People not showing pride in their homes

[Auburngal]

Talking about those who leave the front of their homes (owned) in a state.

For example there’s a house down my parents road who has an old fridge freezer on their driveway for 5 years! Don’t understand why people spend several hundred quid on white goods don’t buy them from a retailer who takes the old one for free or for £10. I paid the retailer £10 to take my old washer away and to recycle it accordingly.

Then there’s a house opposite me who had their bathroom replaced and left the old loo and other bits outside the home for several months. A decent bathroom fitter would take the old stuff away as part of the package.

Then another family down my parents road have old children’s toys in their garden- play house, sand pit etc. The kids are too old for these toys now.

Then are properties with hedges on the road and used as a ‘bin’. Unless the owners have mobility issues - then there’s no excuse to remove the rubbish from the hedge.

People spend hundreds of thousands of pounds on their homes but I hate it when they show no care.

People need to show pride.

I am a member of a community litter picking group.

You have no idea. Teenagers judge scruffy houses.

Your attitude actually makes me laugh. What are you actually proud of in your life and why are you too busy to tidy your front garden up?

I have no idea why a grown adult would be encouraging and accepting their children to judge their friends on the appearance of their friends homes. I would characterise that as really poor parenting because that’s not an acceptable way to behave. Obviously if you judge others like that then you pass those values on to your children.

I was also thinking you were passing your values on for not being house proud and thinking of people who live around you.

I am talking about my own experience. I used to tidy up before my friends came round.

I actually think you are scruffy, your children will either grow up scruffy or be the opposite.

Carry on making excuses for not caring what environment your children are living in.

Living in mess can have huge negative impacts on the mental health of everyone who lives in your house. Yes, including teenagers.

And houses that are a chaotic mess can be very embarrassing for teenagers.

I have severe OCD and ADHD. Chaos and disorder are so triggering for me.

Kids do so much better in organized surroundings. As well as it's important to teach them how to clean up after themselves.

Ds 13, has complex special needs and very precarious mental health. If his room is messy he'll ask for help to clean it up because it makes him feel better.

Also I find it strange when people don't want to waste time cleaning. I waste time looking for things if my house is messy. When it's all in order I have way more free time to chill out with my son

The OP is Talking about those who leave the front of their homes (owned) in a state. not messy bedrooms.

Ironically they don't want to live in a messy house by having the rubbish in their house but it's perfectly okay to make a space they don't literally live in messy.

If theyvdid keep it inside u bet they would get rid of it properly quickly as it'd be a big inconvenience esp if there is hardly much room

So outside it goes where it can be ignored

I’d find it weirder to not use part of your property because the neighbours can see it and might be one of those people who are mightily offended by how you use it.

Anyway I’m sorry if my lack of condemnation is offensive in some way, but nothing that’s been said has convinced me that people who have messy or unkempt front gardens are horrible. I confess I have found some of the weird attacks on my home and particularly children really illogical and a bit spiteful. Luckily they miss the mark by quite some way. I wonder what drives posters to behave like that?

@TomeTome I can't be bothered to talk about it anymore. I just don't understand why people can't just tidy their front gardens up. You don't think it's important. So that's that.

My Grandad used to like his garden nice so when he died my Dad used to keep it neat for my Grandma. My Dad had a full time job at the time.

My Dad did the same for my Gran, as my dm did for my Nana @4610J

I’m sure your parents valued front garden tending so it was lovely of them to help your grandparents in that way. I’m sorry if you’ve got the impression from my posts that they shouldn’t keep their own gardens to the standard they like.

I do take a lot of pride in our block of flats, but we have two flats, whose entrances are next to the lift and the door to the garage. Last year when we were trying to sell we had awful issues with these two flats. One had decided the lift lobby was the place to keep her families shoe rack and all their stinky shoes. The other family decided to dump things in the lobby: mattress, mini trampoline, chairs stacked on top of each other. It was a huge fire risk and I was worried about the stuff falling on someone. We sent letters upon letters from management company and in the end , when they didn’t do anything we put it all in the bin. 🙈they both have cars but just couldn’t be bothered to remove.

I mow mine and two neighbours’ front gardens, vested interest, they wouldn't bother and the weeds would all blow into my garden. I also clear all the litter for similar reasons. When I moved into the largest council estate in Europe my daughter visited and said she was surprised their were no fridges or sofas in the gardens, not that she was stereotyping council tenants

You would have been comfier on a sofa with a fridge on the lawn to cool your wine!🤑

Very few people live on otherwise uninhabited islands but it seems there are those who believe they do.

Yes I expect freedom is a mindset and not attractive to all.

SecretBanta, haha, but eww! There's probably rats living in the sofa!

There are rats living under my neighbours decking but it's Ok because it looks nice.

We live in the street that is mainly occupied by elderly people or families with young children- so we are not Stepford by any means, but there's no clutter or rubbish anywhere or dirty front doors, it's mainly paved front gardens with plant pots full of flowers, occasional scattered toys etc.

Just live in street.

There's rats living under pretty much all decking, and sheds, anywhere hidden away from the elements.

It isn't. We had that 3 houses from ours and rats claimed all gardens around for playground. The owners changed for tiles after a while. I don't get how people atill don't know that eaised patio with nothing under is a rat hotel basically 😔

Urgh what a lovely morning to wake up to, sun out and it's warmed and you then walk out the house and litter on the pavement someone sumped their take away, cross the road and someone has dumped a cat scratching thing by the lamppost..no the lamppost won't hide it...meanwhile 100yards down the road is the recycling place but I guess the fuckers are THAT lazy they couldn't go any further.

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Oh don't be mean. They must have issues or are full of freedom😔 We are supposed to assume these are not lazy fuckers.

Full of Freedom🤣 That's not the smell of filth on the lawn, that's the sweet, sweet smell of liberation.

We had 'gardening' firms recommending that we pave our garden back and front. There's a significant problem with flooding in our street and more paving is the last thing that's needed, though I can understand why many folk resort to it.