Car blocking crossing and hand signal telling me to go

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I'm walking to the Drs minding my own business with my baby in his bassinet.

A car wants to turn direction so drives into a side street to do it. The side street is a dead end and like all drivers they want to turn their car at the entrance to the road.

I stop a couple of metres from the crossing as the car starts to reverse into the pavement and goes up it a little bit. I'm unsure if the driver sees me.

The passenger winds down their window and hand signals to me to pass.... When they've blocked the dropped curb as well as are making my journey harder.... basically the car bonnet was facing the pram and the direction of the pavement. I don't see why a pedestrian should be inconvenienced by a car, especially with a bassinet.

Aibu for not following the orders/direction of the car driver?

Op are you ok? You are really quite upset about a total non event. Yes the car driver was a twat for turning there, mounting the kerb and of course you don't need to follow their directions. In the same situation I might have just shouted out 'No, you go as you've blocked the drop kerb (you twat under my breath) and got on with my day. It wouldn't have riled me that much. Did the driver become abusive when you wouldn't move?

You encounter people like that all the time whether driving or a pedestrian. I especially like the older men who decide to stop and guide me into parking spaces as if I'm incompetent. Just let it go.

Fine. Don't go round him then. Stand like a lemon and wait for him to move.

@ColleenDonaghy not doing anything wrong?

They blocked the entrance to the road. They mounted the curb. They drove towards me. Blocked the dropped curbs.....

All because an entitled car driver couldn't be bothered to do a correct turn in the road

For goodness sake stop it. The driver is entitled to turn into the side road, they are entitled to turn around in the side road if they want. They politely indicated that you could cross, I honestly don’t know how you can see this as anything other than somebody trying to be polite. This is like being offended because somebody holds a door open for you.

Yes. When you walk round the car in the dead end rather than the bigger road.

it's really not hard.

How could he drive into you when he was stationary and clearly aware you were there?

You're probably right, I would have left the room a lot earlier because of you being hard work 😂
If you are wondering why you don't get a lot of respect, maybe it's you. Imagine trying to sound threatening on mumsnet... 😂

Saying they blocked the kerbs implies they were parked on them. It takes a minute, less, to turn a car. Even if they hadn't mounted the kerb, you still wouldn't have been able to cross right away due to the moving car in the road. Probably not a great choice of spot given they were close to the entrance of the road but certainly not the end of the world. As pedestrians we sometimes have to wait for cars to clear the road in order to cross safely.

I probably wouldn't have crossed in front of them either but I would've just waved or gone behind them. The stewing is disproportionate.

When you did go around the car, why did you go around the front and enter the main road doing so? I'd have thought going around the back of the car, and staying in the side road would have less fraught for you?

The car could literally just have said 'Sorry' to OP and quickly got out of her way and gone on their way!

No need for all this drama.

Yeah they tell you not to do that when you learn to drive

And she could have literally said "thanks, and walked round the car".

Only one party here creating a drama

You're fine to just ignore him. What's the issue? Did the driver have a go at you? Why are you asking us for validation here.

Yeah, I dunno . I'm with OP here. Maybe there are more bad drivers around my side. I have been signalled by a driver to cross the road because they have stopped for me but they don't see the motorbikes zooming past.
Unless the car wanted to go further up the pavement, they could have just gone on quickly with no drama in either side.

But you don't have limited mobility. Just a pathological need for drama.

Nor were you in any danger. Just walk around the damn car or wave your hand and say 'carry on, I'll wait.'

Maybe get a hobby or something because this level of drama over literally nothing is not normal.

Driver was in the wrong - but you seem very fixated on this non-event.

I think some people in life just look for problems

fuck me life must be exhausting

Love that.

It was either a minor detour of 2 or 3 steps, or just wait 10 seconds. It's not worth the brain space OP has clearly devoted to this.

Ignore what? I couldn't cross the road as it's designed to do

Ignore his hand signals

Just how many steps would it have taken to go round? About 20 maybe? What a fuss over nothing.

Well sometimes we do have to wait for cars before we can cross a road. Is this the first time it has happened to you? In any case, the driver politely indicated you could go first if you wished to. So you could cross the road or you could wait. The choice was all yours.

“Dumb fucks”
”men .. are easier to deal with”
“Weird women”
”zero brain cells”

This whole post is dripping with MRA Misogyny

I would make my own decisions about when it it safe to move, staying safely on the pavement away from a potentially moving vehicle would be my first priority.

I would never ever move on the say so of someone in a passenger seat, they are not the person in control of the vehicle.

I would have shouted to him ' I need the dropped kerb and your blocking it' he probably didn't even realise

Oh you stirred up a right hornets nest. The car driver should have completed his manoeuvre and got out of your way, giving you an apologetic wave for holding you up.
I hate this business of car drivers flashing or waving other road users to pull out or cross in front of them. If you have right of way use it, you can't surrender it to others on the basis of being polite or whatever weird reasoning these people have in their heads.
PS loved the mention of bassinet.