thirst trap facebook reels?

[Quackidy]

hiya, since i've had access to my partners accounts/social media i have noticed over the past year these sexual/thirst traps on his facebook reels.

i have spoke to him about it loads of times, even had some nasty arguments over it and he denys ever looking at any of that stuff. we had a recent argument over it about a week ago and i have gone on his facebook and they are still showing.

i'm am struggling with trusting him or the algorithm of these reels. i am currently 38 weeks pregnant and we have a 2 year old, it is quite simply hurting my self esteem/confidence a lot.

i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7 besides when he is at work and he isn't allowed his phone besides breaks where he is messaging me.

i am sick of the same arguments over it, i dont know what to do, is it him or is facebook literally bugged out?! he has also deleted fb a few times to 'ease' my mind but recently got it back to look at cars etc.

So, end your relationship if what he’s doing is unacceptable to you.

For the record, you don’t have boundaries, you have controlling tendencies and should probably be single so that you can work out on your self esteem.

I get loads of irrelevant stuff posted to FB based on my basic demographics that I have never looked at and I seldom look at reels - there's every chance algorithm is just going 'Oh, it's a male aged 25-45, we'll give him thirst traps'. As people have said, if you're opening them and watching them, it'll put them up again.

I have no interest in pages about The Big Bang Theory, Schitts Creek, 80s/90s nostaligia, bad AI pictures of sand scupltures of Jesus, photos comparing celebrities 30 years ago with how they look now, or reels about wedding dresses or hair dye jobs but they still pop up because it just assumes that as a 40-something woman I'll be interested in these.

A thirst trap is basically an attractive woman making a short video of her doing something - usually dancing around or trying on outfits. They're usually pretty tame, tbh.

And yeah Facebook suggests things based on what they predict a typical user would like. I get endless adverts for shape wear even though I've never in my life bought any, never shown any interest in them, and I'm a size eight so I don't need them. It's Facebook being like 40 year old woman must want shape wear. I've tried hiding them, reporting them, blocking the pages, everything. Nothing gets rid of them.

Noticed you haven't answered my questions OP.

If you are accessing your partners phone without his knowledge you are committing a CRIMINAL offence under the computer misuse act 1990.

If you are demanding he shows you his phone, you are potentially committing offences under the Coersive and Controlling Behaviour sections of the Serious Crime Act 2015.

Sounds like you are the one with the issues, not your partner.

I think that people are taking things a bit far with OP, even saying she has committed a crime.

As I said before, I wish I had committed the crime of checking my husbands phone, would have saved me 25 years of being cheated on online and a porn addicted husband, which I would not have chosen.

I did give him complete privacy. I trusted him implicitly. I wasted my life.

That really does suck for you. But it still doesn't make it ok for any random person to go through their partner's phone.

I guess I'm just saying that life isn't always just black and white, sometimes there is gray and only OP knows if she has truly overstepped the mark.

Hi, I have no idea why these women are being so rotten. I see nothing wrong with your post. I hope you are ok xx