To not want to give DD money to go get clothes?

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On her own?
She's 15 and has no real concept of money

She wants to go shopping with her friend to buy some clothes but I just know she won't try any of it on (hates changing rooms) will buy totally impractical stuff.

She loves vintage but in the way that a coat from a ' cool vintage shop' for £65 would be super cool but the SAME coat in a charity shop or carboot for £10 would be gross.

And yes I've told her a million times where vintage shops get their stock 😂😂

Obviously she is getting to the age where I have to just let her but I'm dreading to see what she comes back with, especially considering money isn't exactly bountiful right now.

I also remember my mum giving me £100 when I was 15 to go get school shoes, bag and a coat and coming back with a Shaun the Sheep bag and a tonne of CDs 😂😂😂

I will give her the money but I just wish she was still of an age I could chaperone 😂

Does she need new clothes? If not, why are you giving her money?

Why, at 15, does she have no concept of money? When are you planning to teach her?

I appreciate it’s difficult OP but this is a time where she needs to start learning to budget.
agree with her what she needs and give her them money to cover it. Make it clear there will be no more money and she will have to make do for however long you see fit. If she wants anything else or buys the wrong stuff she’ll need to fund it herself.

She absolutely does, she's had a growth spurt and a change of heart in a fashion style that I'm really glad she seems to be putting behind her, so am fully encouraging of a new wardrobe.

How about a monthly allowance and when it’s gone it’s gone?

You could still pay for her basics and she uses the money for any extra things she wants.

Of course she does in reality but a 15 year old girl with a decent amount of money in her pocket, way over what she normal earns through chores, with an excited group of friends isn't going to be savvy when it comes to picking out a new wardrobe.

I often get carried away when shopping and make shitty decisions and I'm over 40!

Like you said, OP you'll give her the money-just make sure she keeps the receipts or has the shop email them to her.

It's a lovely thing to go shopping with your mates at the age of 15 and feel really grown up stopping off at Costa 😊

Exactly!

Was supposed to be a lighthearted thread.

I remember doing the same thing like I said. I came back with a totally impractical bag, a load of singles and thongs from Tammy girl 😂😂😂

I vividly remember my mums angry reaction and I thought I'd done really well 😂

I remember around that age being sent to get new school trousers and shoes and came home with tiny skirts, fishnet everything and horrifically impractical platform shoes 😂

All immediately returned by my mother!

Good luck OP!

I give DD and DS a clothing allowance each month to a separate account only for clothes, rather than a chunk at a time. They're DD17 and almost DS16 now but done this since they were 15 and 14.
I still buy underwear, school uniform and necessary sportswear (not fashion sportswear).
DD makes a lot of mistakes that get worn once then she sells them on Vinted. DS makes no mistakes.
DD is being more careful now. Seems to work.

I remember having a clothing allowance at 15 and mostly spent it sensibly
I remember saving for Levi's and it's a learning curve for DD
As it's her first time I would give her say £50 with the promise of more next time if she spends it well on her " individual style"
Also tell her to keep receipts as she won't be trying things on
I hope she has a great time

Start small. £20 to buy something specific - ie a top.
If she buys a top and it's sensible (ie correct size etc) then you can up the amount next time.
If she doesn't then next time it's only a tenner.
She needs to show she can do it before you give her £££

She needs underwear, well she has plenty but it's not practical so I will have to give her enough for that and I might give her enough for a few top and jeans and see how she goes.

Give her the money. Its a learning experience. If she buys unsuitable clothes that's it, no more money to replace them

Good idea get her to write a list of clothes she needs/wants

I see this as a rite of passage at that age. I have such fond memories of spending all day in our local town clothes shopping with my best friends. And I do remember my (very stylish) mum saying once in Chelsea Girl ‘I don’t understand any of these clothes.’

take her shopping for the basics: underwear, jeans, t shirts and then give her an allowance of whatever amount you deem suitable for extras

my mum used to do this. Buy all the essentials (with my input, so the shape jeans I want and the right colour/style tops) then I’d have about £100 a season (year 2010ish) to spend at Primark and the goth shop and h&M on stuff for my ‘personal style’

From the age of 14, my daughters were given a monthly clothing allowance. I still bought all school related items though. They soon learned how to budget

Mine are a long way off 15, but I think I would give the money in smaller amounts and see what she returns with before handing over a big wad of cash.

Give her some money and let her go, she might surprise you and if she doesn't not a big deal really.

I'd not give her loads and also take her shopping for basics.

Give her the money and the advice and then leave her to learn and make mistakes.

Its a right of passage.

I remember getting money to buy school shoes. I bought the cheapest once and spend the change on sweets. When my mum saw them she made me return them.

Me and my friend had to cash her 2s and 1s at the post office. Then the shoe shop wouldn't exchange unless I had an adult signature so we waited outside the shop too scared to approach random adults to sign my receipt. The shop keeper ended up signing it for me.

Man it was long. I still think I owe my friend for that change.

I agree that you've got to start somewhere. Mine could be trusted to go shopping at this age, but they knew that when money was doesn't, that was it (widowed parent). They made bad decisions at the start age 12/13.