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To ask you how much sleep you usually get a night?

116 replies

Sparksi · 17/03/2024 20:36

Just nosey. I know they say you need 8 hours and I’ve always taken this seriously but I’m coming to wonder whether it’s a bit like the guidance to do an hour of exercise a day, etc. Some days it’s just not possible!

How much sleep do you normally get on any given night and do you feel alright on it?

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MonsteraMama · 17/03/2024 20:51

I'm awful honestly, my husband calls me Thatcher because I can survive on very little sleep whereas he needs a solid 8-9 hours or he's a zombie.

In the week generally I get 4-6 hours, ish. Sometimes a bit less, sometimes a bit more. I tend to go closer to 6-7 at the weekend.

Then every now and then I have a "big sleep" where I just go into hibernation for 14 hours.

Hatty65 · 17/03/2024 20:51

Not enough. I'm awake every couple of hours. Need a wee a couple of times a night. Have bad dreams. My quality of sleep is really poor, I know.

I probably average about 6 hours broken sleep and I never feel rested.

AceofPentacles · 17/03/2024 20:52

Between 6-7.5, but I'm awake most nights for up to an hour due to peri insomnia .
I'm bone tired, I need 8-9 hours to feel normal.

fishonabicycle · 17/03/2024 20:53

Probably around 6. I'm usually quite tired. Last night I managed around 8 (broken) and felt so much better.

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 17/03/2024 20:53

MrsHamlet · 17/03/2024 20:40

On a good night, 7 hours.
On a normal night, 5.
On a bad one, 3.

I feel like shit a lot.

I'm very similar to this. It's becoming more and more of a problem for me. I suffer terribly from sleep procrastination, meaning I ignore my cues to sleep, typically leading me to become more awake... I have to be up in six hours. I am awake. I am tired. Last night I had under 4 hours sleep.

I also need to do some sort of phone detox. Huge distraction.

My sleep has been a problem for years, but worsens with stress.

I have a menopausal, anxious, fairly medicated friend who has the opposite problem. She can get home from work at 4pm and basically go to bed and stay there! I could never.

I wonder if my lack of sleep or stress is causing my hair thinning.

Yearendjoy · 17/03/2024 20:54

Around 7 hours, weekdays and weekends. That's more than enough for me. I wake up feeling refreshed and can never sleep longer than this.

Rowgtfc72 · 17/03/2024 20:55

4 or 5 hours broken sleep
Cheers perimenopause.

pinkspeakers · 17/03/2024 20:56

Not sure. I don't monitor it. But I don't think most people need 8 hours. When I was younger (pre kids!) I slept through the night without waking was fine on 6 on a regular basis ( 4 was my minimum to function). These days I am in bed with light off for longer (light off my 11 usually, alarm at 6.30) but given the amount I wake it is probably still more like 6.

I struggled when I had very young children and was only getting 1-2 hours at a time. But as long as I get one 4 hour stretch then I'm grand!

Caroparo52 · 17/03/2024 20:57

If I go to bed earlier I awake earlier. No pressures when to wake up

Tessisme · 17/03/2024 20:58

About 5 or 6 hours. Not uninterrupted though. I'm awake for up to half an hour at least twice during the night. I've always been a terrible sleeper. I can't empty my brain and I can't stay asleep🙁

Tagyoureit · 17/03/2024 20:59

7-8 average
Good night 10, which means I've gone to bed with my dd and then fallen asleep
Bad night about 4 hours

I got a huawei band which also monitors how much I sleep which to be fair, has done wonders for my overall sleep "awareness".
Before i got the huawei band, I thought I was getting a crap amount of sleep so I thought I was always tired, turns out I actually do get more than I thought so I don't feel as tired.

Somuchgoo · 17/03/2024 21:00

4-6 usually. I co-sleep with my 4yo who has some health issues, and my quality of sleep is rubbish.

I'm knackered most of the time.

Sunshineclouds11 · 17/03/2024 21:00

5 hours broken sleep due to new baby.

Otherwise, 8. Could deffo do with 9/20

EveSix · 17/03/2024 21:00

I usually mark my last book around midnight. If I'm working in bed, I literally just put my marking pen down on the bedside table and turn off the light and get 6 hours. If I'm planning, it always takes longer, so maybe finishing at 1am and getting 5h. I could definitely do with more, am knackered all the time.

BCBird · 17/03/2024 21:02

5🙄 not enough

Allfur · 17/03/2024 21:03

8 hours, sleep is a priority for me

indianrunnerduck · 17/03/2024 21:04

About 4 hours of broken sleep. I can't remember when I last had a whole, restful night's sleep, it was probably over 10 years ago. I am very concerned about the potential effects on my health, especially cardiovascular and dementia health.

Diversion · 17/03/2024 21:05

On a few and far between good nights about 7 hours. On a bad night which are more common, somewhere between 3 and 5 hours. I worked sleepover shifts for almost 14 years so always slept (if I got any) with one ear open and have always attributed my poor sleep since to this.

DelilahBucket · 17/03/2024 21:10

These days 6-7 of broken sleep. Prime example last night, eventually fell asleep at 1, awake 4:15-5, back to sleep until 8:30 with two brief wake ups in between. Last night was a bit different, I try to go to bed around the same time every night. I don't tend to have any problems falling asleep, I just don't stay that way.
My sleep problems started when DH started snoring. I've rarely had a decent night since and we've been in separate beds for nearly two years now. The only time I've slept really well was a holiday in 2022. The room and bed were perfect and I slept solid for eight hours each night for a week. I came home feeling wonderfully refreshed. Not had that much sleep in one night since and as a result I'm permanently exhausted. It has impacted on my mental health hugely.

ChicagoBears · 17/03/2024 21:10

Pre-kids I could sleep for 10-12 hours a night, especially on the weekends, I loved sleep!

Post-DC, throughout the week I’ll get around 7 hours max but do make-up for it on weekends with 9 hours on average Sat and Sun.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/03/2024 21:12

3-4 over the course of eight hours in bed on a normal worknight, most of which is firstly a very long time in coming, then vaguely disturbed by pain, 6-7 with disturbances if I'm very lucky and have had more than a couple of days off. I have gone to work regularly on 3 and a half and multiple occasions have done it on zero.

According to my Fitbit, I sleep far more than I actually do - but I do agree with it that when I go to sleep, I'm almost instantly in deep sleep.

goingtotown · 17/03/2024 21:15

Average about 5. 11pm-2am & 4am-6am.

specialk9 · 17/03/2024 21:16

I average 6.5 hours which is normally broken and 2 out of my 3 children don't sleep through the night 90% of the time.

If I have 8 hours full sleep I feel exhausted when I wake up and it takes me a long time to feel awake. I hate it! Happened on Thursday and I felt so groggy.

RM2013 · 17/03/2024 21:18

6-8 prefer 8 as always feel tired when I wake up

AperolWhore · 17/03/2024 21:19

6.5 hours is my optimal sleep, asleep for 10pm and up
at 4:45am. Daughter sleeps 6:30-6:30 and I treasure my 2 hours before she wakes up.