Neighbour spying on me

[Lattecarmel]

My neighbour is always spying on me through their living room window when I come home and leave my house. When I’m parking up it seems as soon as I pull up they’ve stood up and are then at the window looking out. I’m starting to feel uncomfortable about this. It’s not that they’re watching their car as I park or anything like that but they just watch me park up. In the morning when I leave the house I happen to move my head and can see them staring out at me (terrace house, both with front path)) I think they are quite nosy in general but it’s starting to annoy me. What would you do?

So is mine 🤣

Curtain twitchy neighbour is better than a house alarm. Bet you’ll never get burgled. When the next street over would be cleared out if they don’t have a twitchy.

OP I actually can completely empathise my neighbour watches me much that I’m freaked out - she knows my morning routine by what time my bathroom light goes on and sits in her kitchen watching me this is 6am!

I mentioned casually that we sometimes eat in the Lounge on trays and she said “I always see you sitting down at the table for meals with your family” 😳

she complained that my dad parked outside her house to pick my husband up for work and he “left his engine running” (no he doesn’t drive a tractor just a normal petrol car)

I’ve started leaving every blind facing her house closed permanently now because she text me saying well done doing your ironing at this time - I tried being friendly but it was just overwhelming

so I do understand why it’s horrible it’s not nice at all to feel like you’re being watched

you only see them in their window when you are leaving or coming back. Are they retired? Do they get out much? They might spend a good deal of their day at their window not just during the times that you come and go. It's not always all about you, I would give them a friendly wave

I would definitely be giving them something to look at 😂

I had a neighbour who installed cctv at the height of lockdown (why when people were mostly home). Every day my immense joy was working out what silly thing I could do in front of their cctv that day.

if they are looking. Give them something to look at.

They’re probably bored, lonely and nosy. Give them a wave and be grateful someone is keeping an eye on your property.

😂😂😂

Many years ago, we had a chap who stared into our house as he walked by on his way to work. It stopped the day that my mum did a Von Trapp line up with my brothers and sister and we all waved enthusiastically at him! For some reason he never looked in again after that.

Not a bad thing at all. Nice to know someone is keeping an eye on comings and goings. Remember that "I'm a nosy neighbour" quote? Michael Caine?

I’d wave! Make it well known they are seen 👋

as I pulled up in my car from work today and smiled at a family as they crossed the road in front of me, the little boy (about 4) gave me the fingers… you could also try that!

Plot twist. It was her! She was casing the houses!

I always think of Micky Flanagan doing the peep.

My DH had this years ago. The neighbour used to note down the registration number of anyone who visited by car. Came in useful when he was burgled.

Wave 👋🏻!

Definitely look up and wave {we had an elderly lady, Anne, who used to hide behind her nets and Peer out... I used to see the curtain with and would look up and wave.

@Lattecarmel Are they worried about their car being dinged?

The only time I see people go and peer out of window is if they are anxious that their drive might get blocked in , or if they feel a large vehicle might damage theirs if parked on the street.

It is off-putting being gawped at.
Anne used to be like a one woman ''Neighbourhood Watch, long before Ring Doorbells were a 'thing'.

Not necessarily a bad thing.

My friend was burgled - some scrote wiggled in through a window and a neighbour stopped to chat when he and his mate were bringing the tv and computer out through the front door!

Not all neighbours are as helpful as your grandparents!

I have similar neighbours start shouting ‘oh look it’s the stalker again’

That’s assuming the curtain twitching neighbours likes you lol

😂😂

Have to chuckle at the smile and wave comments.
Personally though I'd keep as much distance as possible. There are just people who snoop on their neighbours. They're annoying, except when a crime happens in the area.
Unless you are directly threatened by them - as in you think you will be attacked or robbed by them - just leave them be. They're not just watching you, they're watching every single person in the street.
They're probably obsessed by Crime Stoppers.
They'll probably be the first people to notice if some person has quietly died in the street.
They're probably only interested in you, because you live in their street. And their interest probably only extends to noting your usual routines.
If you think it's anything more sinister, or are very unhappy, keep a diary and note their actions and when you feel intimidated. And then contact local police to have a word with them.

me, you get used to it, yes its a puzzlement as to why but overall i dunno, maybe one day ill understand why

Perhaps they are ALWAYS stood looking out of window, and remain there even after you've driven off or gone inside! 😊

Exactly that. I was feeling that as I read the OP, "spying" my left foot

I visisited many older clients and they were in the window as I arrived. Its unanavoidable if your sitting room is in the front and have no blinds etc.

FGS, let them look

As I left work years ago and rainy days we many not go out - I always try to use the first floor w/c and often glance out of the front our rea window

Spying my right foot, lol

The thing is that some people aren’t well, whether it’s mental or physical, so they might almost never go outside. For someone who’s living a full and functional life it will seem pathetic and strange. But it’s just them taking an interest or concern in their immediate environment. I would just leave them too it.

Is it likely they stare at everyone in the vicinity of their house?
Is there something they might be annoyed at and they’re trying to make a point?
If neither then you may have a creepy problem. But they probably just don’t realise how visible they are to you - have you tried waving at them to show you see them?