To be shocked and embarrassed by my friends behaviour today

[bagpuss90]

Bumped into a friend today at the local Tesco’s . She was in a check out queue , I stopped to chat . There was a woman with a screaming baby in a sling and a screaming toddler in a trolley . The poor woman looked totally stressed out , she started to put her shopping on the check out conveyer belt (I’m not sure she realised my friend was in the queue) my friend snapped at her , told her she’d jumped the queue. The woman asked if my friend minded if she went first as she’d got two screaming children. My friend told her no and added she might have considered it if she hadn’t pushed in front . She then told the woman’s screaming toddler to shut up ! I might add my friend doesn't have kids and it would seem not much empathy either .

Jesus, not all women have a chip on their shoulder.

Just the childless ones...

🤣

What do you call it then? It's abusive

I find it hard to believe she told the toddler to shut up.

@bagpuss90

Did she ever want kids, could there be some level of passive aggression there?

Afraid this can happen where people don’t have kids - they’ve never had their tolerance levels stretched and have no experience to be empathetic.

Hopefully she didn’t have much to buy and you escalated quickly!

No it isn’t !wow you love to be confrontational don’t you argue with yourself I’ve got better things to do

Wtf?

and you remain friends with her 🤔

Hardly.

Anyone can be snappy if theyre having a bad day especially if someone has rudely queue jumped them.

She didn't murder anyone. Dark soul indeed, oh the drama 😂

You don't yell at toddlers to shut up unless you're troubled or at a push a frazzled parent having an awful day

Afraid this can happen where people don’t have kids - they’ve never had their tolerance levels stretched and have no experience to be empathetic.

Bollocks.

Whilst I agree that having children with you doesn’t grant special treatment or queue jumping, in the woman’s defence she probably didn’t notice your friend was in the queue because she was stood chatting. Plenty of people stand there chatting in a supermarket, blocked the aisles and it’s very easy to assume they aren’t in the queue. Also, if the woman has made a genuine mistake and not noticed anyone else queueing, she’s likely started to unpack her trolley and will have to take it off the belt again.

It sounds like your friend is a real gem and I can definitely believe this happened. Moral of the story - keep your eyes open for queues, don’t stand gabbing at the tills and start using scan as you shop 😅

That seems like rather extreme behaviour. Usually we know our friends well enough to know they don't tell random toddlers to shut up... Maybe you need to be more particular about who you befriend.

How old is she? Has anyone suggested this may be a sign of early-onset dementia? 🙄

bloody hell op you have started multiple threads about “friends”. From being CFs, to being annoying, to letting you down… it just goes on and on!

@SausageRollsWithMustard

If you haven’t had to change 13 nappies in a day, survive on 2-3hours sleep for weeks on end, been projectile vomited and shat on, had your belongings, sanity and personal appearance ruined to varying degrees….. it’s unlikely you’ll have the same empathy for a woman exhausted dealing with two small children. Without living the experience and having your tolerance for screaming children stretched it’s difficult for some to fully get it.

Some ppl on here are pure nasty with there comments to OP sure the friend was out of order a complete bitch but bloody he’ll leave the OP alone what is wrong with ppl

Afraid this can happen where people don’t have kids - they’ve never had their tolerance levels stretched and have no experience to be empathetic.

I mean this is stretching my tolerance levels right now

But still somebody quick let the childless women know they can't possible be disabled or carers or have an issues of their own

What an incredibly unempathetic post...

This woman sounds like a heartless piece of work - defriend asap:)

I'm genuinely embarrassed for you.

@KimberleyClark

If it’s bollocks then why did I encounter passive aggressive behaviour from some relatives and friends when I had kids, why did they tut and get irritated at baby crying, some disappeared entirely, some didn’t become close again until they had their own kids - then came apologising as they said they hadn’t a clue.

I didn’t say - all - people without kids, I said - some - can behave in an inappropriate and rude manner due to jealousy or lack of experience and finding kids difficult.

@dimllaishebiaith

Again, I said it - can happen - not always, but you do get some people who have no experience of dealing with kids, don’t want to know and are rude, unhelpful, arseholes like the ‘friend’ of OP.

Equally, you can get some without kids who are just lovely, supportive and able to deal with it when your baby decides to scream blue murder or have a poonami and vomiting session in the middle of a restaurant.

The former is very unfortunate, but they do exist.