Neighbour spying on me

[Lattecarmel]

My neighbour is always spying on me through their living room window when I come home and leave my house. When I’m parking up it seems as soon as I pull up they’ve stood up and are then at the window looking out. I’m starting to feel uncomfortable about this. It’s not that they’re watching their car as I park or anything like that but they just watch me park up. In the morning when I leave the house I happen to move my head and can see them staring out at me (terrace house, both with front path)) I think they are quite nosy in general but it’s starting to annoy me. What would you do?

They probably think ' everything she goes out of her house, she looks in our window '

It's not really 'spying' is it? It's someone looking out of their window at a public road. They're not squatting at your front door with their eye pressed to the keyhole.

My MIL is like this. I’d just smile and wave really OTT each time until they get the message.

I would do nothing.

This is the sort of thing that bothers my husband, and the sort of thing that I never even think of. Someone is looking at me getting in my car, putting the bins out? Who cares. How boring must their life be to want to do that!

That's just a bit unhinged really - I'd take great delight in donating it all to a local rescue centre at her expense. I'm sorry for your loss though, they take up such a big space in our hearts don't they

My kitchen sink is under my front window…never occurred to me my neighbours might think I’m a spy 🕵🏼‍♀️ 😅

They're perfectly entitled to look out of their own window. You have no idea how often they do that, they may look out whenever they hear a noise outside, and why shouldn't they?

So the saying is suggesting the slightly hostile person being looked at is the 'king'?

They're probably wondering who the weirdo is who keeps staring at them in their house

@woahhhh it basically means you can't stop someone from looking at something. Even if one is an animal and the other the highest person in the land. The king is metaphorical. The person is saying 'I can look at what I like thanks.'

Maybe they're waiting for someone. I look out of the window if I hear a car door, because I think it might be someone coming to my house.

Unless you have a very exciting life, they're not watching you. Get over yourself.

They are just busybodies. Wave at them, as suggested by everyone else. They might start to realise just how often they are observed watching you through the window. They might not realise that they can be seen!

Somebody's Watching Me

Michael Jackson recorded a version too. 😁

My mum is like this, every single noise from outside and she’s up at the window. I tell her she’s a weirdo for it.

But at the same time everyone has the right to look through their own window. I like the suggestion of waving at them.

I have elderly nosey neighbours who literally every time we do some gardening out the front or clean the car have to race out and pretend to fiddle with their dustbins or some such nonsense.
It drives me crazy as they don't say anything and they rarely come out the front door except to watch us
It's really annoying

If you don’t look at their window every time you leave then you wouldn’t even know, but even if they are looking out, what harm is it doing?

Trouble is it's sod's law that these people often don't spot anything useful to see. Years ago my parents had a neighbour, luckily not opposite to their house but down the road, and it was a standing joke that she 'clocked' the comings and goings of the whole street of houses (my Dad called her Mrs MI5).

Then someone opposite her was burgled. Yes, you've guessed it, she never saw a thing, officer, - in spite of being indoors when it happened. Seems like she'd temporarily left her observation post at the wrong time...

i wonder if they are actually watching you, or it just appears that they are? maybe they are just very nosey and lonely people and have nothing going on in their own lives, so they 'people' watch. maybe they want to get to know you, and a smile and a wave might go a long way.

but.. it's also a fine line.. our neighbour is elderely and very poorly, and we thought we were being nice neighbours, we would bring his bin in for him, cut his grass when we did ours... and all we've had now are a year of issues.. we see him walking round our car at all times of the day and night.. even the early hours in his dressing gown, and our car is actually parked on out drive (the ring doorbell picks this up).

he has reported us over and over to the police for parking, moving his bins, damaging his lawns.. he's become a nightmare, all because we tried to be nice neighbours! some times you are damned if you do, damned if you dont

Absolutely wave at them!!

To be fair I’m friends with my neighbours ranging from 30 to 80 years of age and we joke that I’m always in the window! In forever washing up to be honestly and the sink is in the window so we all joke that I know everything going on in the street.

I’m not nosey I just happen to wash up a lot with how my household is so don’t just assume they are watching you

I don't have a car and nowhere collects. She shouldn't have started with the unhinged behaviour.

My dad likes to report to me the comings and goings of the next door neighbour, despite how many times I’ve told him I don’t care, he responds with “but what is he doing??”

I understand being unnerved by your watchful neighbour, but they are probably just bored and nosy

My "reading chair" is by the window and movement often catches my eye so I will glance up. I don't even think about it, it's just natural if a shadow passes over or a car revs.
I think if they were purposely filming you in your back garden or watching you through your bedroom window, that would be spying.

My chair is near the window and I like looking outside. Nothing much to see, especially this time of year when trees are bare and xmas lights gone.