Neighbour spying on me

[Lattecarmel]

My neighbour is always spying on me through their living room window when I come home and leave my house. When I’m parking up it seems as soon as I pull up they’ve stood up and are then at the window looking out. I’m starting to feel uncomfortable about this. It’s not that they’re watching their car as I park or anything like that but they just watch me park up. In the morning when I leave the house I happen to move my head and can see them staring out at me (terrace house, both with front path)) I think they are quite nosy in general but it’s starting to annoy me. What would you do?

Just wave. 🙂

They aren't doing any harm, and curtain-twitching, observant neighbours are a good deterrent against burglary and a lot of minor theft.

It's in the faceless communities where no-one takes any interest that crime flourishes.

I don't think I would even notice neighbours at a window , I wouldn't think to look . Some people naturally see what is going on outside depending where they are sitting . Are you really that bothered ?

Maybe they were looking out of the window before you left the house.

My dad often stands looking out of the window at nothing in particular, I'm sure his neighbours must see him but hopefully they don't think he's "spying" on them.

And that is less intrusive and weird than staring?

Do nothing
It’s not spying.They’re just looking out of their window.

They can look out the window as and when they want to and not really your business.

They could equally say you keep looking at them.

Best ignore and get on with your own life.
Or move house to somewhere remote with no neighbours.

I have probably the only house on my street where a window overlooks the street: most are behind high fences or they have bedrooms at the front - quite common in Aussie single-storey houses, or houses as we call them.

I never pull down the blinds and passers by can see me cooking and often glance in. They are the ones whose eyes recoil if I glance out, though I'm not the slightest bit bothered, they're not spying - who wouldn't peek in at a lit-up room?

Perhaps they are auditioning to be the new James Bond...
Spying 😁😀

I made a great friend with my neighbour opposite due this, turns out she was just very bored and lonely. And it’s fantastic as far as security goes too. Also, they’re just looking out of their window, you’re looking into theirs.

Sums it up

Are you on your own? Perhaps they are just checking that you are okay. I would follow advice on here and just wave.
It may be the highlight of their day!

🤣🤣🤣

I would ignore they will surely eventually get fed up of jumping up all the time.

I don't think that's spying really.

They are just looking out of their window, and probably do it to everyone.

It's harmless and wouldn't bother me at all. To be honest, I don't think I'd notice. Maybe they're starting a thread about how you stare into their window every time you leave the house.

Honestly think mn is getting a bit odd with the level of intolerance.

What would I do?

Wear a balaclava and a stripy shirt with a bag saying swag.
Dress up as a big bumble bee and carry a jar of honey.
Buy a clown outfit.
Blow up 30 balloons and carry them out to the car.
Put my hair in pigtails and skip down the path.
Put on a big cross and carry a bible.

Thats what I would do or I might just wave.

I often sit down with a cup of tea at the same time each afternoon. This seems to correspond with my neighbour arriving home and I'm facing her drive.

If I'm waiting for a delivery and hear a vehicle, I may look out, it may be her parking up.

She probably thinks I'm waiting for her, watching her park. I'm not it's just coincidence.

Someone bored may look out at life outside, or someone may look out for security. That's how communities were.

Smile, wave and carry on.

If you don't want to go down the smile and wave route, the only alternative is to drag a body out of the boot

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Urw8tapvrfI

I had this problem years ago i done the following.
Take curtains down by a dance pole from ebay give them a show every evening.
Act and dance like no one is watching.(it was bad)
I did the above it was not nice to watch (but i lost a lot of weight.)
Said neighbour couple started to draw their curtains and stop spying evening dance show did stop.
I have since long moved away.
I was no where near pole dancing size but what a laugh.

Best to do what the above posters have said smile and wave.
I just like to be different and petty😁 lol.

My DM is a terrible curtain twitcher. By her own admissions she is nosey. I keep telling her to stop but she doesn't. She knows the comings and goings of everyone in her little street. To be fair if anything nefarious was happening she would be right on it. She is like a one woman neighbourhood watch!

I love this idea, my neighbour keeps ordering dog food to my house on purpose to upset me (my only dog died of cancer a few months ago, and she doesn't have a dog). I'm not mean enough to do it though (her cousin just died), but it's extremely tempting.

Pop a card through their door thanking them for their surveillance and telling them how much safer it makes you feel, knowing they would see if anyone came to your house in your absence.

They're hardly spying are they! They're looking out of their window and you're looking at their window 🤷🏻‍♀️
If they were behind a hedge with a pair of binoculars, I could see your point.

I know PPs are saying neighbours are entitled to look out their windows but it's very unnerving and intrusive when a neighbour is doing it more surreptitiously and gossiping to others. Anyone should be able to go about their business without feeling watched.

oh Lord, people are lonely. We park in a communal car park and there is childless couple who are always waiting for me and my princess to appear out of the car and smile and wave at us. She was always adorable baby, toddler and child and many childless couples adopted our smiles and waves along the years. I chat to them sometimes and they do.

One of the wives of these old monsieurs got struck by a strange phobia of going out. Honestly, my little family is all the social life she has through a window. I never felt threatened by a neighbour watching.

It doesn't sound as though they are being surreptitious or gossiping about whether they see. They are just looking out of their window. What you can't tell is whether they just do this when you come/go or if they are looking out at other times.
I love looking out of my front window - it is definitely better than the TV.

I have a couple of busybodies like that across the road and next door.

I moved in recently and this is a small town so there has been a lot of interest from the neighbours who seem to always been well informed as to what workman comes into the house to do renovations, what vegetables I am growing in my garden, what I am doing in my art studio, my cat...

Basically they seem to be doing a lot of 'observing'.

I just assume they will eventually get bored after a few months as they get used to me. I am thinking that the positive of this is that I am less likely to be burgled with all these eyes on my mid terrace...

But yeah more seriously I know it is annoying but as people have said wave and smile to make it clear to him that you have noticed he is keeping an eye on you.

I think it is a thing with small towns/villages.