thirst trap facebook reels?

[Quackidy]

hiya, since i've had access to my partners accounts/social media i have noticed over the past year these sexual/thirst traps on his facebook reels.

i have spoke to him about it loads of times, even had some nasty arguments over it and he denys ever looking at any of that stuff. we had a recent argument over it about a week ago and i have gone on his facebook and they are still showing.

i'm am struggling with trusting him or the algorithm of these reels. i am currently 38 weeks pregnant and we have a 2 year old, it is quite simply hurting my self esteem/confidence a lot.

i have no idea where he would get the time to look or even possibly yano... over these videos since we are together 24/7 besides when he is at work and he isn't allowed his phone besides breaks where he is messaging me.

i am sick of the same arguments over it, i dont know what to do, is it him or is facebook literally bugged out?! he has also deleted fb a few times to 'ease' my mind but recently got it back to look at cars etc.

I've started to get loads of this shit in my FB reels, women walking around supermarkets pulling their waistbands down to show off their fannies, a lot of videos from India of fully dressed people in alley ways having sex, women getting their tits out to 'breastfeed' dolls. It's constant and it's only been happening in the last month or 2, it isn't stuff I look at or ever has been and I block all the reels but still they keep coming.

I am from the fact that you've come on here to say that you're monitoring his social media.

That's not a part of any healthy relationship.

I’m a heterogeneous married woman and I had a few weeks of nearly naked women popping up on my reels too (but none on my husbands profile?). I kept trying to block them but didn’t work and then after my husband did some clearing of cookies or something they finally went. I don’t look at porn or sexy websites… so maybe sometimes they do weird things.

I’m sure someone’s gonna come along and tell me my husband was watching porn or something now…

you know

ok, i'll go sit in my bedroom with my kid when he's home from work.

If you are worried he is wanking over these reels which is where I think you were going with YANO, well rather he wanks over that than some trafficked woman on porn hub or something.

I wouldn’t be overly impressed if my husband was looking at women half dressed on the internet either to be honest but he isn’t interacting with them, it’s not a chat site or whatever. I would let this go, roll my eyes and get the ick at him being so immature.

Why do you have access to his social media? You shouldn’t be going through his account, that’s not normal or healthy behaviour.

Thank goodness Internet wasn't available when my ex husband was cheating.. I'd have drove myself even madder.. finding out how l did was awful.. but to do this would drive me insane.

'ok, i'll go sit in my bedroom with my kid when he's home from work.'

Oh dear what a sad reply!

Can you not see that whilst you don't deserve to be cheated on that he is going to be unhappy and have a roving eye as to what he sees as the grass being greener?!

What's more appealing? Sitting at home with the wife who has narrowed her eyes, pursed her lips and sits there with her arms folded her mind filled with suspicion or some bird on social media, jiggling her foods and smiling?

Goods not foods! 😂

you are clearly an older person who has no idea what they are talking about. if you think i was like that do you seriously think we would be together and expecting our second child next week?

again, you don't know who i am or what we have been through.

i asked for an unaided opinion on facebook reels, not my relationship and if it's 'doomed' or not.

he chooses to spend his free time after work with me. i don't force him... you sound like you're deeply affected by my relationship!

What on earth is a sexual thirst trap???

You know these algorithms are not perfect right ? They sometimes pop up the most random content, unrelated to your personal preferences.

OP you're becoming very unpleasant.

Poor man.

Basically just sexy women in very little in this instance

I have read all the replies to OP and it’s blatant it’s either all men who cheat on their partners religiously responding or very insecure women.

We are definitely in an age where the internet dooms MOST relationships, people have easier access to be sneaky or cheat on their SO.

OP didn’t ask for unsolicited advice on her relationship, she explained the context and asked if anyone else had the same issue with FB, a lot of the responses are unnecessary and you all seem to be offended over a relationship that isn’t yours which makes it blatant that whoever is behind the responses thinks that what OP is posting about is ok to do in a relationship.

I think the more you search, the more likely it is what you are looking for will come up, the red flags are that it is coming up IN the first place.

And if you have to argue about privacy in a RELATIONSHIP where you have children, there is an issue. If OP believes her partner isn’t respecting the mother of his children and has proved he hasn’t done so in the past, she has every right to go through his phone.

Yes, and every man who happens to be a dad has the right to go through his wife's phone whenever he wants, if he suspects anything?

Does she have the right to put a tracker on his car maybe? What about hidden cameras?

The OP sound awful, but you sound fucking unhinged!

@Hardlyworking Yeah that’s quite literally what I’m saying you took the words right out my mouth

One thing I've noticed with social media, tho mostly Facebook, is that the less I've used it; posting, sharing, liking, commenting etc. the less accurate the alogrithm is, as it has nothing personal to go on. I've not used mine actively for over a year, and my feed has defaulted to stereotypical 'bloke stuff' so F1, armed forces, 'patriot' pages, reels of the kind you're describing, even the flipping tory party (I had that Sunak flip chart video!).
My point is you can't rely on the algorithm's accuracy as a basis for judging your partner, you shouldn't be asking/looking on their social media to check up on them, and, unless there's worse things popping up on Facebook reels than I've seen, I'm not entirely sure why you get to police that anyway?

OP, just to clarify, does he know you are checking his phone?

Do you demand it?

Or are you doing it behind his back?

I'm a straight woman and all I get is naked young women and skincare stuff.
Not interested in either!
If he's looking for this content then yeah he's a sleaze and wouldn't be for me but the algorithm isn't to be trusted.

The algorithm isn't bugged, if they are still there he's watching them. It doesn't require you to interact (click, like, comment), just to pause your scrolling. Try it yourself with adverts, just linger over a particular ad/product a few times & it will tailor around those before long. By the same token you can manipulate it to show just want you want.

It will randomly throw entirely new things at you to guage interest, but it will go away if you don't watch them & scroll right past.

I got what I thought was a cute monkey video in my reels. It wasnt, it was monkeys abusing and killing monkey babies. It only took that one video and I got loads in the same vein. I have to block them as they come up without looking. They've pretty much stopped now.

It sounds as if you have far too much time on your hands. You can't keep him under lock and key after work, or police his Facebook like that OP. Leave him alone or you'll drive both of you nuts.

What have I just read 😂😂