind of shows that - it's the only thing I really have to complain about.

But it did epically piss me off 😆

I don't know if its needing to 'win' in general. I don't know. DP has tons to be very proud of himself for so I don't think he'd be that bothered about feeling like he's 'won' on this front. But maybe he does, I have no idea.

Reminds me of when Fiona Phillips raved on about how her child had never been to the GP. I remember it really annoyed me at the time. I went to the GP a lot when I was a child due to asthma, eczema etc, does that make her child superior to me? It’s such a weird thing to feel smug about!

I'm sure there will be something gold coloured the size of a turkey serving plate available on Amazon...

Oh this is better than a medal!

Maybe get some of these?

I suffered incredibly long (11 days in every 23), very painful periods for about 20 years. Mefenamic acid didn't make any difference.

Finally, I was referred for a Mirena coil. Period flow massively reduced - and I was pain-free until menopause!

Thanks, I will look into this!

Lucky Fiona's child. My mother often told the tale of how the very first time she took me down the GP, aged almost 4, he said it was a "head cold" and prescribed 'aspirin medicine'.

My condition worsened. I had bacterial meningitis...

You could make one Blue Peter style with a paper plate and some tin foil.

Is he the guy who wrote this, OP?

I absolutely love that. He could well be.

I liked the little lust of his ‘faults’.

This !!

If he's ok in other ways to you, maybe he's actually projecting and deflecting....maybe he's secretly worried about his own health and mortality but wants to pretend you're the hypochondriac and he's just indulging you.

It's annoying and sexist - like when men want to stay in, they'll tell their mates it was their female partner who is a homebody and made them stay in.

When really their female partner often doesn't give a damn.

Suspect if you suggested you both get regularly checked out privately as a joint couple thing, or started personal training together, he'd be very very happy.

He doesn't want to do it alone though as he's self-conscious.

Doctor appointment fear and phobia is also real.

I had some pretty bad experiences in my vulnerable 20's getting basic stuff done from overworked London NHS GPs, and I actually felt really nervous going in after that.

and also wonder if he's had one of those experiences, doesn't want to go back or talk about it

But he still wants to get treated and maintain his health - not sure what the finances are like for private but maybe he wants to move towards private or part-private for friendlier customer service?

Annoying he won't tell you though!

Roaring with laughter at this description.

I'm so glad I'm single.

The OP is his partner, not his mum.

If he wants to get PT or a medical he should just go and do it. He is a grown man, and presumably he has no difficulty speaking up for himself and expressing his wishes at work, for example.

He's not particularly worried about his health, no.

He knows he should take better care of himself and makes all kinds of murmurings about going to the dentist, getting a health MOT etc. Then doesn't. It's a combination of laziness, assuming all is fine, and a wee bit of skepticism 😅

I already have a PT. DP is absolutely not invited to that. No way!

How the hell do you know he has two piles on his arsehole?

“Well you should be on regularly medication for your eye, and your eczema, plus your piles certainly need attention. I guess some of us are scared to get the correct help and some aren’t…” <patronising head tilt>

I doubt the OP has been under the bed covers with a magnifying glass in the middle of the night so we can assume he’s informed her 😁

He told me. Then he showed me. It was all very pleasant.

I don't know about a gold medal, I'd be looking to buy him a Sympathies on the Death of your Sex Life card and a wreath, after this.