People not showing pride in their homes

[Auburngal]

Talking about those who leave the front of their homes (owned) in a state.

For example there’s a house down my parents road who has an old fridge freezer on their driveway for 5 years! Don’t understand why people spend several hundred quid on white goods don’t buy them from a retailer who takes the old one for free or for £10. I paid the retailer £10 to take my old washer away and to recycle it accordingly.

Then there’s a house opposite me who had their bathroom replaced and left the old loo and other bits outside the home for several months. A decent bathroom fitter would take the old stuff away as part of the package.

Then another family down my parents road have old children’s toys in their garden- play house, sand pit etc. The kids are too old for these toys now.

Then are properties with hedges on the road and used as a ‘bin’. Unless the owners have mobility issues - then there’s no excuse to remove the rubbish from the hedge.

People spend hundreds of thousands of pounds on their homes but I hate it when they show no care.

People need to show pride.

I am a member of a community litter picking group.

This is a really horrible thread @Auburngal

Let’s hope you don’t have a

Bereavement
Miscarriage
Mental Health Crisis
Financial shortfall
Job loss
etc

Maybe you could be neighbourly and offer to HELP people who are perhaps struggling.

You literally have NO idea what is going on for other people.

I see the woke are out in force with all the excuses for the lazy toads!

Maybe the people whose kids are grown up, have kept the sandpit and garden play things for the grand kids. It does happen.

However saying that there is a family on the school run, who just lob their rubbish into the garden and I mean loose. Like finish changing baby nappy and just chuck it on the path. There's wine.bottles, old furniture, pizza boxes, tat, old drink bottles, food containers, a bra, pants, just randomly discarded over the grass, stone path and everything. I wonder what the inside looks like. And its not being judgemental, its worrying there are small children in that environment.

Surely you remove it because you want to remove rubbish from your hedge? Not because you feel you 'should'?!

Well done for being part of a litter picking group @Auburngal . How did that come about?

😂 Ok, ok.
My anxiety has just been triggered.
With the constant rain, our gas meter cover has turned a bit green 💚 and I had to polish it.
Also, there is some lichen growing on the outside paint on the house and a leaf is sticking out from the straight cut hedge.
Oh dear.
☕

Judge away. I don’t have clear access to the back of my house, the narrow passage at the side of my house is too small for my wheelie bin. It stays in the front garden alongside my garden waste wheelie bin albeit out the way neatly

If I was that bothered I could easily find out via the landlord register. But I’m not

Having pride enough to not dump crap on your front lawn because you can't be bothered to take it down the tip or organize someone to take it away, isn't the same as scrubbing you steps on a weekly basis

If you are a litter picker you presumably have some pride in your neighbourhood, so it seems a bit odd that you wouldn't extend that to your own home.

Some people are just dirty skanks.

These people should not have dogs if they have children. I can't imagine what some peoples gardens are like who have dogs.

I do feel sorry for people who can't tidy their front gardens because of genuine reasons but I know there are plenty who just don't care. I don't mean overgrown or uncut lawns, I mean just chucking random shit into it.

Also, litter and dog shit in the street.

@Auburngal , I guess what we do or don’t do in the comfort of our own homes unless it adversely affects another is no one else’s business. However failing to keep areas of your garden reasonably tidy and to not encourage vermin should be simple good manners because this does affect others enjoyment of their environment.
I feel sadly there is an increase of selfishness and entitlement in society in general. Most people could maintain their properties, those that don’t either are bone idle and don’t give a crap how they impact others a very few may have extenuating circumstances.

Our ndn owns her home and every year she spends hundreds on plants, planters and various gizmos and then let's it just deteriorate. So every spring she gets a skip and bins it. The front garden has what looks like sleepers just piled up the whole place looks like a junk yard not to mention the dog shit she doesn't bother picking up.
The first year she did it it looked brilliant but for the last four it's been a dump. She's a skank.

I try not to judge and I do understand the situation that could potentially lead to this. However, I sometimes think it would take so so little effort keeping that front lawn tidy or that window cleaned, even twice a year would make a massive difference. And I would love love love to help, but I realistically know I can't do.

I grew up in a house like those. Both my parents worked full time, not particularly house proud. We had a fantastic family life but I never invited my friends into my house because of the state of it, inside and out. It was just too embarrassing. And I never told my parents as I didn't want to hurt them.
As a result, I now keep a house that is welcoming for me, my DH and DS and our friends.

I'm not referring to the type of long-standing problems the OP is referring to but I do wonder if people are too distracted by their devices to notice or have time to tidy up rubbish or weeds at the front of their houses.

People need to show pride.

People 'need' to do no such thing. Nice for them if they do, likely to be many causes if they don't. The state of my flat at the moment reflects what I suspect is mild depression, but if I don't have the capacity to get dressed some weekend days I definitely don't have the capacity to un-hoard my home.

I know, look at the state of their nets as well. <adjusts bosom>

Someone in my village still has fake cobwebs from Halloween on the front hedge

We don't dump rubbish on our front lawn, but there is stuff we need to get rid of in the back garden and the shed. But when you're exhausted and overwhelmed with life and struggling to cope with your normal day to day tasks, it's so difficult.

We need to hire a van as there's more than we can put in our car. That needs organising - and paying for, money is tight. The hire time has to match up with when we can book a slot at the tip - more organising. The times have to work around my work, DHs work and DS and school - assuming he will go in on that day, which he might not in which case we either need my DPs to come over or DH has to take the stuff alone.

And we're exhausted, so the thought of physically moving the stuff, bagging stuff up, sorting it out for the different recycling areas is overwhelming on it's own.

And we have a plan. We know the steps. But we ran out of time last year. There were so many appointments and meetings for DS that we had to organise work around, up to three a week. All of which I made up missed work hours for. I was on the go from 7.30am-10.30pm nearly every sodding day last year (after DS was prescribed melatonin, before that it was 7.30am-12.30/1am). But yes, I have no pride and I'm lazy, just can't be arsed.

@EilonwyWithRedGoldHair you don't have to justify yourself to anyone and particularly not on here. It is none of their business how you keep your home (within the bounds of the law obviously).

I know. It just made me annoyed, and I'm generally annoyed today so angrily typing at a stranger on the internet gave me an outlet.

Fair dos.

And I do feel bad about how our front garden looks compared to our neighbours. I'm not blind to it, it annoys me. But I have other priorities.

Besides nobody wants me out there with a hedge trimmer at 10.30 at night. That would definitely be antisocial.

I live opposite a bus stop. I get a lot of litter blown into my front garden where people have finished their snack or whatever and drop the wrapper. I work FT and have two kids with busy lives. I'm not out there every few days picking up the manky wrapper that has landed up in my garden. I do it every once in a while and I'd like not to see it but I'd like to to get in the house and do the a-z of everything else more.

@Federiica

. I see taking pride in your home as quite an old fashioned concept, like scrubbing your doorstep every week

its not an old fashioned concept, it’s selfish/ inconsiderate and lazy unless you have a good reason for leaving it like that, sloppy houses annoy all neighbours and brings down the look of the whole street aswell as potentially affecting house prices…..do your bit