thirst trap facebook reels?

[Quackidy]

hiya, since i've had access to my partners accounts/social media i have noticed over the past year these sexual/thirst traps on his facebook reels.

i have spoke to him about it loads of times, even had some nasty arguments over it and he denys ever looking at any of that stuff. we had a recent argument over it about a week ago and i have gone on his facebook and they are still showing.

i'm am struggling with trusting him or the algorithm of these reels. i am currently 38 weeks pregnant and we have a 2 year old, it is quite simply hurting my self esteem/confidence a lot.

i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7 besides when he is at work and he isn't allowed his phone besides breaks where he is messaging me.

i am sick of the same arguments over it, i dont know what to do, is it him or is facebook literally bugged out?! he has also deleted fb a few times to 'ease' my mind but recently got it back to look at cars etc.

That only woks if you're engaging with something, if you engage with nothing then the alogrithm is dumb and will just keeping sending options based on what it does know about you, e,g you're a bloke, so cars and women

Op head over to reddit love after porn subrredit . Check our omar minwhalla secret sexual basement/integrity abuse.

Just because something is considered normal and common doesn't make it something you have to tolerate in your relationship.

@PietariKontio Yes you're right, I was just making the point that 'engaging' with something just requires letting it play or pausing your scrolling long enough that it will assume you're reading/looking closely.

Eg - I love Supernatural so fb thinks I'll like any series similar so goes thru phases of vampire diaries (never seen it, don't care), Buffy (boring) & things related to those actors - I don't engage in any way at all so it will switch to another series & I'm flooded with that, but all along the same lines. But it works off the fact I will watch Supernatural reels, the only way that stops is if I stop. So if he's still getting thirst traps & is using fb regularly, it's cos he looks at them

Buffy (boring)

YABVVU!

@OneTC 🤣 c'mon now, Sarah Michelle Geller vs Jensen Ackles?

Being together 24/7 outside work doesn’t sound particularly healthy, even leaving aside all the other stuff. Do you ever see friends, or family without him? Does he?

He doesn't need to be clicking on that content or actively searching for it. If he merely pauses over an image or video as he scrolls through, the algorithm will notice and send more of that type of content. To be fair, there's a lot of it out there. Sex sells.

I'd be highly surprised if my DP didn't pause over those types of images. I frequently stop scrolling to watch a hunky guy chopping wood, sometimes with his shirt off! As humans, we find certain aesthetics appealing.

But so what?! For the life of me I can't understand why the reels on his social media is such a huge issue if you trust your partner. It smacks of being incredibly insecure.

You don't want an "unaided opinion" - whatever that is. You seem just to want people to validate you.

And what has people's age got to do with it?

And if you have to argue about privacy in a RELATIONSHIP where you have children, there is an issue. If OP believes her partner isn’t respecting the mother of his children and has proved he hasn’t done so in the past, she has every right to go through his phone.

No she does not!

@KrisAkabusi Ok sassy pants

I know you're pregnant and stressed, but if the sexes were reversed you'd be torn to shreds.

And for what it's worth I love thirst-trap reels about Taron Edgerton amongst other hot celebs. Doesn't mean I don't love or fancy my husband and it's not cheating.

@PinotPony Every relationship has different boundaries and those are OPs..

ok.. and that's YOUR relationship. do you not realise everyone has different boundaries?

good for you!

I came here to pretty much say this. I cannot imagine needing to scroll through my partner's social media accounts, who has the time or headspace for that? 🤯

Stop looking at his phone. Everyone is entitled to privacy.

I would be pissed off if anyone went through my phone, then chastised me for it.

Especially reels. They are generally targeted at age and gender and if you watch them for long enough they go from one subject to another not necessarily linked subject matter.

In your first post you say "since you've had access to his accounts/social media", how did this come about, did you ask for access? If so, why?

Does he have access to yours?

Why do people focus on the wrong thing?
OP if he's a sleaze then get rid.

What’s a “thirst trap reel”

is he watching people drinking water, or is it code for porn? Can you even get porn on FB?

Or are we thinking videos a la Denise Richard’s in Wild Things?

have you checked his browser history for actual porn?

Yes and that's fine.

You leave the relationship if your partner keeps stepping on your boundaries. You don't control what he does, what he watches or anything else that descends into a row and you certainly don't have to right to go through other people's phones when you want. Nobody owns the other. It's not a good environment to force kids to live in.

Why did you choose to have a baby with this bloke if you don't trust him and have really nasty arguments with him?

Looks like they both have a lot of animosity towards each other and would have split up but now there are children in the mix there is resentment, suspicious, deviousness and manipulation going on.

A relationship won't last under all of that strain and hopefully before the children don't suffer at being caught in the middle.

Why are you checking his phone/Facebook? That’s not acceptable, and makes you seem very insecure and controlling, so you should work on that.

People have a right to their privacy, and it’s not up to you to control what your partner looks at. If you’re not happy and things he’s watching are dealbreakers for you, then you end the relationship, but you have no right to dictate what he does.

Being together 24/7 besides work is not healthy and that would feel completely suffocating to me.

Do either of you have friends or hobbies outside of the relationship?

As other posters have said, the more you look for and watch things, the more the algorithm will keep showing it to you, so it’s you that’s causing it to keep showing.

Also, what are thirst reels? I could Google, I know, but I have the feeling I probably don’t want to 🤷🏻‍♀️.

So glad I’m not the only one wondering what a thirst trap reel is 😂. Not curious enough to Google, though.

DrJoanAllenby Fingers crossed the children don't suffer.

So he sits on the sofa all day, he’s got previous examples of being a shit partner and you’ve got access to his SM accounts for some reason and check them…

Yeah this is not a relationship.