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To think that Labour have just shot themselves in the foot?

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Redrosetat · 15/03/2024 15:56

https://twitter.com/KemiBadenoch/status/1768647056111861760?s=19&t=wqgtbWPG_X1xZDMhuF871A

‘Just now Labour MPs prevented debate on a new law to protect children and single sex spaces.

Instead they used parliamentary time to discuss ferret name choices.

@Keir_Starmer is terrified of debate on safeguarding & his MPs actively work to ignore the concerns of constituents’

https://twitter.com/KemiBadenoch/status/1768647056111861760?s=19&t=wqgtbWPG_X1xZDMhuF871A

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RufustheFactualReindeer · 16/03/2024 09:29

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WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:32

Toastandbutterand · 16/03/2024 01:44

I voted for Rosie duffield and I stand for black lives matter.

The Tory's consistently vote against rights for anyone who isn't white and male and straight.

You are lying or deluded if you say otherwise.

It is a fact. Look at voting history of MPs.

Just look at them.

Look at the living mps voting history. Look at those standing today. Look how they voted.

And you think the Tory's stand for women?
Shame!
Look at their actions.

Where did she defend how great the Tories are and that they stand for women?

It is RIDICULOUS that one cannot criticise Labour and their pathetic approach to this topic without some quarter wit trotting along to say 'but the Tories are worse'.

We KNOW! We just expected better of the party that most of us have voted for for bloody years. It's all over this thread and it's really frustrating.

lifeturnsonadime · 16/03/2024 09:35

JessS1990 · 16/03/2024 09:20

If for example one considers toilets, they are perhaps on the list of single sex spaces.

The question then remains as to what a mother does when her son needs the toilet, or a father with a daughter...

I think the social norm has been it's fine to take a child below puberty in the toilet of the opposite sex if you are the parent. Many establishments set an age like 8 years old.

Signs can be put up to indicate the presence of a male cleaner so a woman has a choice.

This is just whataboutery though.

What has happened is that the social contract has broken, men (whether trans identifying or not) have been emboldened to be in women's single sex spaces. Some of those men harm women when they do so, some of those are men who identify as trans women. Some women are excluded by the possibility of presence of a male at any time meaning that some women have been put on a urinary leash.

When things change in society we should ask who benefits? In the case of toilets no woman benefits from the inclusion of males in those spaces. The only set of people who benefit are male.

We need to go back to the pre- transactivist status quo where women were safeguarded because all males were expected to stay out of women's single sex spaces. This is better for women. Yes some males might be pissed off but that's not really an issue for women to solve unless you see women as merely support humans to male happiness.

If you do the same exercise for any other women's single sex space which has become mixed sex as a result of the trans activists, women's sport, single sex hospital wards, singles sex rape crisis for women, women's refuges, women's prisons etc, you will have the same result. Women gain not benefit from the inclusions of males in those spaces. The only people who benefit are males.

Women are socialised to 'be kind' which is why many privileged women who aren't directly put at risk by those things think this is not an issue. But it is for some women.

it is indisputable that women are being harmed. Many of them vulnerable as the result of being in prison, a refuge etc. So if you think this just doesn't matter ask yourself how many harmed women/ children is enough for you to care?

Going back to the pre-transactivist status quo is cost neutral, so why any political party continues to harp on about trans rights over women's safety is beyond me. This is an easy win for any political party, if they care enough about women's safety.

This thread is about Labour, they are very likely to win the next general election. As women voters we should be putting them to task on these issues now. Otherwise they will say they didn't know we cared.

AdamRyan · 16/03/2024 09:36

Right well I'm off. I'm very bored of being piled on for engaging in a debate and these things are circular anyway and by posting I'm just keeping it going. 👋

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:39

JessS1990 · 16/03/2024 07:23

Does that also apply to women in men's loos?

What happens when the loos need cleaning?

I am not engaging with this bullshit whataboutery - the rights, safety and dignity of women and girls is a serious topic. You are clearly not a serious poster.

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:40

IanCurtisdancing · 16/03/2024 08:20

I just need someone to explain to me that even the Tories have done all the shit they hate, because Labour haven’t stated they will undo everything the Tories have done, that means people won’t vote Labour and will still vote Tory.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.

Where has anyone said they will vote Tory?

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:43

RufustheFactualReindeer · 16/03/2024 09:10

This

i am one of those who believes that some people are what others would term as ‘true’ trans, and i would have liked a solution where these people could be comfortable within our society…

unfortunately due to the actions of the politicians and trans activists and sporting bodies and men taking the absolute piss its allowed womens rights to female only spaces, events, awards, fucking words etc to be slowly eroded

i agree with many others that the only solution now seems to be no males in female spaces

(no i am not voting tories and no, male cleaners in the ladies bogs is not the gotcha some people think it is, and don’t get me started on ‘we all have gender neutral loos in our homes’ there is not an eye roll big enough for that)

Great post.

IanCurtisdancing · 16/03/2024 09:43

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:40

Where has anyone said they will vote Tory?

Every single post about this shit.

every single time.

EasternStandard · 16/03/2024 09:44

IanCurtisdancing · 16/03/2024 09:43

Every single post about this shit.

every single time.

Why do you think talking about women’s rights and safeguarding generally for children too is shit?

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:45

IanCurtisdancing · 16/03/2024 09:43

Every single post about this shit.

every single time.

That is a blatant untruth and you know it.

MiserableMarch · 16/03/2024 09:46

@lifeturnsonadime
. Great post

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:47

EasternStandard · 16/03/2024 09:44

Why do you think talking about women’s rights and safeguarding generally for children too is shit?

Or the culture wars or anti-trans or TERF bigotry - all the insults come from the same place which is propping up men's feeling over women's needs.

MiserableMarch · 16/03/2024 09:48

Any posters on here who are part of the labour party, you have constant free feedback don't you?

From mn.
Take it, say people are politically homeless.

JessS1990 · 16/03/2024 09:56

lifeturnsonadime · 16/03/2024 09:35

I think the social norm has been it's fine to take a child below puberty in the toilet of the opposite sex if you are the parent. Many establishments set an age like 8 years old.

Signs can be put up to indicate the presence of a male cleaner so a woman has a choice.

This is just whataboutery though.

What has happened is that the social contract has broken, men (whether trans identifying or not) have been emboldened to be in women's single sex spaces. Some of those men harm women when they do so, some of those are men who identify as trans women. Some women are excluded by the possibility of presence of a male at any time meaning that some women have been put on a urinary leash.

When things change in society we should ask who benefits? In the case of toilets no woman benefits from the inclusion of males in those spaces. The only set of people who benefit are male.

We need to go back to the pre- transactivist status quo where women were safeguarded because all males were expected to stay out of women's single sex spaces. This is better for women. Yes some males might be pissed off but that's not really an issue for women to solve unless you see women as merely support humans to male happiness.

If you do the same exercise for any other women's single sex space which has become mixed sex as a result of the trans activists, women's sport, single sex hospital wards, singles sex rape crisis for women, women's refuges, women's prisons etc, you will have the same result. Women gain not benefit from the inclusions of males in those spaces. The only people who benefit are males.

Women are socialised to 'be kind' which is why many privileged women who aren't directly put at risk by those things think this is not an issue. But it is for some women.

it is indisputable that women are being harmed. Many of them vulnerable as the result of being in prison, a refuge etc. So if you think this just doesn't matter ask yourself how many harmed women/ children is enough for you to care?

Going back to the pre-transactivist status quo is cost neutral, so why any political party continues to harp on about trans rights over women's safety is beyond me. This is an easy win for any political party, if they care enough about women's safety.

This thread is about Labour, they are very likely to win the next general election. As women voters we should be putting them to task on these issues now. Otherwise they will say they didn't know we cared.

So single sex spaces except when they aren't, thanks for the clarification.

EasternStandard · 16/03/2024 09:57

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 09:47

Or the culture wars or anti-trans or TERF bigotry - all the insults come from the same place which is propping up men's feeling over women's needs.

Yes exactly, add it to males threats and violence.

All trying to do the same thing - stop women asking basic questions on safeguarding

Which adults are committed to stopping those questions and why?

BIossomtoes · 16/03/2024 09:59

So much for discussion when every other post is a self congratulatory comment. Any thoughts on my point about Duffield or is that too inconvenient to address?

lifeturnsonadime · 16/03/2024 10:04

JessS1990 · 16/03/2024 09:56

So single sex spaces except when they aren't, thanks for the clarification.

If that's your take on harms from mixed sex spaces to women then I can't help you.

Yes sometimes there will be male cleaners (there will be a sign up) . Yes sometimes a child of the opposite sex will be in the space with his/ her parent.

The inclusion of those people should not mean every man get's free access to be where ever he wants!

Unless you're not big on safeguarding women from predatory men.

bombastix · 16/03/2024 10:15

MiserableMarch · 16/03/2024 09:48

Any posters on here who are part of the labour party, you have constant free feedback don't you?

From mn.
Take it, say people are politically homeless.

I am not from the Labour Party. But it is important to reflect that women overall vote Labour more commonly than men; that their intent to vote Labour is increasing, not decreasing.

In other words there are quite a lot of women who are content or neutral on this issue sufficient that they will support them.

This is important context when there is any claim about whether Labour's stance on transgenderism makes a difference to their vote. The evidence is not there that it does. It has affected many former female activists in Labour who have disagreed with their leadership but these two things are different in terms of impact for actually winning an election. And in that sense, a lot of this thread appears to miss that is the point of politics, as any good Tory will tell you.

EasternStandard · 16/03/2024 10:22

It’s interesting when people claim politicians don’t respond on this issue when not long ago Labour fully endorsed self ID

They might do so covertly still but Starmer knows it’s a dud to pursue it and can cause political backlash

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 10:22

JessS1990 · 16/03/2024 09:56

So single sex spaces except when they aren't, thanks for the clarification.

As I said - not a serious poster.

OutLastWeek · 16/03/2024 10:23

IanCurtisdancing · 16/03/2024 08:20

I just need someone to explain to me that even the Tories have done all the shit they hate, because Labour haven’t stated they will undo everything the Tories have done, that means people won’t vote Labour and will still vote Tory.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.

Some are secret Tory voters.
But many GC ideologues don’t just want to oppose Self ID.
They want to repeal the GRA and they think the Tories are their best chance of achieving anything like that. Single issue voters.

literalviolence · 16/03/2024 10:24

AdamRyan · 16/03/2024 08:45

There are plenty of other "culture wars" issues the Tories are also inflating. Islamists running London springs to mind (or wider anti Islam bollocks)
Immigrants overrunning the NHS
Lazy people claiming benefits
Threats to our "culture" from a falling birth rate/lack of integration
A new one appears to be the need to protect our Christian values

The "trans" culture war is also not about women. Its a vehicle to allow the Tories to recycle tired old tropes about gay people being a threat, schools corrupting our children by sex education and socialists infiltrating the civil service.

I've seen nothing claiming gay people are a threat. Can you share some of those incidents? Regardless though, the concerns of women here are safeguarding concerns and when you let males into women's spaces obviously the women are at risk. Its also anti equality.

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 10:25

bombastix · 16/03/2024 10:15

I am not from the Labour Party. But it is important to reflect that women overall vote Labour more commonly than men; that their intent to vote Labour is increasing, not decreasing.

In other words there are quite a lot of women who are content or neutral on this issue sufficient that they will support them.

This is important context when there is any claim about whether Labour's stance on transgenderism makes a difference to their vote. The evidence is not there that it does. It has affected many former female activists in Labour who have disagreed with their leadership but these two things are different in terms of impact for actually winning an election. And in that sense, a lot of this thread appears to miss that is the point of politics, as any good Tory will tell you.

I suspect that the GE is not going to go the way that many think that it is.

BIossomtoes · 16/03/2024 10:25

WaterWeasel · 16/03/2024 10:25

I suspect that the GE is not going to go the way that many think that it is.

😂

Still no response to my question about Duffield?

EasternStandard · 16/03/2024 10:29

The claims that no one cares don’t stack up

If Labour politicians thought that was the case they wouldn’t shift from promoting self ID

Of course they are still gender driven but use poor statements now. These prompt ‘unanswerable’ questions, because they too don’t stack up legally or practically