Car blocking crossing and hand signal telling me to go

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I'm walking to the Drs minding my own business with my baby in his bassinet.

A car wants to turn direction so drives into a side street to do it. The side street is a dead end and like all drivers they want to turn their car at the entrance to the road.

I stop a couple of metres from the crossing as the car starts to reverse into the pavement and goes up it a little bit. I'm unsure if the driver sees me.

The passenger winds down their window and hand signals to me to pass.... When they've blocked the dropped curb as well as are making my journey harder.... basically the car bonnet was facing the pram and the direction of the pavement. I don't see why a pedestrian should be inconvenienced by a car, especially with a bassinet.

Aibu for not following the orders/direction of the car driver?

A pedestrian was making it hard for a car to turn? So perhaps don't turn there and complete a three point turn in the road as what they are supposed to do. Why should a pedestrian be out out by a car mounting the kerb. ..

He shoulda waited for you to cross before doing the manoeuvre but drivers rarely do, they usually put their own needs first

Bassinet isn't that fancy a word is it? It just means the carry-cot bit of a buggy so OP was giving the context that her baby is still in a lie-flat pram style rather than a slightly more manoeuvrable seat buggy.

I mean I think she's massively overreacting overall but I don't think bassinet is an odd word

But from your diagram he found himself turning in a tight space. So if he was stuck and couldn’t not mount the kerb then surely you being stood there made things impossible? Where did you think he should go?

it wasn’t ideal nobody is saying it was. But you’re making a massive mountain out of a molehill. Just go around while he is stationary and blocking the road (so no risk from other traffic) and let him finish. Both can then get on with the day!

I struggle to put my double pushchair up and down curbs and so, like you, I will always look out for a dropped curb. If there’s a car blocking that path, I’d just wait for it to pull away again. If they waved me across I’d probably just ignore it and continue waiting or maybe say “it’s ok I’ll wait for you to go”.

so in general I do agree with you. But best not to get too frustrated with the driver. He just needed to turn around his car. He wasn’t parking there or dropping off a package (abandoning his car), and he would have been gone again once a space opened up for him on the main road. Sometimes traffic does block a dropped curb, eg if several car were queuing to emerge onto the main road. We just take our turn to cross when the car moves on.

I’m not sure where all the frustration has come from. Perhaps you were both a bit impatient…?

Never follow a passenger's instructions as they could be different to what the driver is thinking.

Never go immediately behind or in front of a car, their foot could slip off the pedal.

Next time just shake your head and wave them on. Only you can judge if you feel safe or not.

So he made a mistake driving into a dead end. To rectify that mistake he had to do a turn in the road, presumably road is very tight so he had to drive up the dropped KERB. At this point you appear, so he lets you go. But you refuse.

Nope I’m really not getting the issue.

I don't know if fancy, but archaic in the same amusing way as "pedal cycle" is.

Don't follow drivers instructions either.

I really don't think it is. I would put bassinet and carry-cot as equally in current use for the same item.

Several years ago, there was a car illegally parked on the edge of the street blocking my eyeline coming out of a side-street. I had several cars behind me beeping impatiently. As I was edging forward, a woman at the junction of the side-street opposite with no obstructed vision beckoned with her hand that it was safe for me to pull out.

I did so and hit an oncoming car. Very slowly but still. The woman then said "oh sorry, didn't see it".

Never again.

If anything bassinet feels more modern to me - only ever heard carrycot growing up but I think when I was pram shopping the product descriptions all said bassinet.

You are literally making a mountain out of a molehill.

1. he wouldn’t let you do it? So, stand there and wait, regardless 🤷🏻‍♀️ He didn’t actually force you to move.
2. yet he sat, waited, indicated for you to cross 🤔 … and you did move around him, you just chose to put yourself into a main road instead of the dead end the other way 🤷🏻‍♀️

I stood there, kept on standing there, he kept on gestering me to go, I told him it's ok, him and the passenger shouting at me, hand signals, he wouldnt move and I had to go to the doctor's. So yes, he would t move

Yes as there was a Mexican stand of and he already mounted the curb and driven towards me, I decided the best thing was to go in front of the car so I want in the direction of the moving car.

You know, all the driver needed to do was just move or don't complete crap turns in the street blocking pedestrian and car access

KERB

Or couldn't because, weirdly, for some bizarre reason, you chose this hill to die on. 🙄

🤣🤣

If you could drive, OP, you'd know that occasionally, drivers do end up on the KERB.

How do you cross the road without entering it then?

What ‘new road’ were you entering? The dead end? You were crossing that road anyway

Just how high are the pavements and kerbs in your area that you can't get off the pavement without using a dropped kerb? In my many years of pram pushing I never encountered a kerb I couldn't easily manoeuvre the pram down. Sometimes I even managed to get it up a step!

I work with someone like the OP literally will find a fight with anything, very tedious.

Nowt quite as precious as a an entitled mother and their crotch goblin 😀

OH MY GOD IT'S KERB

This - how do you know he WOULDN'T move when it sounds as if he COULDN'T because you were too close and refusing to budge?